Come on you slatterns, get your arses in gear, I stop posting for 2 days and you all start getting lazy................

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didn't see a single bump of a slattersn thread in the 2 days I've lurked. So here we are - a brand new slatterns thread to take us over to the new year (where I think we can safely say that one of our NY Resolution won't be keeping teh house tidy at all times )

I can officialy say that:

Paper lists of things to do are SHIT. They don't work, they don't tell you how well you're doing when you update to say what you've done, they get lost under the stuff still to be sorted, and they don't give you other unrelated banter while you're having a rest from it all

So - with that in mind.

Tonight (and I use the word quite loosely as I've slept the last 2 nights so suspect there will be little sleep to be found tonight) I need to:

• Get my washing done
• Dry it
• Iron it all (it's taking over the dining room!)
• Tidy and hoover the lounge
• Clean kitchen worktops
• Empty kitchen bins
• Put dishwasher on

May add more stuff later as I realise it needs doing.

FAQ - AHHH. Be happy you deserve it.

was rather sweet actually when he suggested a movie or dinner, really felt like he was asking me out for the first time - and we agreed last night that we have to start RIGHT from the start again (while trying to keep it from the DS's in case all that happens is that we properly resolve past issues but remain living separate but as close friends)

I just stalked you came across your posts from last night. It all sounds very promising - I mean from the POV of closing old wounds and moving on. If it happens to lead to moving on together with a healed relationship then so much the better!

I was joking about the thread, but do bear in mind that most of us use MN for the bad times and forget to post about the good times or the times when we were at fault. I think (hope) most people would recognise that and (eventually) understand that you are walking around with your eyes open and without rose-tinted specs.

FAQ really glad you gotthe phonecall alos dont worry about what anyone else thinks about you and dp ,you know whats best for you and your family.

FWIW me and dp split up in 2000 and I went through my pg with dd2 alone (he still saw lo's ) he changed a lot and we both grew up 9although he has his moments) when we did decide to get back together we faced a lot of doubters but it was right for us .

Oh I am waffling and tired just wanted to say if you want to go for it go for it.

I know you're probably right about the "wider" MN reaction. And I'm certainly walking with my eyes open now. I've learned a lot (about myself) in the last year since we split.

I just have a lot going on right now (no shit sherlock - just over 2 weeks until I move and just over 3 weeks until I start my OU course ) so don't really feel up to "fighting my corner" (so to speak) with the many that will feel that my decision is a foolish one - without knowing all the dirty on our relationship - iykwim.

OMG sorry for all typos I am so tired .

thanks CWWM - nice to "speak" to someone else who's done a lengthyish split and then got back together again.

I think all men have their moments. My BF is very happily married, and her relationship with her DH is very strong.........but she still likes the odd whinge about him LOL.

I don't blame you for nor wanting to stand and fight the might of MN - that is why I always try to rant and run... yes I am a cowardy custard

no, well I'm usually up for a good fight, and probably will do up to the day I move. But it's about other stuff. This is more personal, and I don't feel like fighting about my personal life atm LOL.

FAQ - YEY! on guarantor x 100's
(and tentative yey on things with exH )

tomorrow:

• everybody up done too early argh! & dressed
• breakfast
• playgroup with both boys (depending on DS2's naps)
• lunch
• afternoon activity?
• DH maybe home early....
• tea & bed
• maybe start laundry before weekend if feeling virtuous

ongoing:

• remove stuff from our room to reclaim it and find new homes for it (or get rid....) more done
• get rid of lots of stuff we've cleared out to freecycle/charity shop/rubbish tip started
• ebay lots of stuff, currently in a big box
• spend some time figuring out new hard drive thing for laptop
• get back on track with weight loss... ongoing
• write in DCs books about Christmas & DS2's 11month update (before his birthday if poss, lol) still doing

Looks like I'll have to think of some jobs to add to my ongoing list, lol.

Meant to be TODAY of course!

today:

• everybody up DONE too early argh! & dressed
• breakfast DONE
• DS2 nap DOING
• dishwasher emptied & reloaded DONE
• wet washing hung up DONE
• playgroup with both boys (depending on DS2's naps)
• lunch
• afternoon activity?
• DH maybe home early....
• tea & bed
• maybe start laundry before weekend if feeling virtuous

ongoing:

• remove stuff from our room to reclaim it and find new homes for it (or get rid....) more done
• get rid of lots of stuff we've cleared out to freecycle/charity shop/rubbish tip started
• ebay lots of stuff, currently in a big box
• spend some time figuring out new hard drive thing for laptop
• get back on track with weight loss... ongoing
• write in DCs books about Christmas & DS2's 11month update (before his birthday if poss, lol) still doing

Morning everyone, will be back later with my list. Thrilled for you FAQ on all fronts

thanks everyone, suppose I'd better do a list, what with nerves about waiting to hear from my vicar, and shock about the events on Tuesday night yesterday was rather a "non" day. However things have slipped here, plus I've got extra stuff to do..........so without further ado

I'm off to make a coffee to have while I write my list

ok I have coffee - time for a list

• Get ds1 and 2 up and out to school DONE
• change and dress DS3
• Shower
• Dry hair and get dressed
• Load dishwasher and put it on
• Pack phone up to send back to be fixed
• Ring Robert (letting agent) to check which bits I need to fill in on the form
• Pop form over to Vicar
• Washing
• Drying
• Ironing
• Town to post phone and put coin bags in bank
• Toddlers
• Dinner
• Bath boys
• Get more boxes
• Tidy lounge/dining room floor
• Put rest of the clothes away
• Hoover

Will probably add to the list as the day goes on LOL

Can i join please??

Have loads to do and could do with kick up the bum moral support

sweep kitchen floor
mop kitchen floor
fold and put away clean clothes
load up dishwasher
unload dishwasher when finished
put a load of washing on
Hang on clothes horse when done
Take/pick up DS to preschool
Get veg from tescos for dinner
cook meals for freezer for DD (with salmon)

Morning all ,welcome simpson .

It's so quiet here ,but nice aswell dp just gone to work and I am sat here in my dressing gown after a lovely bath alone .
Nightmare start to morning though I have cold dd2 was in a mood from been overtored due to the party yesterday and ds was in a mood too .

Get dc ready for school/nursery.

School run.

Bath

dressed and dry hair.

At least two loads of washing .

Find passcode for online banking.

Mealplan and online tesco shop.

sort out clothes for everyone tomorrow (early start got my scan)

tidy round room.

Kitchen floor.

Downstairs loo {MUST DO}

Sort out reciepts ,loose cgange etc in various vases that dp seems to like throwing them in .

Pick up dc.

Put baked pots in for tea.
Bath girls.

reading .

Get dc ready for school/nursery.done

School run. dpdone

Bath done

dressed and dry hair.

At least two loads of washing .

Find passcode for online banking.

Mealplan and online tesco shop.

sort out clothes for everyone tomorrow (early start got my scan)

tidy round room.

Kitchen floor.

Downstairs loo {MUST DO}

Sort out reciepts ,loose cgange etc in various vases that dp seems to like throwing them in .

Pick up dc.

Put baked pots in for tea.
Bath girls.

reading .

sweep kitchen floor done
mop kitchen floor done
fold/put away clean clothes done
load up dishwasher done
put load of washing on done
hang on clothes horse when done
take/pick up DS from school
get veg from tescos for dinner
cook meals for freezer for DD (use salmon)

Have thought of more!!

Make DD's bottles up
empty bins in house
Take out black bags for bin men tomorrow
get dressed!!

Can I join too? Need a bit of motivation

Get dressed
Get DD dressed
Tidy living room
Tidy kitchen
Clean bathroom
Hoover downstairs
Clean floors downstairs
Tidy bedroom
Make bed
Put away mountain of clean laundry
Put on load of laundry
Hoover bedroom
Empty all bins ready for bin day tomorrow
Take DD for a walk
Sterilse DD's bottles
Wash dog's food bowls
Sort out food in fridge

Waves to phee96

Just having a cuppa and massive bowl of porridge then going to dry hair and get dressed .

Get dc ready for school/nursery.done

School run. dpdone

Bath done

dressed and dry hair.

At least two loads of washing .started

Find passcode for online banking.

Mealplan and online tesco shop.

sort out clothes for everyone tomorrow (early start got my scan)

tidy round room.done

Kitchen floor.

Downstairs loo {MUST DO}

Sort out reciepts ,loose cgange etc in various vases that dp seems to like throwing them in .

Pick up dc.

Put baked pots in for tea.
Bath girls.

reading .

I have also pottered round and made beds and had a quick pick up in bedrooms ,and wrote on backs of photos which I have been meaning to do for ages .

Welcome Phee
Get up DONE
Get Dc up and out to school DONE
Make lunchesDONE
Clean sitting roomDONE
Clean kitchen/dining area DONE
Prepare lunch DONE
Wake DD3 as she is in bed since 7 last night
Remember to collect DDs and mindee from school as they have a half day
Make lunch

Updated and added a couple more

Get dressed DONE
Get DD dressed DONE
Tidy living room DONE
Tidy kitchen
Clean bathroom
Hoover downstairs
Clean floors downstairs
Tidy bedroom
Make bed
Put away mountain of clean laundry
Put on load of laundry
Hoover bedroom
Empty all bins ready for bin day tomorrow
Take DD for a walk
Sterilse DD's bottles
Wash dog's food bowls
Sort out food in fridge
Wash DD's laundry
Put away DD's clothes

Thanks cikecaka

Waves back to ComeWhineWithMe (love your name btw)

FAQ - how cool. Even if it turns into good friends living separately rather than getting back together better that can still only be a positive.

I have no list today. Am focusing on revision.

kinda.

focus
swim

DP has been tidying again and moved my hairdryer ,question is where ?? So I am dressed but damp of head .

Get dc ready for school/nursery.done

School run. dpdone

Bath done

dressed and dry hair. dressed

At least two loads of washing .started

Find passcode for online banking.

Mealplan and online tesco shop.

sort out clothes for everyone tomorrow (early start got my scan)

tidy round room.done

Kitchen floor.

Downstairs loo {MUST DO} done

Sort out reciepts ,loose cgange etc in various vases that dp seems to like throwing them in .

Pick up dc.

Put baked pots in for tea.
Bath girls.

reading .