TTC a first

[Thatskindafun]

Just a thread for those of us TTC for the first time, but also anyone else that wants to join really!
We’re currently TTC baby no.1 and just on cycle #1 too, but DH and I both have health conditions that may make it difficult so I’m already driving myself crazy.

Im usually like clockwork but this month, of all months, AF was due 4 days ago and there’s no sign yet
Obviously every test I’ve done is negative though.

just looking for anyone to keep me company really whilst I obsessively check other peoples line eyes posts!

How’s everyone doing?
AF due Friday, already confident I’m not pregnant. Not done a test but would like to know and just move on to the next cycle.

is anyone else trying to lose weight whilst TTC? Ive heard a healthier weight (particularly for me with PCOS) can make it easier to conceive, but also that dieting can make it harder to conceive. Bit of a catch 22.

Hey, me and my husband have been trying to conceive for around 12 months now, I didnt realise how much hard work it is until you dont fall pregnant as easily as you thought you would, now we are doing everything correctly I feel even more upset it isnt happening for us. I am paying for a private appointment as I would like scans etc to check everything is ok. I am due on my period in 8 days and my boobs have started to become sore which I guess thats my period getting itself ready again :(

So happy to find this thread and hope I can join too. I’m 34 years old and just came off the pill so have have only had one real period so far.

I don’t know all the abbreviations yet but on TTC cycle 1. Said we would take an easy no stress approach but of course I have started obsessing over it already. Just using clue app for now and dtd during “ideal timing to conceive” ie just before predicted ovulation.

I have always had super awful period but never been diagnosed so can’t help but feel this won’t be an easy journey. Was going to pay for Hertility testing but read in the FAQs that best to wait for 3 months after coming off contraception as it allows hormones to go back to normal. Thinking I’m going to have to chill out as much as possible and do this test in the new year along with starting to test and track for ovulation as I read that the predicted ovulation dates do not fit a lot of people.

Glad to have found some company x

Back for cycle 2 now - currently cd19, approx. 4/5dpo, AF due around 14th based on last month's cycle which was longer than my normally short cycles, so very much in the TWW. Twinges in my boobs and abdomen so far but then last month I got much too involved with symptom-spotting so was then really sad when AF arrived. The goal this month is to avoid symptom-spotting and just see if AF arrives before I go anywhere near a test. I don't know if I'll hold out though! Gosh this is tough, isn't it?!

Hi everyone! 6dpo for me! TWW is hard not to symptom spot and also spiral with worrying!! Cycle 9 and this one feels hardest yet. This cycle we’ve dtd all the good days and I’ve gotten back to tracking (stopped in June to ease pressure)! I’m really hoping this is our cycle but also trying not to overthink any twinges I get!! I always think from 4/5dpo you start picking up on things even if they aren’t there 🤣

@Bananatoast123 that's so true on the symptom-spotting!

@CheeryCupcake its driving me mad this month! Fingers crossed for us this month! I’m going to test at 10dpo this month as can’t bear the wait - this month has been the hardest yet, maybe it’s because I’m 8/9 months since starting!

Good luck everyone in their TWW!

@Rockyslife what made you choose to go private? Also considering doing the same after 10 unsuccessful cycles.

@Thatskindafun im also trying to lose weight as I have a high bmi and I know nhs won’t support me with any potential fertility issues. It’s so annoying as I would say I’m a fairly average size but Im naturally full busted which adds on a lot of weight too. I’m trying to walk more and eat healthier generally, very low impact movements.

@Chocolotandtea i found hertility really good and they explained the results in the report in an easy to read way too - would for sure recommend to anyone considering finding out more.

Im CD11 of #11. This month I’m continuing with my vitamins, will use fertilily cup again (second cycle), will seed cycle (but I forget to have them some days ha!) and am planning to get decongestant cough medication for 3 days before ovulation as it’s supposedly meant to help with EWCM. I am tracking BBT for the first time, and will start OPKs again for the 4th month. Bring it on!!

@UserL95 really interested in the fertility cup! Have you used it before?

@Chocolotandtea yes i used it last cycle! And I think it made me really hopeful which was hard to cope with during the TWW and when AF arrived. But I’m planning to use it again this cycle and just pray even harder that some miracle happens

Praying hard for you too 🙏@UserL95

@Chocolotandtea thank you !! Have you tried it or considered trying it?

So when I was 19 I had a severe pelvic infection, have been trying to conceive for around a year now, properly for 9 months, so in my head I am just thinking the worst and I am sure I have blocked falopian tubes which is a common side affect from a Pelvic Infection, so really its a peace of mind for me either way.. Also I just dont really wanna wait months and months for an NHS appointment.

@Rockyslife im sorry to hear about your experiences and can totally understand why you catastrophise and feel you may have something wrong. I hope that’s not the case but private would sure clear that up for you.

I’ve spoken to my Gp on two occasions of TTC and experiencing new pelvic pain (as of 2 months) and he hasn’t offered any support other than telling me to lose weight and be more healthy/active. So hard when services don’t support

@UserL95 im only only first month ttc and first month post pill so I plan to wait till Jan (as they say it takes 3 months for it to fully leave your system) and then will do hertility testing, track ovulation via pee sticks and will also try the fertility cup. I’m sorry so many people have been trying for some time and I really do foresee the same journey for myself so it’s great to learn about these tips and tricks in advance x

@UserL95 great to hear from you, I hope you’re doing ok? I did the cough syrup this month I think I did 3 days before O too but I felt I should’ve started it earlier! I’ve also been bbt - found it hard to get into the swing of it at first but now remember each morning! I also did a progesterone test today as I’m 7dpo so hoping it gives good news that I’m making enough!

This month has been super hard! TikTok freaked me out about my amh score from hertility (I did this in June) that it was low but hertility said it’s fine! So finally admitted I’m going mad and I need to stay off social media!!

@Bananatoast123 yes social media is evil when TTC I swear it! I’m in a much better place than I was when AF arrived that’s for sure. I’m still around 5 days before ovulation yet so will try and get some cough syrup tonight in that case! Are you doing a gp progesterone test or private?

@UserL95 ahh I think this might be me if AF turns up in a week too, I feel like I’ve put so much into this cycle with overcoming my head and trying to be positive 🤦🏼‍♀️

I just took 1 teaspoon a day! We’ll find out if it worked but I’ll try it again next cycle as I feel I could’ve done more! I also tried EPO too but stopped as soon as I ovulated!

Private! I’ve used medicheck it was only £30! Tbh I think we’ll go private in January/feb (cycle 11 or 12) for a scan and for my OH. I just can’t bring myself for the nhs waiting lists!

@Bananatoast123 whats EPO?
i will look into medicheck! If this month were unsuccessful I really want to look at private too - but both mine and DH bmi is 30+ so will need to find a clinic who will even talk to us

@UserL95 evening primrose oil! It’s meant to help with CM and also the uterus but post ovulation it can make it hostile!

ahh it’s silly they even use bmi, it’s so outdated! You could be 30+ and so fit and healthy!! You might as well try start a convo! We just both want to know we are medically ok and then we will give it a few more months!

Random question but does anyone know if breast tenderness happens the same if you have conceived or if you're going to have a flow?

Had a dream last night it was positive and woke up thinking it had been real. I should’ve known when in the dream I was testing with a clear blue digital! Like I’m made of money!

anyway woke up this morning and tested, obviously bfn. Waiting for af due tomorrow and then onto the next cycle
fingers crossed for some Christmas magic

@Thatskindafun ahhh so sorry! I’ve had this it’s the worst!!

I currently have had a 0.04 drop in my bbt (7dpo) and then 0.1 (today at 8dpo) and I’m praying I’m not out because my temp is dropping slowly!!

Hi what is a DDP?

Oh no @Bananatoast123 i cant say i know enough about bbt to be sure but isn’t it quite variable, just a few factors like time of day or whatever out and you could see a slight difference? Does it definitely always go up as well?
keeping my fingers crossed for you