First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

[TinyDancer91]

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

Hi all, I am going a bit crazy in the tww! Was hoping to vent here! I am 10 or 11dpo today with AF due on Sunday. I took a cheap LH test this morning which was stark white. I really want to try and wait until Sunday to test again (if AF doesn't arrive) but I also want to go and buy FRER to do in the morning!! This tww is honestly awful 🙁

@newjourney21 hello! We are testing twins cos I will be 14dpo on Sunday. I was initially so excited but now I’m feeling dread; what if it doesn’t work? How long will that go on for? It is actually a worrying time indeed! Fingers crossed for you my dear xx

Hi @Feliciacat! Oh wow hopefully we both get that BFP. I feel exactly the same, super anxious about it after a BFN this morning even tho I know it's still early. Feel like we dtd at the right times this month too and keep thinking if AF comes I will be very worried why it didn't happen for us ☹️ but trying me best to stay positive and I know it'll happen when it's right for us. Fingers crossed for you too xx

@newjourney21 @Feliciacat Testing triplets! I'm 10 DPO today and despite saying I wouldn't test early this month I broke and took a test this morning. Of course it was negative. Just want to test daily but I'll drive myself mad so also going to hold out and not test again til Sunday at 14DPO. If that's negative I'll be counting myself out this month.
Fingers crossed for you both! Xx

@NervousNoo @newjourney21 love testing triplets!

Yes, if it’s not positive then I’d wonder what additional things could be causing that if I dtd at the right time; that’s exactly it. Anyway, best of luck to you, my two other musketeers. I guess if we have to try again next month; a month isn’t that long, right? Xx

@Feliciacat @newjourney21 I try and be so rational, tell myself another month is another chance, that we'll get the baby we're meant to have etc. But also with every negative after doing everything we need to at the right times (this is cycle 6 for us) I find myself questioning what's wrong even though I know there might be nothing wrong at all. Is it my age? Is it because I ovulate on the early side? Are my hormones just not playing ball? Are his swimmers ok?
I drive myself mad! Wish I was so cool and collected about it all and could just take it as it comes bit my goodness that's such a big ask 😂

Given that this is our 6th cycle and I'm 36 if the test is neg at 14DPO I'm going to see my GP just for an initial chat and to see if they'll at least refer me for some initial testing or bloods. Need to take back a bit of control if I can, knowledge is power and all that!

@NervousNoo oh I see! I’m so sorry if I was insensitive there; I’m only on cycle 1 so I have beginner’s optimism. I’m going to be 36 myself this year so yes, 6 cycles of trying is the perfect time to get tests done to check everything.

@Feliciacat Not at all insensitive, it's exactly the outlook you should have!
I'm telling myself that there could be so many factors and that the next month might just be our month. My mum was still having babies at 42 so genetics are in my favour haha. I only just had my coil out in August so could argue that it may have taken a few months for things to settle although my period and ovulation were regular again from the minute it was out. Just going to keep doing what we need to on our end and can't say that's a hardship 😂Our time will come!

Exactly the same situation as me, due on sun, took at test as sore nipples all week, stark white.. :(

@Rockyslife I reckon it’s too early to test positive now, surely? Do it again on Sunday (you’re the testing quadruplet)! I hope it’s positive xx

I just see so many people testing at like 9dpo and thats why im thinking surely it would show by now, i feel like a flow is coming. Let me know how you get on x

Hey ladies,

www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/results-by-day-past-ovulation.php This is a really good website to look at stats of pos/negs by dpo. I’ve only looked at it this month but it’s kept me calm!

I must be the testing quintuplet! So many of us around the same time!!

If it helps, I've read that implantation can occur anywhere from 6-12 dpo, so if you're only 9dp, there still a chance implantation hasn't happened yet!

That thought has really helped me to stop testing early and then getting upset at the negative tests.

Fingers crossed for us all!! 🤞🏻🫶🏻

Hi girls im 9 dpo (at least i think, new to using the tests). I normally have tender breasts by this point in my cycle but nothing yet. Trying not to overthink it. Planning to test on Monday.

@Chanteuse thats an awesome resource, thank you! Although, I looked at it and decided that I’d test as I’m 11dpo and have a 75% chance of getting a positive if I were pregnant. I was negative but I think @TinyDancer91‘s reassurance helps a lot. Maybe implantation hadn’t happened yet!

Hi @Kofifi! I hope you’re right and that you get a BFP on Monday! I’m due on Sunday and getting migraines which I don’t normally get unless I’m on my period. Anyway, we shall see!

Any of the testing quintuplet tested this morning?! AF hasn't arrived yet for me but I'm too nervous to 🙁

I'm trying to hold off too. Currently sat watching Alex Jones: Making Babies..... probably not the best idea 😂 the mixture of hormones and fear of being in that position making me very tearful!

I'm 27, DP is 25. TTC baby number #2. 3rd cycle gone, onto 4th (feb) sending baby dust to all. X

Testing quintuplet here. I was negative plus I’ve been having my period since Thursday. I had held out a 1% hope that it was implantation bleeding (even though it was too heavy for that). It wasn’t though. I’ll try again in Feb :)

Fellow quintuplet here. I tested yesterday morning for a BFN, was as expected as was starting to feel the usual AF cramps brewing. AF not due til Wed but yesterday was 14DPO so would have expected a line of some sort by then.
However, in positive news I have an appointment with my GP tomorrow to hopefully get moving on some initial tests etc just to check all ok. Sad that this wasn't my month but feel stronger with this appt booked.

Hi everyone.
Today is day 25 of my cycle and 9 dpo. Took the test and wow line eyes is a real head fuck. Its so incredibly faint but i think it might be a line!! It's kind of weird though because its stronger on one side, almoat like its a smudge on the test.
Also i usually have much longer cycles (32-35 days) so im not sure if that changes when i would be able to get a positive result.

I wasn't going to upload the test because i know the answer is - go take another in a couple of days. But im starting to think im going insane. Do you see it?

@Kofifi I see something but not sure if it's a line or indent tbh (just because it's uneven). I would wait another few days and try again, but fingers crossed for you!!

I cried at work this morning.... ok I work from home, but a work email bothered me and I ended up crying. It was so trivial as well!! Such an emotional/hormonal mess today. Think it's AF on the way...

Phoned the dr for my blood test results this morning too, apparently it was 'normal' again, but they said that before and then said there was a lab error so 🤷🏻‍♀️

You've got a whole load of emotions to contend with, adding hormones to that mix and you are bound to have outbursts! I totally feel your pain.

I hope the Drs can give you some clarity. Did you book an extra appointment with them? I should get results from my Day 21 bloods tomorrow... Let's see whether I'm actually ovulating!