Over 40 ttc 2023

[MrsJonesey]

Hi ladies
I've looked for a thread for this but didn't find a recent one so is there anyone who would like to join?
I turned 40 in December. I have 3 older children, got married in November and my new DH and I have decided to try for a baby together. He is 49 this month.
Very concerned that our ages will be against us! We don't want to go down the road of fertility help and will probably only give it this year to see if it's meant to be! I was previously adamant I didn't want anymore babies but slowly changed my mind and now I would love one more!
I'm currently waiting for the return of AF following the depo contraceptive before I begin tracking ovulation..which I've never done before!
So that's my story in a nutshell.
Anyone else 40+ who would like to form a support group with me?

Hi all, hopping on here if that's ok? Like @Supertrooper101 I've just turned 41 and ttc #1. I had a MMC in March at 8w2d, cycle returned to normal in May and I then had a CP in July. I have fibroids and possible endo which is causing a lot of pain throughout my cycle so I'm booked in for a laparoscopy and hysterocopy next week. I'm nervous about the surgery but also hopeful they will find out what's going on and put a plan in place. The consultant said we might do a couple of months ovulation induction and then go down the ivf route of that doesn't work. My OH is booked in for sperm analysis in 2 weeks but I think everything is ok his end as we've managed to conceive twice this year. Just need one to stick 🙏

Hi all! I’m 40 trying to conceive #1. I had a MMC in October, now I’m waiting for my cycles to return and I want to try again in Dec/Jan.

hi @Wen19 !
my body hormonal levels also accord to -10 years so for sure believe that theory 😅

So sad to read of no success here lately.
I had a chemical in last cycle that made my 29days cycle into 44 days one.
Also struggled with CBAdvanced opk, due to small delay of CP I had 3 empty circles and 5 flashy smiles and this morning on CD 17 a solid static one :)

@Wen19 you have brote the group back to life 🤣🤣...i didnt know i wanted another baby untill the mmc tbh. We conceived 1st try not even 'trying' . I use the CB sticks too. They can be really good, but really bloody bad for you when its stuck on flashys faces. When i finally get a solid face am usually like f off. Not bothered lol. I seemed to have ovulated twice this cycle which isnt a good sign age wise. Just waiting to come on. My period symptons are bad since the d&c. Before i was quite lucky but now cramping bloating nausea etc. . @Sez281 lol i think this one is more suited to our age lol i joined another over 40s ttc but they were all paying for doner eggs abroad and ivf so am defo not in that position money wise. The £400 saline scan was enough for us! My partner has his sperm test on the 20th. Its quite far away as the waiting list was stupid and we havent booked a room so gona wing it when we get there 🤷‍♀️ needs must and all that lol @MrsJonesey i would see the gp anyway,even just for your hormones checked so you know where your at x

@Supertrooper101 paying for eggs? Bugger me I can barely afford the bloody supplements 🤣
how do you know you’ve ovulated twice? 😱 I didn’t know you could? Surly that’s good?
im not buying anymore cb after this lot because I’m becoming obsessed! And temping! I havnt had a lay in for 5 months 🤣 bloody setting alarms to take temps.
I really want someone to post some good news in here xx

@Supertrooper101 Yeah is nice to know others in the same age bracket and same boat.. Totally agree with your doc @Wen19 I definitely feel more like I'm in my 30's but don't know if my poor eggs do! 😣😂 Have you tried the easy@home ovulation sticks? They're a lot cheaper than CB and just as good (I confirmed ovulation at exact same time with both this cycle just to test my theory) so I'm sticking with the cheapies for now. Like you I'm also spending a fortune on supplements and vitamins so I'll take savings where I can get them!

We’re on our last try now. New drugs, Gonal F this time, was £400 just for that injection. Plus the other meds and supplements. We can’t justify spending this each month when the odds are so low. Keeping everything crossed but know we’re already so lucky as we have 2 boys already. What will be will be now!
also been told to not run or do too much exercise in the next couple of weeks - that’s going to be hard!

@Wen19 i had a private saline scan on the 9th and she said there was fluid in the place where it goes once ovulation has happened. That was cd 8.. then i had a positive cb on cd 18 and the usual cramps. Then 2 days lager the same cramps again. Ive started dhea tho so wonder if thats doing somthing. Says in perimenopause you can ovulate twice cos ur ovarys are winding down and is getting rid of the eggs lol ive been doing temping too. Dont set an alarm tho and a pretty crap sleeper so dont think there accurate. But i did see on google that you can adjust + or - 0.1 per half hour difference so blag it that way too lol its all bloody annoying lol @Sez281 did you get your testosterone checked? What dose do you take for the dhea?

@Hariboislife what are the drugs for, are you doing ivf or similar. I find it hard to take it steady in the tww... i never did when i got pregnant so beginning to scrap that idea now too

Well bugger me. I’ve had 4 days of blank circles on a cb (and 3 today) I did one this morning , one and dinner and one mid afternoon.
I’ve started to feel heavy and I can feel my ovary working so I decided to do another and it’s static! 😯 how come I didn’t get a flashing one in between? 😯 I don’t usually ovulate till day 16 and it’s day 11 now

@Supertrooper101 surly double ovulation though means more of a chance? Does it? 😁

Not IVF but ovulation induction I think it’s called. Drugs are to increase number of folicles/eggs. I did a few months with Clomid but that worked a bit too well! At one point I had 8 follicles but still no positive pregnancy. To me it seems likely that although there are eggs they aren’t of a decent quality so won’t ever fertilise.
I have to take 150ml of Gonal F every other day until Monday then I’ll be scanned. If the follicles are the right size etc then I’ll take an ovitrel injection to induce ovulation. Then I’ll take pessaries for 2 weeks to grow the lining of the womb.

@Wen19 my days you must get through loads of them lol i do one in the morning and thats it. Well thats annoying then isnt it especially when cb says there selfs to test once on first urine. Yours should have jad flashys especially today. So no idea 🤣....i think the best solution is to dtd every other day every mth and scrap any kind of testing what so ever lol bet it would soon work lol in theory two eggs is great lol buy cd8 too imature and cd18 too mature 🤷‍♀️ well for my cycle pattern anyway lol

@Wen19 did you use the same holder? I've heard that a new holder resets your readings so it's really important to use the same one even if you've had to buy new sticks. Are you on any new vitamins that could possibly have you ovulating early?

@Supertrooper101 I still don't know if she tested my testosterone but I'll ask when I see her next week. I'm only on 25mg so figure it can't do too much harm. If I start sprouting a beard or my voice breaks I'll come off them 😂 Just read your thread about acupuncture that sounds lovely and not too expensive at all! Even if it doesn't help my fertility it might help me relax a bit 🤷‍♀️😂 How is your OH feeling about his tests? Mine was giving out that he couldn't do it at home and drop it into clinic. He soon has his tail between his legs when I showed him what my surgery entails and went on a rant about what I go through every month. 😂

@Wen19 meant to say everyone ttc shud try that approch not just you lol @Sez281 am worried about the anger problems with dhea haha already get wound up with ttc lol my oh seems ok tbh. He did one from amazon so wants to compare lol av had loads of test and different scans so he feels left out lmao. How comes that comment from westy22 is in review...? Didmt she like my acupuncture comment or sumat 🤣

Lol I'd say it was just naming a place or something x

@Sez281 no I’m using the same one I use every month 🤣 I just buy refills for it. God knows I’m baffled 🫨
@Supertrooper101 🤣🤣🤣 I know I’m just gonna do it twice a day now.
and yeah they cost a bomb I’m not doing it next month ✋🏽 after this month I’m taking a more relaxed approach. 💜

Hi, just wondering if this group has disbanded or if there are any updates? 😊

@VioletHaze24 think its just gone quiet lol no progress my end tho. 9mths still trying 🤷‍♀️. How about you? @Sez281 has another thread thats quite active 🙂

Hi
If you have regular periods, regular ovulation then id say that a fertility mot is a rather expensive pointless thing.

You only know you can become pregnant if you try.

For instance I had a friend that was told she had follicles of a 32 Yr old when she was 42. She produced fragmented eggs and 0 embryos.

I had known my fertility since 32 and it was still rather the same at 41. I conceived naturally at 40,mmc , 41 had dc at 42.

So I would say if you can map your periods and know when your ovulating, you have every chance, just do the deed.

A got our results back from fertility clinic and there is nothing they can help us with as all is in perfect condition for both of us and I also have AMH of 30y old but just as mentioned @App13 there’s no way to know if they are healthy. But based on my lifestyle and mother’s side women’s history I should also be able to conceive. So doctor said to give nature a chance for at least 6 months and if we feel like it then we can try IVF. Since I had my hormones off balance for first 8 months and after CP also cycle where I didn’t even have a change it means only one unsuccessful cycle so of course we take those options.
Tbh I’m not sure I even want to try IVF, we already have two children so it’s not going to be an end of the world. There are many pluses sticking with 2.

Hi All, I'd like to join if I can. I am 41 (42 on Friday), and we have finally decided to try for our first. It may be a long road for us as over the past 1-2 years, my cycles have been all over the place. I have had a few tests and an ultrasound, which confirmed i have a fibroid. I may also have suspected pcos and/or in peri-menopause. It's been 10 months since they referred me to the fertility clinic and I am still waiting to hear from them about an appointment.

I started taking pregnacare conception about 5 days ago, and it seemed to have brought my period on 9 days early!! Which I am happy with, to be honest, as hopefully it means I might ovulate sooner so here's to CD2 😁

Anyway, enough about me. Good luck to everyone else and big sprinkles of baby dust to all ✨️

@BeckyPfromLeeds hi, same position as age wise,42 in feb 🤦‍♀️... tbh i didnt get on with pregnacare but if its working for you thats good x have you had bloods to see where your fsh etc is at? Id maybe ring the clinic and chase them. 10mths is a long way to wait. This group is abit more active if you would like to join x https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/4885487-ttc-may-2023-previous-mc-march-2023-thread-2

@Supertrooper101 Thank you for the welcome. Yes, I had bloods done at my 40+ check up and convinced them to take extra to check on my hormones etc. I think (if I remember rightly) that my LH levels were slightly raised. They couldn't seem to see my right ovary on the ultrasound though they did both internal and external!!

This af is so weird as I started spotting pink/brown on Sunday, needed to use a tampon by Monday evening. Tuesday seemed kinda normal bit deffo a lot lighter than usual and today it has gone back Brown again!! Hopefully not TMI, but my last period was really heavy with lots of big clots. It's really confusing 😕

@BeckyPfromLeeds they can never seem to find ny left ovary, says its hidden from too mych gas haha always have to press down on my stomach... the brown blood is old blood so could be implantation bleeding maybe 🙂