sorry been listening to dp rant.
He tried to talk to exh when he phoned to speak to dd. Went outside so dd wouldnt hear any of it. Gems to DP that I remember were
"No one asked you to look after dd" 
when dp was saying that him and exh earn the same yet exh doesn't pay for anything.
"Im not discussing my finances with you" when dp said 'we earn the same so how come you can't afford petrol'
"I budgeted badly last month" when asked why he hadn't paid cm in over 6 weeks (or even told us he wasn't paying it)
"I've been discussing with my father if I can save enough money to come up every 3 weeks" 
"I can't fix my car because it'll cost too much" DP tells him that the problem he has is £250 tops. He says "Im waiting for my mate to look at it but his wifes having a baby so i cant ask him" DP said "The same mate you were supposed to be asking back in April?" EXH "Yes" DP "He's very busy isnt he" 
DP hardly got a word in edgeways, exh is horrendous in an argument just rants on and on and on. Listening in made me feel very sad actually, I remember the days when he'd scream at me and wave his arms in my face, think I might be more scarred by it all than I thought.
Oh and then, and please be proud of me here, DD was talking to him and exh said 'So what would you like for CHristmas, what toys shall I get you?" 
I had to dig my teeth into my lip to stop me screaming "YOU CUNT! YOU havent paid child support but are pretending to be a good father in front of dd!!!!!!!"
I said nothing thank God.
Anyway, back to boners