Anyone TTC after a recent early loss and wanting support? (Aug 26)

[Springcloud26]

Hi, I thought I’d start a separate thread for anyone who is TTC after a recent early loss, so we can support each other through what can be a really difficult time. 💕

I’m 39 and TTC for my first. I conceived after around four cycles, but sadly had a missed miscarriage mid-July at around 9 weeks, (development had stopped at 6).

I stopped bleeding last Sunday and have started noticing some cervical mucus returning over the past few days, so I’m hoping my body is beginning to get back into its normal rhythm.

I’m still testing positive on pregnancy tests, so can’t use LH strips to track ovulation yet, so for now, my plan is to get back to some exercise, eating well and have sex every 2-3 days. I’m feeling positive and hopeful but also trying to take my mind off the waiting!

If anyone else is going through something similar and would like to share the journey and support each other x

So sorry to hear about your loss, MMC is such an awful thing to go through. I’d love to join for some support 💕I know I’ll feel more anxious if/when I get pregnant again.

I’m in a similar position, had a MMC at 10 weeks (development stopped at 8 weeks) in mid July. My spotting has just stopped but I’m still testing positive on pregnancy tests. Feeling really impatient for my cycles to get back to normal, but trying to keep busy with fun plans and exercise for now. I felt so rough when I was pregnant I’m trying to enjoy a break from morning sickness. Still feeling a bit up and down emotionally though, a lot of our antenatal group from when we had our first are pregnant again so it’s hard not to compare.

I’m 36 and TTC #2 - our daughter is 2 and I had an early miscarriage before getting pregnant with her. I told myself I’d be more relaxed about the journey second time round, but that definitely isn’t the case!

fingers crossed our cycles are back to normal soon! X

Welcome @Pottingsheddays, I am sorry you have gone through this as well.

I’m also feeling impatient for cycle to return, it’s so frustrating waiting for hcg to go back down as can’t track ovulation, and the first cycle I used Lh strips, I conceived so really want to get back to using them. The only thing I have noticed is CM increasing, but I think it is too early for ovulation.

It must be so difficult with others having their second in your group, I hope you have lots of support.

You’re right it’s so hard to stay relaxed, I want to start swimming again but I started it the cycle I conceived, so I think it will make me feel sad knowing I would have been pregnant without realising last time I went. But also, I want to follow the same pattern of things I did last time!

How long was it after your miscarriage that you had your daughter, if you don’t mind me asking? x

Ahh I typed a reply and then lost it somehow - still very new to Mumsnet!

I’m keen to start tracking again as well, it feels so strange not knowing what point of the cycle you’re in. Definitely feel a bit in limbo at the moment. CM increasing sounds like a good sign, hopefully things are back to normal soon.

I had medical management earlier in July and the hospital said to call them if I was still testing positive three weeks later so might give them a call on Monday as it’s been three weeks and my tests are still very clearly positive. Even if they just test my hcg to see what level it’s dropped to that would be good to know.

The miscarriage was cycle one and then I got pregnant with my daughter on cycle four. So not long at all, but the months where nothing happened were tough as I’d seen so much about how you’re more fertile after a miscarriage (no idea if that’s true but it still got in my head!). That one was at 5/6 weeks though and my cycles just carried on as normal so it was all a bit easier to track x

@Pottingsheddays that’s a good idea to give them a call on Monday to check hcg levels, hopefully you get some answers!

Yep I’ve also heard you can be more fertile after a miscarriage, I’m trying not to be too hopeful for this cycle as I don’t want to be disappointed x