Over 40 ttc 2023

[MrsJonesey]

Hi ladies
I've looked for a thread for this but didn't find a recent one so is there anyone who would like to join?
I turned 40 in December. I have 3 older children, got married in November and my new DH and I have decided to try for a baby together. He is 49 this month.
Very concerned that our ages will be against us! We don't want to go down the road of fertility help and will probably only give it this year to see if it's meant to be! I was previously adamant I didn't want anymore babies but slowly changed my mind and now I would love one more!
I'm currently waiting for the return of AF following the depo contraceptive before I begin tracking ovulation..which I've never done before!
So that's my story in a nutshell.
Anyone else 40+ who would like to form a support group with me?

Hey I'd love to join your support group if you'll have me. Technically I'm not over 40 , I'm 37 and I have pcos which is affecting my ability to conceive and producing shitty quality eggs 🙄. I love hearing success stories to keep me motivated and to keep believing this can still happen past the so called 37 year fertility cliff i keep hearing about.
I'm currently going to be starting clomid next cycle and were on the list for ivf..could be another year before we're called tho.
Weve been trying to get help past 4 years from doctors but the process has been ridiculously slow getting referred. I had a chemical back in Jan.. only took me 17 years to get pregnant 😆 so really hoping its still possible at this age.

🙋‍♀️ Hi, I’m 42. We have 2 boys and had a MMC at 12 weeks last year. Hoping for another baby before I get too old! I’ve been tracking but didn’t have a period last month (negative preg test) so hoping it isn’t already too late.

Sorry for both of your losses
Getting pg when young was so easy! Never had to give it a thought! I hate getting older!
Fingers crossed this is our year hey ladies!

Im booking a fertility MOT at a clinic. It’s a bit pricey but hopefully they can tell me about my egg reserves and whether we’re ok to conceive (at least as far as number of eggs goes)

Hi I’m 42 and I’ve had a MMC and TFMR after a trisomy 21 positive screening at 12 weeks in the past year. Hoping the next one will stick.

Oh love, you’ve been through it. Fingers crossed for you

@Iusedtobedontcall bless you so sorry you've had to go through that. Fingers crossed for positive outcomes this year
@Hariboislife that's a good idea. When is your appointment? Keep us up to date with how it goes won't you?

Next Tuesday then the consultation to go through results the Tuesday after. I’ll let you know how it goes (keep everything crossed for me!)

Hope all goes well @Hariboislife .

Thanks for the support - I am doing ok and hopefully this will be a good year for us all.

I'm 42 and I'm nearly 28 weeks pregnant naturally.

Congratulations @Mitsahne how exciting!

Hi everyone, I am 42 and actively TTC. Not used contraception since March 2020 but have only been tracking confidently (ish) for the best part of a year really.

I have 2 grown up boys to a previous marriage and now me and my (younger!) dh would love a family of our own. Praying a lot that this is our year.

I think my mistake has been buying and trying every pre-natal/fertility vitamin that I have seen success stories about, but all they have done is ruin and delay my cycles so I am starting a fresh tomorrow on just Folic Acid. I have had a referral regarding my fertility as dh sperm analysis was normal, I am waiting on an appointment. Had my bloods done in 2021 which were normal but due to my age I'm not confident they would be the same again. I started taking Evening Primrose Oil to increase CM at the beginning of Feb and haven't had a period so am stopping them after reading a lot that they have caused delayed AF for others too. I just want AF to start so we can begin tracking properly again.

Welcome @Khanny
Similar situation to me then
Here's hoping AF arrives soon for us so we can get cracking! Never hoped for AF to come so badly!

I’m in a similar situation as I have 3 dc in their teens but this would be my first with DH. I’m not sure where I am now as I’m only 3 and a bit weeks post d and c (medical reasons) and I’ve had a weird sort of bleed today and yesterday, but it’s not a proper AF. So no idea.

Hi all, I'm not over 40 just yet but am 39 so hopefully I can join in this thread :)
We are TTC again but aware age goes against us. We have a 2 year old and I'd really like one more - my husband is ten years older than me.
Period is currently 5 days late but have done a few tests and they've come up negative. Just want AF to hurry up and start so I can get tracking again.
I recently lost around a stone in weight and so wonder if this has delayed my period. Normally I have a very regular cycle so when it was first late I got very excited... but the tests say otherwise. They were internet cheapies though so have ordered a better brand and will test again in due course...

Welcome @JC084 good luck with testing..keep us up to date won't you!
Fingers crossed for us all this year!
I'm still waiting for AF but it could be ages away yet..just want to get going!!!

@JC084 did you test again?

I've had an opk show as my peak today even though the line was really faint. Anyone have any thoughts?

@MrsJonesey thanks for asking ... AF has appeared this morning on CD41
To be honest, I'm just glad she's here so I can get started again!

@JC084 good news then. Happy tracking from now on. Wish mine would hurry up!

Hoping yours comes soon so you can get tracking! I did lose just over a stone In the last month and a half so I reckon that's what meant I had a longer cycle x

Wow well done. I could do with losing some weight too but I just can't motivate myself!

Had my scan today. Good number of follicles so that’s not an issue. Having a blood test then meeting with the consultant next week. All seems ok my end though so perhaps we’re just not trying hard enough 🤣

@Hariboislife good news then! Sometimes, no matter what, it just seems to take a while for all the right things to happen at the same time! When you think about the chances of that one little tadpole meeting that one little egg at the exact same time it's amazing we reproduce at all! But it's tough when you see young friends posting pregnancy announcements one after the other with seemingly no effort! Maybe they have more stamina!!

Hows everyone doing? I had my consultation today. My AMH levels are 7.9 (usual range for 40-44 year old are 0.7-21.2) so happy with that. We spoke to the clinic about options. They suggested IVF but that’s too much, we already have 2 children and conceived them both naturally as well as the pregnancy we lost last year so IVF seems to big a leap. They recommended IUI (with Clomid medication and scans) but again that seems a bit much. I’d consider the medication which would ensure I ovulate but I’m hoping we can get the sperm to the right destination on our own! We’ve agreed to give it a couple of months and if it doesn’t happen while tracking etc we’ll consider the medication etc

Morning @Hariboislife
Glad you've had some results and they're good
I feel the same about IVF etc. we've decided we won't be going down the route of any assistance if it doesn't happen naturally this year. Well DH has! I'll see how I feel later on about things and see if I need to persuade him or not haha!
I'm still waiting for either ovulation or AF. I've minimised opk testing now as I'm not getting any rises. I get sore boobs and cramps and think somethings happening but then it comes to nothing! It's been 6 months since I had the depo injection so could be waiting a while yet 🙄