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Need a bit of kindliness

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:02

Is it safe to post here without being jumped upon by complete strangers? The Mners who don't like the fact that some of us are not always happy have blocked this thread, haven't they?

I am feeling really stressed and anxious today and would so love to have someone put a kindly hand on my shoulder (metaphorically speaking) but when I tried for this yesterday, I was jumped upon a bit.

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foxinsocks · 01/11/2007 10:03
zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 10:04

really?

here is a lovely cuddle and pat from me then sweetheart...

xx

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:04

Feel too sick for the custard cream FIS, but the tea is nice, thank you.

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moonmother · 01/11/2007 10:05

Everyone's allowed to be down sometimes....

Puts a kindly hand on Dumbledores shoulder....I hope whatever is causing these feelings cease soon..

Threadworm · 01/11/2007 10:05

Here's a big hug for you:

----<

Sorry you are feeling down.

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:06

Thanks all, you are making me weepy now. But that is probably a good thing - releases emotions and all that.

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EffiePerine · 01/11/2007 10:06

It's not compulsary to be happy all of the time. Ignore the jumpers: some people seem to get a kick out of being unneccessarily rude.

EffiePerine · 01/11/2007 10:07
CatIsSleepy · 01/11/2007 10:08

poor DG...sorry you got jumped on...

(this ignore thing is getting quite divisive isn't it?)

Have a good cry...tis good sometimes

(then have a custard cream)

zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 10:09

you need this to sing today it is my song du jour

onlyjoking9329 · 01/11/2007 10:10

sorry you were jumped on
here have a cuppa and a hug

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:11

Weak

I have to do some cold calling today. It is so not my thing. I have to find a school willing to have me for a placement while I do a returning to teaching course. I have such low self-esteem, I find it impossible to believe anyone will want me. I will just be a nuisance. I am terrified of cold calling and trying to sell myself. The sensible part of me says just do it now and get it over and done with, but the first school I rang, which seems really nice, the head was unavailable and is supposed to be ringing me back. So now I don't feel I can ring any other schools in case the first one gets back to me. So I am stuck in limbo. I know the thing to do is to get the ringing round over and done with, but now I can't.

I have several other pressures too, right now, but I just thought I would write one down to see if it helps.

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foxinsocks · 01/11/2007 10:12

I don't think it was people getting a kick. I think some people were concerned and not everyone understands how phobias work so some of the comments may have made you feel crap but I'm sure they weren't intended that way iyswim.

zippitippitoes · 01/11/2007 10:13

you definitely need the glass have full song then...

only believe as disney says

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:15

I know FIS. I just wish people who do not understand phobias would butt out. I came so close to completely losing it yesterday, but I don't want to be remembered as the MNer who behaved like a 2 year old.

Why does it always have to be so confrontational though?

Good song zippi, even though I dont feel at all lucky today!

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MoaningMirtle · 01/11/2007 10:15

You poor thing. Get on the horse and ring them all, one by one. I hate cold calling because it's messy, you start down a list and then someone messes it up like this head by not being in (the cheek) but you can't wait for one of them to get back to you, you just have to plough on.

there there there

Threadworm · 01/11/2007 10:16

DG, I know exactly the sort of anxiety you mena. I would find that cold calling hard as well. And I would delay it, and then feel anxious and awful about not getting on with it. I'm not sure what to say that would help -- except that in all likelhood the way you come over on the telephone is excellent, much better than you fear it to be.

foxinsocks · 01/11/2007 10:19

I don't know DG. But I do know that feeling stressed/anxious/low can make someone feel that people are being more confrontational than they are BUT also, it's exactly the sort of thing you don't need (confrontation) when you're feeling that way.

Re the phoning - I find the best thing to do with a task like that (that you're really not looking forward to) is to allocate a time and force yourself to stick to it. So say, I'll phone between 11 and 12 and then I'll stop and have something nice for lunch. I would ring the others just to see if they have a space for placements - I'm sure you can visit a few and then decide once you've been round/had a chat with them.

I know it all sounds so easy written down....but in reality, it's so hard to force yourself to go through with things you fear!

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DumbledoresGirl · 01/11/2007 10:19

The way I am trying to approach this is that I have selected some schools, checked them out for size, ofsted report etc (they can't be failing schools) and I have told myself that I am going to go down the list. If at the end of the list, I have not found anyone willing to have me, I am going to approach the course provider and ask if they can help (they do find placements if necessary but it is not the ideal situation).

Damn this head. How long should I wait before ringing the next one?

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paulaplumpbottom · 01/11/2007 10:21

Sorry you are having a rough time.

OldWotzBat · 01/11/2007 10:22

Poor you
DG

Has your ds settled into secondary?

MoaningMirtle · 01/11/2007 10:22

you shouldn't wait any time at all till you ring the next one, you should just ring them all now; it's the best way. just because this head is going to ring you back doesn't automatically mean it's a positive, and if you wait and it isn't then you'll have to start all over again, even more demoralised

so now

paulaplumpbottom · 01/11/2007 10:23

Have you considered home schooling?

stleger · 01/11/2007 10:23

Half an hour (she says bossily).. If it makes you feel better - my dh asked my current employer if he'd like me to work for him. I couldn't even bring myself to do it myself! Good luck, we have just had to find a work experience placement for ds and it isn't my scene either.

EllieG · 01/11/2007 10:26

Hey DG - just read that other thread, and think people were a bit mean. Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed x