How much are people giving their children for graduation?

[BerryTwister]

DS1 is graduating this week. I’m very proud of him, he’s worked hard and done well. It seems to be the done thing to give graduating kids some money, which I’m happy to do. But I’m wondering what the going rate is. Most of my friends in the same position are much richer than me, so I don’t want to ask them, because the money they can afford is crazy! Can people on here tell me how much, if anything, they’re giving their graduating kids?

My parents took me out for a meal and bought me some jewellery (nice earings) I wasn’t expecting more than that to be honest - cash was never a thing back then and my friends with kids graduating don’t gift big chunks of cash either.

Wow, it wouldn't have crossed my mind to expect money for my degrees! Achieving them, especially the second when I was very ill, was all the reward I needed.

Never heard of anyone giving their kids cash for their degree. I certainly didn’t

Nothing

i did buy them things they needed when they set up their own flat

@snoopydoopydo In that circumstance - no celebratory dinner either! Nothing to celebrate. I’m not sure gifts is the way to go. We paid for DDs dress, gown hire and photos. We then paid for her post grad professional qualifications and her living expenses for those 2 years. She had various celebrations along the way and we celebrated other DDs achievements too but if they are very different and one drops out, what then?

I spent twenty seven grand on rent in 3 years so a hug and a small gift was more than sufficient

We gave him some chocolates a card and a big hug. His brother made him a cake.
No plans to give him any cash. I do give him £20 every so often.

I'm another one who thinks this is definitely not 'the done thing'.
The done thing is surely to convey how proud you are, take them out for a meal and put up an embarrassing graduation photo in the lounge? That's always been the way in my family at least !

We took DS and his GF out to dinner. I did want to buy a gift but it would have been a couple of thousand and DH reminded me how DS gets enough.

I didn't give my son any money. Didn't even know it was a thing. I did get him a very small gift, but the celebration meal was the main thing. I don't think he expected anything more.

For our son, we went out for a meal and paid for a holiday for him (£3k). He didn’t expect it but was grateful.

Most of my friends have gone for a meal with their children and bought them a gift like jewellery.

Nothing and my parents didn't get me anything either. I was prepared to take him out for a meal but then he had something on the evening of the graduation so it didn't eventuate to anything.

Thousands.

well, that’s what we’ve given and still are to help them through Uni. I’d say that’s more than enough.

Nothing - we 'just went out for a fancy lunch. I know there were a few students who got expensive gifts, but we'd supported them through uni and helped with other expenses.

Why is it small minded? All your kid is doing is going on a beach holiday whilst living with his mammy! Oh, and getting pocket money from his mammy.

I got a laptop for my PhD, every degree before that was expected so no one was impressed (me included!)

When my eldest finished school I bought her a designer handbag for £450. This was to tell her how proud I was that she always went into school and studied hard. When she gets her results we will go out for a family meal.

My dd got a wooden engraved photo for her pic.

Nothing ! We've supported him for an extra year of A'levels because he wanted to change options and an extra year of Uni because he was unhappy at his first uni and wanted to change course and start all over again ! Over £300 a month forked out to help him for four years. We will be driving him up to Lancaster on friday and will pay for a nice meal after the ceremony. he knows we are proud of him but we are also bloody skint and have a younger child at Uni too who costs us a fortune !

No cash gift from us. We took them out first a celebration meal.
We paid all the tuition fees, rent and living expenses. I think that is enough.

I went to Bristol University and my friend got a new Mercedes car when she graduated. (I went to a buffet restaurant and got a hug).

Nothing, paid for lunch on the day at a place of her choosing.

Nothing it’s crippled us already.

My 4th graduates on Tuesday we have bought her a meaningful necklace. Her older sisters got jewellery too and her brother whiskey glasses. No money

We wanted them to have something meaningful from us.

Have they really