IVF SEP/OCT Part 2- Get your Stretchy Leggings here ladies!

[Minster2012]

IVF buddies September /October continued, heading into November & wearing VERY comfy stretchy leggings & trousers (perfect for Xmas too!!)

And the food! 😬

Hm.. imaginary girlfriends, Star?! 😋😋 where is everyone?!? 😅 I am glad someone is enjoying time out. I just can’t leave sofa. Dog is not happy, sending me subliminal messages abt walkies

Rose good to hear you stayed away from painting process. Same here, he wants to tell his dad and I am against it as my family doesn’t know

Minster all this delivery business is getting on my nerves. I had to take day off to get my pills. And they refuse to send it to my work address. There should be a better way of doing it. Glad it sorted. As for vasectomy, I guess they can remove swimmers surgical way or undo vasectomy 🙃

Star - nice afternoon tea! Enjoy :)

Minster he had a vasectomy when he was with his ex-wife (i'm sure there is a mumsnet acronym for ex-wife?!) anyway, he had one done a while ago, and then when we got together he said he wanted to get it reversed so we could have children. He said this on about date 3! :)

He had a reversal about 6 months after we got together at a clinic which (apparently) had a 97% success rate, so we just assumed it would work. It was an absolute shock to be told that it hadn't worked. We then had it done again (goodbye another £3.5K!), with lots of reassurance from the surgeon that this time it would work. Lo and behold, it didn't work the second time either.

However, a tiny amount of sperm gets through. Not anywhere near enough to get me pregnant, but enough that they can do ICSI.

I think if none got through, or if we hadn't bothered getting the reversals done, then they would have used a massive needle to get it out "at the source". Thankfully they don't need to do that, and we have enough sperm frozen that when it stops coming through (which apparently it will do at any day), we can use frozen stuff.

Sorry - very long answer to your question minster! :)

Aliona you’re so funny! I was thinking the same though! star looks fab!

rose no that’s exactly what I was wondering, god how annoying for you to have had it go wrong twice! Can you ask for a refund??? Genuinely asking that seriously!!

Minster I'm with you on the refund front! If memory serves, we paid a tiny bit less the second time (we are taking a couple of hundred pounds). You'd think it would be a lot cheaper or free!

When it didn't work a second time, I was cross at the surgeon for getting our hopes up, and devastated at what the failure meant, that I never wanted to see him or the clinic again.

Although i did complain about the clinic immediately after the second op (before we knew the results) as my OH woke up as his scrotum was being stitched up as they messed up the sedative... not what you want to happen!🙈

All in all it was quite a shit time!

But we don't regret getting it done, we were just the unlucky 3% for whom reversals don't work...

Onwards and upwards 😃

whatwot dats my 3Rd time too rly nervous tho its it's last tru nhs..

😱😱 only a few hundred off???!! Crikey!

Well let’s hope that’s it for now!!

Atikakck I know exactly how you feel, hope third time's a charm for both of us! I don't know if I can handle the emotional roller coaster again.

So some girls here allowed 3 cycles.. I am allowed only one on nhs. Some people not allowed any on nhs.. what the hell. Who and and how they decide who is lucky enough to get a chance?? That is rubbish. I know life is unfair but come on!

3 through NHS? Wow! I have no idea how many I’m allowed, never asked!

Morning ladies!

Woke-up with my AF, so starting stimming tomorrow! 😬

Atik all the best for your appointment today seeetie 😘

Welcome whatwot and good luck with it all 😃

Rose I am glad you stayed away from painting 😃. How are you feeling today?

Aliona Asda was great to get my meds and relatively cheaper. Don't you have one close to where you live? Friday is looming honey pie, so close for you now! 😬

Minster you are so brace bit asking your friend all the time! You do make me laugh with Aliona on the perception you have a of me 😂😂😂😂

Scots and Harry how are you ?

I am excited and nervous at the same time 😜.

2c degrees here, absolutely freezing but lovely sunshine!

Have a lovely day everybody!
XXX

RE: my afternoon tea, the place and company were splendid, the food however was utter rubbish! It meant I did not eat much so not a bad thing! 😜 Booking a Spa for Friday 😜

aliona we had 4 tru nhs BT wen they did egg collection Ave got ohhs so they cudnt do transfer BT dat was count as one... They a had frozen with didn't work cz we was stupid nd straight away after transfer we played abt in bed.. They another transfer did work BT a was dat stupid dat a was cleaning all house nearly felt like ma heart will pop out.. so a did miscarriage just one day b4 6week scan... Nd nw we doing our last..nd hope it's work cz am abt to stay all the time in bed lol plus our lining showed nearly 10mm from first scan wen a started tablets.. Will c how much is today. BT just hv dis stupid feeling it's shrink or didn't grow at all

Atik I think u only allowed max 3 cycles on nhs. U saying 4. But when u do ivf and fresh transfer and then frozen-that classed as try one. So you probably allowed 3 as well.
Stop overthinking if it didn’t grow or shrank, you will know result very soon. I thought I was very pessimistic 😅 u stealing my crown. What time your appointment?

atik I agree with Aliona, relax and it will fine, go with it, stressing won’t help, will make it worse!

Trust me, I’m DYING to ask my friend more, I know she’s being quite sickly on the meds, but trying to keep things down, she’s seeing it as a power on through, we just wish we knew if it was working so as to give us the boost. We could if we tested early but we won’t as her work schedule, and my DH’s mean we can’t all be together til next weds so that’s just the way it is. But I really want to know everything. But won’t I don’t know I can’t giggle so it’s for the best

Ha!! I can’t giggle!! Can’t GOOGLE

aliona after egg collection wen a was supposed to have fresh one a cudnt cz a had ohhs BT they counted dis as first go cz still even dat a didn't had transfer den a had frozen den again frozen nd nw another frozen we tort we had only 3 cz our clinic sed it's 4 tru nhs nd we sed dat guns b our 3Rd BT then they explained to us dat De "fresh" counted too even dat a didn't had tho

So a dnt fink so ma lining grow cz was a fink 8.1mm....nw a need take 6 tablets a day... Nd they sed transfer shud b on De 22nd xxx

Atik 22 of dec?! Just b4 xmas. That’s when magic happens 🙃 so let’s hope it will be your time 😘

aliona not December lol dis month nd on De 16th a need start pessaries nd injections xx

Also Atik
“3 full cycles of IVF/ICSI should be provided where the female partner is aged 39 and under. A full cycle of IVF/ICSI has been clearly defined as one in which 1 or 2 embryos are replaced into the womb as fresh embryos (where possible) with any remaining good-quality embryos frozen for use later. When these frozen embryos are used, this is still considered to be part of the same cycle.

Maybe different clinic count things differently but that what it says about nhs ivf

Atik u confusing me 😂 u said transfer on 22 December. Now it’s 22 November?! In 1.5 week? But if transfer 22 November why pessaries only a month after? I am lost

Atik this is great news! How re you feeling and yes will it be November or December?

Minster - did not mean to write you are so BRACE but rather you are so BRAVE lol lol lol. You are doing well sweetie

I have now my calendar and my first scan will be Friday! It is all go go go!

atik that’s great news! See, it’s going really well for you, now you can stop worrying, all systems go for 22nd Nov. Do you not take pessaries before transfer though? I agree with Aliona, it seems weird!

star I’m not brave at all, trudging through the days!! And you too have it all going on now!! That’s awesome all systems GO GO GO for the energiser bunny!! Yay!!

I think all clinics must be different, I mean, the whole 3 cycles thing, that’s so rare. A lot of ppl get 1. It’s postcode mainly. I may get another go at the EC & IVF fertilisation & freezing but as NHS does not support surrogacy we pay for all meds for my friend despite me having medical exemption so I don’t pay prescription charges myself, but even though it’s on my cycle, because the scripts are for her they have to be paid for, & as it’s a Surrogacy expense we pay for it. All a bit of a lottery really!

aliona a didn't sed December a just sed 22nd BT yh it's November they sed am ready now nd cz our embryos its day 5 nd were they do transfer free app it's in 22nd a hv on dis day. They just told me to take nw 6 estradiol, nd continue using cream with guna finish on Tuesday nd on the 16th they sed to start 2pessaries nd one injection a day for blood thinning

Oh I figured it out “De 22” you meant “on THE 22” that’s why I took it for December 😅 sorted

Oh I get it Atik, on the 16th of this month you need to take injections and pessaries!