How much are people giving their children for graduation?

[BerryTwister]

DS1 is graduating this week. I’m very proud of him, he’s worked hard and done well. It seems to be the done thing to give graduating kids some money, which I’m happy to do. But I’m wondering what the going rate is. Most of my friends in the same position are much richer than me, so I don’t want to ask them, because the money they can afford is crazy! Can people on here tell me how much, if anything, they’re giving their graduating kids?

There comes a point when youve grown an adult with a world of opportunities. Pat yourself on the back.

Forget monetising it. You cannot sufficiently reward them with any figure for what they have achieved. Tell them how proud you are of them and let them fly.

When they need a house deposit you can bung a few quid their way if youve got it spare.

Not from me. We did a meal, a present, flowers and paid for all the graduation stuff (robes, photos, hoody).

Each dc going to uni has cost us thousands.

@Sherararara thats what they’ve told me, and I’ve known them for years and never known them to lie to me, so yes, I assume they have.

I should add my dd already had secured good employment and was sponsored through university by them so had the shoes, handbag and car others mentioned by her own hard work! When she graduated from her professional course she paid for lunch for me, she has just now fully qualified (8 years total) and is taking me away, she is a lovely dd

We don't bave kids of that age but we do offer cash incentives for completing things, these arent gjfts aa such but planned incentives if we know they are struggling with motivation. I wonder if your friends had preplanned this due to their kids being a bit lazy or almost giving up a few times over the course.
I didnt get anything for graduating myself, just an average meal and thats about it, my parents had givrn me enough money jjst to get through it.
I wouldnt give a surprise cash gift but if i could see my kids almost giving up and ai knew they could make it to the end I might offer them something if they complete theie degree. Also if they had somrthing planned like a holiday or travel after then i would offer money towards that.

Nothing, as we didn’t give the oldest two anything and we’re both retired and living on the state pension now, so money is even tighter.

Nothing. We suported them through university. That's enough.

Never heard of giving kids money when they graduate tbh. Mine both got hearty congratulations and a card.

Mine didn't even get a card. They didn't get anything for GCSEs and A levels, either, they seemed motivated enough, and rewarded by outcome.

My daughter has recently graduated but studied part-time while working (nursing degree). We did not give her any financial support and it didn't cross my mind to give her money. We bought a piece of jewellery that she admired and we'll pay for her graduation photos though.

Nothing in cash. I paid for their graduation dresses and the gown hire, got flowers then took them out for a meal out. Both then needed to relocate to start new jobs so I helped out with that and suitable work clothes. All very expensive but in the form of support rather than a gift.

Lunch.

We bought ours a car and some clothes for work. Some of their friends got nothing, some got jewellery, clothes, holidays, cash. It varies.

Nothing. We took them each out for a super meal after the ceremony.

I don't remember getting money from my parents when I graduated but they did buy me a suit for job interviews. I imagine most parents help with practical stuff unless they are quite wealthy.

Isn’t that setting them up for unrealistic expectations though? I mean, if you have to offer a holiday or similar to keep them motivated to finish a degree, a) if they do drop out they’ve missed out on a holiday as well as the degree, b) it encourages them to stay on a particular track that clearly is the wrong one - not being motivated to finish is the symptom, not the cause and c) what about when they go to work and really don’t want to do that presentation - you gonna reward that?

Sorry to pop on here and ask my own question, I will be brief. DS just got his results and did brilliantly. Do we send a card now or when the graduation ceremony happens in November? Or both?

Nothing except for a nice meal out

I will have already paid tuition and living costs. I’ll be expecting a present rather than the reverse!!

Nothing, except a nice meal out.

For what?

I graduated snd went headlong into a simmer job

that sort of money would have me sat on my arse fir the summer

maybe its to help with a flat deposit? Or set up in new job?

my parents gave me lots so id never expect more - the degree is your reward surely ?

Both ??
its only a card dont over think the small things

DD is hopefully starting in September. I wasn't intending on giving her anything at the end of it. I think giving her money for food for 3 years, saving before she goes, paying her halls deposit etc is more than enough.

However, if people are loaded and can afford it then there is nothing wrong with them giving gifts .

Card now. Nice meal in November, maybe offer to buy a suit for graduation/interviews.

I might get dd a little gift to mark the occasion when the time comes - she is doing medicine and qualifying as a doctor will be a significant milestone which I would like to acknowledge. However, I can't imagine giving her cash as a reward for her hard work - the degree itself and her own personal sense of achievement will surely be the reward?!