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Not pregnant after chemical

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 11:41

Hey guys, I believe I had a chemical pregnancy in December. I had several faint positive tests that got more faint over several days. I read so many success stories of people conceiving the month after a chemical so was hoping I would. I am now on day 2 of a new cycle so did not conceive this month. I am feeling really down about it and worried this might never happen for me. Did anyone conceive soon after a chemical but not the month after?

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Bex4567 · 20/01/2024 12:45

I had a chemical in December too I think faint lines on 2 diff tests then got my period...I'm 9dpo and bfn at mo I'm wishing for this month too 😪on month 6 of tcc and 37 so worried something wrong how long have u need trying for

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 13:37

Oh 9dpo is still early so you never know, fingers crossed you get you bfp this time. I’m now on month 8 ttc, the chemical was our month 6. I am 36 so also worried age is a factor here. My son is nearly 2 and we conceived him first month so this has surprised us. Due to my age already seen a gp to get tests, will be getting tested in February so finger crossed no issues are found.

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 13:37

Keep me posted on how you get on, maybe leave it a few days to test again. 12dpo is a good time to start testing for most people 🤞

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Angelselevenx · 20/01/2024 13:40

I had a chemical on cycle 2 which was April 2023 and still TTC now, on cycle 12 now although have both been tested and no issues either side. Hoping 2024 is our year 🤞🏼

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 14:08

Oh no, sorry to hear that. That sounds so frustrating but yeah fingers crossed you get you bfp soon. What stage of you current cycle are you now?

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Bex4567 · 20/01/2024 14:12

Thank-you op yeah I have the doctors next month too to start tests so worried they will find something they can't fix 😪...I have a 17 year old and 13 year so quite a gap...keep me posted to op on how u get on ....

Ella31 · 20/01/2024 14:16

Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 11:41

Hey guys, I believe I had a chemical pregnancy in December. I had several faint positive tests that got more faint over several days. I read so many success stories of people conceiving the month after a chemical so was hoping I would. I am now on day 2 of a new cycle so did not conceive this month. I am feeling really down about it and worried this might never happen for me. Did anyone conceive soon after a chemical but not the month after?

I conceived twins after my chemical but didn't have a period in between. Took about 9 weeks for ovulation to come back. I subsequently lost my twins at 29 weeks but that's a different story and nothing to do with the chemical. So don't stress, it just takes the body time to recover. I don't think having the chemical had anything to do with me conceiving fast again. It just happened. It will for you too

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 15:15

Oh god, sorry to hear that you went through all that. I cannot imagine suffering a loss like that at 29 weeks

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 15:17

@Bex4567 🤞 there are no issues found for you, it’s likely everything will be fine and it’s just taking a while longer than expected. I just want to get it over with soon so I can get the results and deal with it eh.

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babyonwayx · 20/01/2024 15:21

I had a chemical sept 2020 and like you, expected be pregnant October 2020... didn't happen until April 2021!

Bex4567 · 20/01/2024 15:22

I'm not so sure I'm not very confident to be honest...kind of don't want to go for tests incase they find something but then appreciate I need to to find something and potentially help ...visious circle 😪

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 15:41

I know how you feel, it’s so difficult isn’t it. You never know, you may conceive during the process of tests etc. I’ve heard of that happening to people. Also you are only 9dpo so your not out this cycle yet 🤞

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Angelselevenx · 20/01/2024 15:57

@Millie1501 fingers crossed, I'm due to O today or tomorrow. I've got my nhs referral appointment next month so this is the final cycle before they do further investigations!

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Millie1501 · 20/01/2024 19:52

@Angelselevenx good luck 🤞, hopefully this is your month

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Endomummy · 21/01/2024 13:18

I had a chemical December 2022 and I’m still ttc :( it’s a myth that you’re more fertile afterwards. I did have private and nhs tests done and both consultants said it’s normal to take 12 months (or more). I am just beyond that now but had a few months of bad timing in FW so telling myself I have a few more attempts…. I’m saying this because I found it so hard not conceiving quickly when all I saw online was people saying they conceived fast after, it makes an already shit situation so much worse.

Haylsttc · 21/01/2024 14:05

I agree with @Endomummy I think it is just a myth that you’re more fertile after a chemical or miscarriage and it can sadly set a lot of people up for disappointment and putting unnecessary pressure on themselves, me being one of those people!

I had a missed miscarriage last year, it only took us two cycles to conceive that pregnancy. However six cycles of trying again after the missed miscarriage and I’m still not pregnant. In the first few months I really beat myself up about it. However I’ve since done a lot of research, read a lot of forum threads and realised a lot of people take closer to 12 cycles to fall pregnant after loss. Weirdly knowing this has made me feel a lot more positive about the situation as it’s not abnormal to take longer and our time will come soon.

I just wanted to share a very realistic story to help others also getting themselves down about this. Wishing you the best of luck and I hope you get your bfp soon ❤️

Angelselevenx · 21/01/2024 16:24

@Haylsttc reading comments like yours really give me home. Like you, I had unrealistic hopes that I'd be pregnant straight after our CP but unfortunately I didn't either. That was April of last year, we're now on cycle 10 since then and total cycle 12 so I just hope it happens for us soon

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Millie1501 · 21/01/2024 21:49

Yeah I know there is no clear evidence of an increase in fertility after a chemical. But a lot of people do conceive soon after and whether that’s a coincidence or not, it is obviously what someone who has experienced a loss like that will be hoping for. But there are no guarantees and I am aware that I may never conceive again but I do like hearing stories of people conceiving soon after anyway. I do understand what you are saying though and I appreciate your thoughts, I don’t disagree with what you are saying at all.

Hopefully we all get out bfp soon though 🤞

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Lou739 · 24/01/2024 21:30

I hope you don’t mind me joining the chat ladies just hoping for some support on the journey. I had a chemical in august just before 5 weeks conceived on 2nd try was delighted and now another 5 months of trying again nothing… any advice or good news stories x

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Millie1501 · 24/01/2024 22:07

@Lou739 of course you can join the chat. Sorry to hear about your chemical and that you haven’t conceived yet afterwards. I can understand your frustration especially as you conceived on the 2nd month initially. I keep trying to remind myself that a chemical can be a positive sign as we managed to conceive that month we probably will again. It is difficult I know. What day of your current cycle are you on?

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Lou739 · 24/01/2024 22:47

Thank you for getting back I’ve wanted to join a chat for a while but was just really disheartened 5 cycles on after the chemical and no success. I currently 6/7 dpo and hopefully optimistic be afraid to get my hopes up :) doctor said chemical means u can get pregnant which is a good sign…

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Millie1501 · 25/01/2024 14:56

@Lou739 I get why you disheartened, hopefully this is your month 🤞. When are you planning on taking a test? Or do you wait until you’re late?

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Lou739 · 25/01/2024 15:24

I would usually text from 10 dpo but I found I was spending a fortune and in a bad mood every time it was negetive so I’m trying to wait till at least 14 dpo when I got my BFP last august. what stage are you at this month? I’ve a good feeling about early 2024 hopefully !! I’ll keep my optimism until AF arrives

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Millie1501 · 25/01/2024 22:37

I’m on day 7 of my cycle so haven’t ovulated yet. We need to start dtd soon as I like to start early just in case I ovulate early. Me and my little one have covid atm, I suspect my husband will fall ill with it soon so that will be interesting 😤

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Lou739 · 26/01/2024 10:26

I'm now around 8/9 dpo and fear i'm convincing myself I feel twinges in my lower belly altho my breasts are quite heavy but I don't think that's pregnancy as I've felt this since 6/7 dpo. This is the first month since the chemical that I've allowed myself to get my hopes up so fingers crossed and how you are all doing well x