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IVF SEP/OCT Part 2- Get your Stretchy Leggings here ladies!

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Minster2012 · 28/10/2017 14:40

IVF buddies September /October continued, heading into November & wearing VERY comfy stretchy leggings & trousers (perfect for Xmas too!!)

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harry78 · 29/10/2017 09:13

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Starlumiere · 29/10/2017 09:14

Good morning everybody!

Filip sweetie I am sorry to hear about the result, however like DBear I am glad to see you are focused on your goal and searching for answers to make it a success next time. You go girl and keep us posted!!!

Dbear thank you for the support and recommendations. DH wants to be involved to and taking proceed too among other things. Helping witnvthe meds is a great idea will take this on board!!

As well as my full time Business role, I am an Ayurvedic Practitioner. I am taking Shatavari and Aschwaganda and on my last scan they could see 2 more follicles. Is it thanks to these herbs? Not sure but I swear by them Smile.

I hope everybody is well today. Speak later! ✨😘

RoseWrites · 29/10/2017 09:29

Good morning 😃

Filip so sorry to hear this. But like the others have said, you've got this 👊

Hardy I'm sorry to hear things aren't looking as hopeful. But you too have a great attitude 😃 I hope everything works out xx

minster your pup is seriously cute 😍 I want one! Did you get a good night's sleep? Or did you end up with a crying puppy in your bed?!

I'm on day 5 of stims. Not feeling bloated now at all. Which I should be pleased about. But instead I'm panicking that the drugs aren't working... I need to give myself a talking to!

IVF just feels like bouncing from one panic to another! 😂

RoseWrites · 29/10/2017 09:33

dbear congrats on the number of eggs! 😃

harry I hope you feel better soon x

Hardygirl78 · 29/10/2017 09:51

Rose, I didn't have a huge amount of bloating until towards the end of stims, peaking with the trigger shot. Like you I questioned if the drugs were working or if I was taking them wrong but they were working perfectly fine. Everyone reacts differently so don't worry, x

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 09:59

Morning all ❤️

RoseWrites I know the feeling. Half way though the injections on Friday I had massive pain in my ovaries, 15 min walk to the station was taking me twice as long, felt so heavy and bloated. Woke up on Saturday and could run a marathon. Straight away panick-what if didn’t inject myself right and ovulated to early?! Didn’t have much discomfort until the last day, just bloating. So don’t stress 😘

Minster I woke up to pictures of your puppies 😍 and I am on the mission now to stalk you and get to cuddle them 😆 we can do a swap for a month 😂 bcoz I am dying for puppy love but can’t cuddle mine as every time I touch her-I turn into Yeti and look like fluffy monster. So is it a deal?!? 😁

Filipinam loads of love your way. I am feeling same here, just waiting for that phone call so I can start my injections for FET. And now reading your post-my pessaries says 2 a day. Will be asking questions myself. Stay positive just like your are now and all the best for next try 😘

Hardygirl78 I know it’s not a scientific thing when they say “once you stop trying it will happen” and most of the times it’s medical condition that stopping us. But not long time ago this story on the news about couple. She couldn’t get pregnant. The ivf was not an option bcoz doctors said she didn’t have anough eggs left and blah blah and then she conceived Natually and had a boy and then within a year she got pregnant again and had twins or triplets, can’t remember, again naturally. Weird things happens. So enjoy being a mum for your daughter and you never know ❤️

RoseWrites · 29/10/2017 10:19

Aliona and hardy thanks for the reassurance. I appreciate it 😘

The drugs are so weird. Like you, I felt like I could barely move on Thursday and then on Friday I was absolutely fine... fingers crossed my scan will be ok tomorrow.

hardy like aliona says I know its not scientific, but I know people who "stopped trying" and then fell pregnant. My friend had three failed rounds of Ivf, two miscarriages, and gave it up and when she was a month away from adopting, found out she was pregnant. She then had another baby naturally 3 years later.

I know i get really annoyed when people say "it will happen eventually" and now I'm saying it, but I really hope it does for us all! 😘 xx

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 10:26

RoseWrites Yep. Hate that myself. All this “you will see it will happen.” And now all people at work saying “stop worrying it will work, next year u have a baby”. I know they supporting me but it’s annoying bcoz we here know that the chance of succes is not that huge. And then what? I will feel even worse and like a failure. That even with ivf it can’t work. But at the end of the day if we have nothing to believe in, then it’s not point. I don’t believe in “oh it will happen when u stop trying”, but I do believe in miracles. So let’s hope we all going to cuddle our miracle sooner or later 😍

dinksandbinks · 29/10/2017 11:10

Morning everyone!!

Fili and Hardy, ladies, I am sorry :( It must feel rotten. But I have to say that you seem to have handled it way way better than I could. Hardy your day out sounds lovely, I hope the autumn air will soothe your pain a little. Pumpkin walk sounds great fun! I know you’ve said you’re ready to move on but it is meant to take multiple attempts for IVF to find the right combination of drugs for you.

Fili It’s great that you have some frozen in reserve! As other have said your body is in a better place for a frozen transfer, so I have everything crossed that your next one is the winner.

Minster How was the first night with the puppy? How’s she settling in? She is unbelievably cute!!

All the cider and wine and steak sounds amazing!! I don’t eat meat but last night was out for dinner and desperately wanted steak lol. Settled for fish cakes, and sparkling water. Thankfully no questions from the in laws.

Aliona and Atik I think it’s really heartless in this country how miscarriage is treated! Take painkillers and go home... pfff. If I had listened to the nurses when I first called about my ectopic I might have died all they kept saying was “you’re not 6 weeks so it wasn’t meant to be”. Another friend of mine had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and almost died from blood loss, then got an infection and needed surgery. The nurses just shrugged when she came in the first time. Why are they so mean here??!!

I am only just awake (I know... Blush) so I haven’t read everyone’s messages in full yet. Hope you’re all having a nice Sunday xxx

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 11:21

dinksandbinks 😂 made me laugh “desperately wanted steak but settled for fish cake” if baby wants steak-give him steak!
I don’t understand either why pregnancy treated like this here. Like they won’t investigate unless it’s 3 miscarriages. What the hell?! Ok it might be abnormal embryo and nothing can be done. But it also can be low progesterone and 2 other miscarriages can be prevented! All this blah blah about nhs not having money. I had bloods done for ivf, then by the time they started procedure results “expired” as they meant to be 3 month old. Why the hell did they waste time and money taking blood first time? Grr

Minster2012 · 29/10/2017 13:21

Morning everyone! All relatively quiet here, uneventful night with DPuppy, little whimpers but DDog told her nighttime is quiet time & no accidents though I limited sleep despite clocks changing (if babies are like this my 2 dogs have been a breeze!) she's already weeing outside, feeling rather smug except she is pretty whingey the rest of the time but it's still only 24hours!!

filip 💩💩💩 bags for you on the BFN. For FET it depends on the clinic & how 'easy' your natural was, ours can be a month after. Then if FER fails, a month off then go again. Big hugs. I overall agree with hardy that basically what we do has little impact on whether an embryo sticks or not, just like each month of TTC you won't ALWAYS get pregnant. But Push on the progesterone, we have been told we have to have a progesterone blood test the day before transfer as our clinic won't transfer if your progesterone is less than 30 (or unless v close) as they think (not sure what this is based on, I need to ask) that lower than that is an environment that is not conducive to receiving an embryo so it "would waste" an embryo below that level. They actually cancel the whole thing & start a new cycle. Which is rubbish & scary as hell but there must be something in it.

dbear our clinic says lining has to be 8-10mm on a scan the week before a FET is meant to be, then they introduce tablets to take it thicker the last week but don't usually scan right before as long as it is 8-10mm the week before (but this is for FET). Our FET has been put back as my friends lining was 5.5mm on the scan so we had another scan then 7.8 now have another scan on Monday where it should be ok then the pessaries have to be introduced for a week but as long as it's over the 8-10 on Monday they won't scan the week before.

I've said to my friend though, no matter what we do, it could all look great, she's had 2 easy pregnancies before so we know she can get pregnant and yet the embryos might not thaw well, might not hatch, might not implant, might not be good enough, it just might not work at all and we might never know why & that's why IVF is so hard. But there's a chance it might just work 🐣

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Hardygirl78 · 29/10/2017 13:24

Dinks, I probably come across as defeatist and expecting it to work first time but I don't think I can do it again. It isn't just the IVF, it's everything for over 4 years. We've had two miscarriages, tried complementary therapies, metformin, Clomid, using OPK's, going for the relaxed attitude, dtd every other day, dtd every day, legs in the air, pillow under my bum - pretty much tried it all! I'm just done with it. I knew from what I'd read that the first go at IVF is like a trial run to see how your body reacts.

I suppose it's different for us because ee already have a beautiful, funny, lovely 8 yesr old. If we didn't have her I'd be moving heaven and earth but I want to properly enjoy her and stop putting restrictions on myself.

The forest walk was lovely, just what we needed.

Hardygirl78 · 29/10/2017 13:42

On a completely random note, we have french doors at the back of our kitchen which DH has open. I'm sitting at the other side of the kitchen with a cuppa and he has just walked in, looked down at the floor and there's a robin walking about the middle of our kitchen floor. It was so tame, we managed to coax it back out of the french doors and it just sat on top of the door looking at us.

Maybe I'm destined to keep birds, not babies!

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 13:48

Hardygirl78 Or, as my boss who believes in angels, wild say it’s a sign for you that things will get better x

Minster2012 · 29/10/2017 13:55

Sorry dinks totally missed your post, so sorry! In fact I think it missed a few posts off when it came up so I'm really sorry to all for looking ignorant. So funny!!

I agree with Aliona, if baby wants steak then give them steak!! I'm pretty sure I may have eaten & drunk enough for 2 anyway despite not being pregnant 😱

A lot of ppl say it takes 3 IVFs to get the tweaking right of the drugs & if you get regnant before that you are very lucky. Obviously we all hope that's not true but unfortunately that's what I seem to keep reading

So jealous of a pumpkin walk!!! I tried to get FH to get a pumpkin so we could carve it last night & he was having none of it 😞

In puppy related news I can't move now as DDog & DPuppy snuggled up together properly for the first time with DDog sharing his face cushion & in I get up they will move....damn it!! But it's great 😁🐶I'll stop with the dogs after this!!

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Minster2012 · 29/10/2017 13:56

A robin that's ace! Christmas good luck!

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Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 13:57

Minster2012 Haha yes u ignored my post and I am still waiting on your answer “deal or not deal on the swap” 😤😂

Minster2012 · 29/10/2017 14:23

Oops sorry Aliona, you can definitely have cuddles, maybe not a month, maybe 2 weeks whilst I go away on holiday next year & leave DH in charge of dogs, last time I did that DDog stank when I came back & looked at me like "don't EVER leave me with just him again, he can't even look after himself!!!"

That would be a deal!!

DDog doesn't moult which is great so you won't look like a yeti, but DPuppy might be more the size of a yeti by then if her laws are anything to go by!! I've just carried her to my local pub for free puppy cuddles to socialise her so if you weren't the other side of the country yeah definitely!! 😁

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Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 14:29

Minster lol I don’t need a month of cuddles, as long as you keep mine for a month of maulting 😂😘

dinksandbinks · 29/10/2017 18:44

Aliona and Minster I haven’t eaten red meat for maybe 10 years... but I still really want it!! I also desperately want chips and gravy - a lot less classy 😂

Rose I had a similar experience to others, one day I’d feel like a walrus the next I’d feel like superwoman. The joys!!

Hardy that sounds like a really long, arduous journey. I can totally see why you’ve made that choice. The little robin story was lovely! My mum would tell you it’s an angel, too! She would say he’s come to say “it’s ok”. Sometimes my giant, crazy superstitious family is weird but they always come up with words of comfort. Anyhoo, yeah, I think if I were you I’d do the same in the circumstances. Glad the pumpkin walk was good (darn there are no pumpkin icons!). I find forests really healing places and autumn is so beautiful and atmospheric xxx Flowers

Aliona My cats are shedding, everywhere. They just have to move and you see the fluff trail behind them!! Even the chickens are shedding but thankfully they are outside!!

I have been working most of the day :( Ready for stinky trip to stinky London (sorry Londoners!! but you can’t deny the black bogeys!!). Had a brief potter in the garden and put my hand in a load of nettles!! Owww.

Btw I never had any lining checks... or progesterone checks. Do you know in advance if you need these or are they something clinics normally do? I’m on progesterone until 10-12 weeks (fingers crossed) but they never said why. Oh well!

xxx

Scotslass01 · 29/10/2017 19:17

Hello all,

So sorry I've not been in contact. There has been a lot happening and I've tried to catch up.

Filip & Hardy I am so very very sorry ladies. What a total bummer. I'm gutted for you both. I don't know what to say 😞

Minster I'm also sorry things have been not been good for you. You have been through so much and you deserve a break.
Your puppy is absolutely gorgeous! Cuteness on another level.

Rose I hope the drugs are going ok. It's such a lot for your body to go through. Stay strong keep your chin up.

Dinks How are you doing hunny? I was sorry your scan didn't go as you'd hoped. It did seem quite early for a scan. Fingers crossed the next one is better.

Hello to all the new ladies that have joined since I popped in last and to everyone else.
I'm trying to catch up but there is so much so sorry if I haven't done individual replies to all.

X

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 19:24

dinksandbinks Maybe your vegetarian days are over 😋😋
I always jealous of those who live outside London but at the same time can’t get away from here. It’s not that bad 🙃
Reading this posts really helpful, as now I have 1000 questions to ask about progesterone when before I didn’t have a clue it matters!
As for shedding )) well.. she doesn’t drop a single hair throughout the year but in spring and autumn, for about 1.5 month I want to give her up (to minster) 😂😂 see for yourself, 5 min of brushing

Scotlass!! Was thinking about you all day. How are you feeling?!

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Scotslass01 · 29/10/2017 20:09

Hey Aliona
I'm ok ta. Feel totally shattered and go through wee spells of feeling really iffy. If I don't eat at regular intervals I feel faint and shaky but so far nothing major.
That's me 6w3d. Have my EPS a week tomorrow. I'm hoping that shows all is ok.
Hope you are well. X

Aliona19 · 29/10/2017 20:16

Scotslass01 It’s crazy how something so tiny inside you can make you feel sooo tired. Always thought that you would be tired 7+ month pregnant with all that pressure and weight but nope, 5/6 weeks and it’s exhausting!! Well I hope you being positive though, it’s all part of lovely journey that is ahead of you 😘

Minster2012 · 29/10/2017 21:44

Ha!!! I pop out for the day &come back & loads of giggles to comeback to!!

scotslass so glad all is still well, it’s great to hear little bean is good and putting pressure on you as to be fair that means all is good but yes another 34 weeks of feeling meh & worse seems an awful long time!! But of course worth it! You may be the first baby pic of the thread! Thanks, another scan tomorrow to check the lining & hopefully that means (subject to progesterone test!) we are good to go next week! We’ve given up planning 🙄

dinks I genuinely cannot imagine a meatless life & im very sorry if anything about shooting/gundog makes you uneasy I appreciate that not everyone agrees with it & different lifestyles & all that. Could not give up meat or bacon or anything like myself tbh!! I think DH would think his life is over (though I cooked a veggie curry on Friday which went down well so we have meat free days!)

Aliona genuinely just wow at that fluff, that’s like the size of a toy poodle!! See that’s why I choose dogs that don’t moult!! 😱😱 the ironic thing is that I end up as a dog sitter for other people’s dogs who moult like yours and I just end up hoovering all the time whereas my old house was a fluff free zone before I looked after other people’s dogs!! (No yeti dog is not staying for spring & autumn moulting season!!)

dinks we only found out about this other progesterone blood test the other day, now that’s the next thing to worry about after tomorrow’s scan as that could derail the whole thing

dbear have you had any more news on your embies?

star how’s injecting??

Theses threads are really helpful!!

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