Ex refusing consent for son's private school bursary place

[Jonson2024]

Can anyone help?

My son (4) has been lucky enough to be offered a really generous bursary at a private school about 15 minutes from us, which would cover him for his whole education.

The issue is my ex. When we were together, we had both agreed we’d send him to private school if possible, but now we’re separated he’s being difficult. Initially he said he wouldn’t pay anything (fine — I’ve said I will cover the fees myself), but he’s now refusing to give written consent at all.

I’m feeling really stuck because I don’t want my son to lose this opportunity over what feels like spite, but I’m not sure where I stand legally.

Has anyone been through similar? Do I need to go down the legal route for this, or is there another way to handle it?

Any advice or experiences would be really appreciated.

Thanks for the message,
Yes it was hard work, I emailed over 30 schools in the area, took my child to lots of open days and found one who liked him and could offer a place, ironically my first choice came back to me!!! Because the father has no financial obligation to the child I was able to apply on my financial alone. He is also likely to try everything possible to sabotage the place so I don’t really want to go to court and have to disclose what I have achieved.