First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

[TinyDancer91]

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

@Ditzydaisychain congratulations!! 🥰✨💖 xxx

@Ditzydaisychain That's exciting! Keeping everything crossed for a sticky one this time for you!! 💕

There's not really much of an update from me. We have out next appointments booked. OH has an appointment at the clinic on 15th Nov, I have a phone appointment booked for 4th Dec. So we've got a little over 3 weeks until we take the next (tiny) step forward in our journey, although it still doesn't really feel like this actually happening.

I'd been feeling really rough the past 2/3 weeks, started off as a cold, then on/off nausea & headaches and just generally feeling really drained and tired. Had almost convinced myself it could possibly our chance, but AF arrived on Thursday. Onto the next cycle, now on number 25. Who knew we'd ever get this far?!

Sending love to all 💕

@TinyDancer91 you just never see these things happening to you do you! Just don't even imagine it would ever take that long, that infertility or losses happen to someone else. It's so hard - my first pregnancy took 30 cycles! I'm now 7 years since that first month ttc (not tried that whole time for various reasons, it's been in blocks) and I've actually lost sight of what life might look like as a mum, I just can't even imagine it anymore. Can't even imagine having a bump let alone a baby!

My OH has a semen analysis on the 7th and we have a private appointment on the 16th so we will see if there's anything short term that can be done or if we're looking at IVF. It's all pretty daunting to be honest.

How are you doing @Ditzydaisychain?

My DH finally had his semen analysis back and his sperm is normal. This, combined with my bloods being normal has given me renewed hope. Maybe it’s just DH’s illness that has caused us stress and that’s why we’ve been going for a year with no luck.

I hope you’re all doing as well as possible, I am quite invested in this thread and will love to hear updates if anyone is in a position to share.

@Feliciacat thanks for thinking of me. I am doing well, AF did not arrive and I am almost at the 6 week mark. My sister said to me yesterday you look like death. I am very pale and have awful sickness already so she isn’t wrong 🤣. I played it off as a dodgy Chinese, as I’m not ready to tell anyone in real life.

What great news for you and your DH! Stress can have such a huge impact on your wellbeing, hopefully this news lightens the mental load.

Hope everyone is doing well 💕

@Feliciacat that's good news that everything is 'normal' for you both. Keeping everything crossed for a bfp for you soon.

@Ditzydaisychain I'm so happy yours has stuck, can't wait to hear all the updates from you as your journey progresses 💕

No further update here just yet, waiting (not so) patiently for OH's appointment next week to find out more. We think this is his urology appointment but not 100% sure as they haven't said and the letter just says it's with the gynaecology dept... definitely feeling out of my depth recently

@TinyDancer91 hi, sorry things are feeling a bit hard at the moment.

I'm just waiting for my hyfosy which is on 16th. Unless I have a later ovulation I'm out for this month but due to ovulate on 16th or 17th and you're not meant to have sex before or for 24 hours after.
I'm looking forward to it being over!

Hope your appointment goes well

Hello everyone!

I haven’t messaged on here in months. I hope you’re all doing well.

my partner has confirmed obstructive azoospermia so in September he had sperm retrieval surgery. We have enough frozen sperm for 3 rounds of ivf.

we have started the ivf process now. I am two weeks into down regulation injections and I start stims tomorrow. Feeling hopeful that all goes well in the next couple of weeks!!

Oh my goodness! I am delighted that the pregnancy stuck; congratulations Ditzydaisychain!

As for TinyDancer, LucyLoopyLu and Beelieve86; you all have such big months this month. Fingers crossed for you all! Would be so lovely if we could all get some progress (which could just be good test results if not a pregnancy) for Christmas. Good luck.

Hi all

@Ditzydaisychain how are you doing? Hope everything is going well for you 💕

Update from our appointment this week. OH is a carrier of cystic fibrosis, I now have to be tested to see if I'm also a carrier, if not, we can ignore it, if I am, any embryo will need to be tested before being transferred...

OH also been referred for ultrasound, been told it's 8-12 week wait, so there's that... also next appointment letter has arrived for MAY 2024!! That's 6 months away 😩

We still don't seem any closer to actually starting treatment. To make things worse, AF arrived today, a little later than expected and I had stupidly allowed myself to start thinking this could be the one. Why do I do this to myself?!

Hey @TinyDancer91

I am sorry to hear about your DH. Do you know how long it will take for you to be tested? Sorry everything takes so long! Every time AF is late it’s impossible not to get your hopes up.

All seems to be okay at the moment. I have my first midwife appointment next week. I have very bad sickness and constant nausea but I’m doing well otherwise.

@TinyDancer91 oh no, sorry everything is so slow. An appointment 6 months away is just crazy isn't it! Do you know when you will get your test to see if you're a carrier too? Hope your husband is not feeling too disheartened

My hyfosy went well last week. It was a bit painful and uncomfortable but nothing too bad. She saw both fallopian tubes were clear in the end although it seemed to take a while. Unfortunately I'd already ovulated by the day of the test so we're out for this month and starting again next cycle. TWW will be over Christmas and New year so I'll be doing lots of tests I imagine as there will be many boozy days planned. Usually I just wait for AF now. Really hoping the hyfosy is going to give us a boost 🤞 we've got a referral on the system to assisted conception now but I won't be disappointed if first appointment is not straight away.

Hi, sorry for the delay in replying!

@Ditzydaisychain glad all is going well for you! How far along are you now?

I've booked a blood test for Friday this week, I think it takes a few weeks for the results to come back though. We're just waiting now for OH's ultrasound appointment date.

@LucyLoopyLu I was offered the hyfosy when we went last week, but was told it wasn't a necessity at this point for us as it's male factor. I've opted to not have it for now, we and the clinic have no reason to believe there's any blockages, plus I don't want us to have to stop trying for a month (it would be just my luck that it would be the time that it was supposed to happen naturally for us and couldn't!). Xmas to new year for us should be my fertile window, so at least we should have a great holiday season 😂Hopefully your next appointment comes through quickly and you get some good news soon

Hello! First time poster, long time lurker, etc. Nice to meet all of you!

I’m 32 (33 in a few weeks), DH 39. TTC no. 1 since earlier this year, but it’s been on hold due to DH being diagnosed with a chronic illness in the summer. We haven’t actually DTD since April! 😳

Thankfully after several transfusions and a boatload of medication he’s feeling a lot better, back at work and as close to ‘normal’ as he can be. 💪 So we’re ready to gently ease back in for December (as in not trying but not preventing).
Then in January, we both feel like we want to start afresh and try properly from that cycle.

The stopping and starting has been hard, but we’re a lot more hopeful now. Fingers crossed. 🤞

@NewbieTwentyFour welcome to the madness! Hoping for some good news for you soon!

Hi folks not been here for a while. Been away from MN and generally offline as it took me a while to process early mc in June and then had a lot of family/personal issues happen but all ok now. Tested this evening as been away over the weekend AF is late and got a BFP! Delighted but very anxious, just want to get further than we did before and I’ll hopefully be able to relax a bit more 💖

@CatLadyH congratulations! That’s lovely news. Fingers crossed for you over the next few weeks xx

@CatLadyH & @Ditzydaisychain how are you both doing?

Hi @TinyDancer91 good thanks 7 weeks today! Crazy. I’ve got my first midwife booking in appt next Friday and a private scan booked for that evening. All being well we will tell family over that weekend 🤞🏻💕 feeling very tired all the time 😴 and boobs are killing 🤣 but I can’t complain. Still very anxious but I think that’s to be expected. Hope you’re doing ok 💖

@TinyDancer91 I am doing well. I’ve got HG and I’m on medication to help but still feeling very nauseous and unfortunately still being sick at times but feeling much better than before they gave me the medication. I am thankfully now keeping fluids down as I ended up in hospital because I was so dehydrated.

I am now almost 12 weeks and have my first scan next week. We still haven’t told anyone, as I’ve been a bit anxious, so if all is well we plan to tell our families at Christmas.

How are you getting on?

So glad it's going well for you both (despite the sickness @Ditzydaisychain )

Tiny bit of progress for us, I've had my blood test for our genetic screening, they made a right mess of my arm though in doing it! Got to wait for the results which usually take 6-8 weeks. Depending on what the results are could mean we have to change clinics to a more specialist one which is further away...

We had the letter through for OH's ultrasound yesterday, which is on Tuesday! 🥳 we weren't expecting to have it done until at least Feb! Hopefully that will get things moving a bit quicker for us 🤞🏻

Hello everyone! I haven't posted here in a while. I hope you're all doing well!

I got my BFP on November 24th after 3 cycles of clomid and on my first Letrozole cycle. It was very unexpected because all I felt were period cramps so I was very very surprised.

I'm 7+5 now and had my first scan, everything looks fine! Not too many symptoms other than dizziness and falling asleep everywhere!

@TinyDancer91 hope you get your results quickly!

I had my baby by ELCS on the 6th December, so don’t give up ladies!!! Hope everyone’s pregnancies and TTC all go well

Hello all,

after my first ivf icsi cycle we transferred one of our two embryos fresh and got our BFP on Monday. I will be 5 weeks tomorrow.
I have slow rising betas which are making me nervous but I have a good feeling about this pregnancy and also suspect my embryo implanted later.
symptoms are already happening, mainly a terribly headache, but they tend to come and go.

Wishing you all lots of luck Xx

Congrats @ceruleansky @Alexis7890 & @BeeLieve86 !! 🥳🥳