TTC a first

[Thatskindafun]

Just a thread for those of us TTC for the first time, but also anyone else that wants to join really!
We’re currently TTC baby no.1 and just on cycle #1 too, but DH and I both have health conditions that may make it difficult so I’m already driving myself crazy.

Im usually like clockwork but this month, of all months, AF was due 4 days ago and there’s no sign yet
Obviously every test I’ve done is negative though.

just looking for anyone to keep me company really whilst I obsessively check other peoples line eyes posts!

@Staciejade54 oh that is high! Do you do it as soon as you wake up? It’s either good news or a fever! Have you taken a test today? I mean 10dpo is still early! I’m due today and no sign yet! I’m not wanting to get my hopes up though 🤦🏼‍♀️ as Af always eventually shows!

@Bananatoast123 it is isn’t it haha, I’ve been taking it throughout the day each day and it’s still stayed at the same! I’m not ill or anything as I have no other symptoms that would relate to being ill which is weird. I did take a test this morning but still negative, so we shall see 🤞

@Thatskindafun how you feeling today, do you have any further updates?

AF has just come! Onto the next month!

@Bananatoast123 ah that’s annoying it came slightly late for you. Mine is due on Friday which feels like ages away

Hi can I join, TTC no 1, on cycle 10, no luck yet, had a few short cycles early on but been taking Vit D Vit C and B 12 which have helped loads to lengthen my luteal phase!
Feeling optimistic this month but also have suspected endo and waiting for a lap, hoping I catch soon 🤞🏼

@Staciejade54 yeah to be fair I think I’ve lengthened my luteal phase from 13 to 14 days the last few months and my cycle has been like clockwork from the last so trying to see it as positive signs going forward! Onto cycle 9 so hopefully this is our one!

I hate when people say don’t think about it and it’ll happen. It doesn’t work that way, and you naturally do think about it. If anyone knows how not to then please share the advice 🤣🤣

10/11 dpo today and another BFN this morning. AF due tomorrow so I guess we'll see then.

Another BFN today and then AF arrived about 10 mins ago so there’s my answer for this month! No idea why it was so so late this month

I don’t know how to not think about it either @Bananatoast123 ! We had planned to be relaxed, and just see how it went, but it’s my body and I don’t know how to ignore symptoms!

welcome to everyone else who’s joined us, wishing you all better luck than me this month!
onto the next cycle

@Thatskindafun sorry to hear about AF! Why it is we test and AF shows up later that day?! Seems to always happen that way!
Fingers are crossed you your next cycle 🤞🏼currently on cycle 10 and I've found it actually less stressful each cycle, apparently only 15-25 % chance each month so the longer I've gone, I'm thinking it must be time soon surely? 😂

Hi everything, can I join with you all too?
We are TTC#1 and are officially at cycle 7 but unofficially cycle 10 (for the first 3 months we played it really cool, didn’t track anything, just went on intuition which clearly didn’t work for us!). Very very ready for our BFP.
I OPK on and off as I have a very good idea about my cycle (lh surge day 16/17) and regular 29/30 day cycles. Never could get into BBT personally.
today is CD19 so the TWW has officially started.
We’ve been taking some new supplements this month, only for 2 weeks yet, so probably too early for that to have kicked in but going to try and be hopeful anyways.
Wishing you all lots of positive vibes

Hey ladies. I am also TTC #1 and currently on cycle 2. I am 4DPO and trying hard not to symptom spot this month. Last month I was really upset when AF arrived even though I knew it was unlikely to happen so fast, so I’m trying to relax a bit more this cycle. It’s so hard though isn’t it as you can’t help but get your hopes up. Fingers crossed for some BFPs for us all soon!

@Staciejade54 & @Thatskindafun literally I’m the same!! So AF is just spotting right now, coming and going. It did this last month and was such a tease. I’m going to see how it goes over the next few days before testing.

@UserL95 hey! I’m about to start cycle 9 if Af commits to coming! I know how you feel about being very ready for BFP! It feels reassuring that someone else is as far into TTC as us! We’ve done the same, some relax and some tracking but no luck! I’m 27 and my
OH is 28 and we never expected it to take us this long with no signs of it working!!

@Bananatoast123 me and DH are the same age as you guys! We also did not think it would take so long.
I really hope that AF doesn’t come for you - how are you feeling about it?
I have high hopes this cycle, but I’m terrified to be disappointed again.

We're TTC month one and my chart is all over the place. Not even sure if I have a chance. What does everyone think? Super nauseous today ☹️

@UserL95 AF has finally come full force so onto cycle 9 for us, I’m okay about it but I’ve felt that it was coming for a few days with my pms… last month was awful as it proper teased me with the usual pms not happening! It’s hard to know whether somethings wrong or if it’s just chance! We have no friends we know are trying so for us we just assume this can be normal?! I’m 29/30 day cycles too and it happens every month and I ovulate too so it’s all very confusing!
What makes you think this month is good? I really hope so for you!!

@Beth290fox sorry I don’t track bbt so can’t give any advice

@Bananatoast123 im sorry to hear AF is here, but it’s always better to know than wonder. Happy to chat as I’m in the same boat ie none of my friends are thinking about children just yet!
im hopeful bcus we DTD Cd 12 14 16 17 18 and I’m pretty confident I ovulated Cd 18 as I lh surged on cd17. Today is cd19 and I will see if DH wants to DTD again but I don’t want to to start feeling like a chore either. I know it would be good to DTD again today. But at the same time if we do, and we still get a BFN at the end of the month; I literally won’t know what else to try next month. And that’s a scary thought…
gosh it’s crazy how many emotions you go through. And how much I start overthinking and guessing everything I do.

@UserL95yes exactly! I’m waiting for the month where I get the “feeling” of being pregnant! We dtd 12,13,14,15,17 and I ovulated CD17 and for us it didn’t work so I’m like I don’t know what else we can do!!

I’ve had day 3 tests taken and they were all good and I’m now thinking on getting the day 21 next month so I’m happy it’s nothing I can do! I’m so so the same with emotions and overthinking and it’s so hard to not think about it all when AF or ovulation are happening! It’s good to know someone my age is where I’m at and I have someone to chat to now!!

@Bananatoast123 im literally going to hope and pray!!! Lol. And try to forget about it in the TWW as much as I can by keeping busy.
Are these blood tests? And did your GP do them?
My Gp hasn’t done anything yet, I paid for a private day 3 blood test which was all in normal parameters (though Tsh was a touch high for TTC and fsh was on the low side of normal). If I don’t get my BFP this month I might push harder on my gp for more blood work…
Do you know what they look for in day 21 bloods?

@Bananatoast123 also have you heard of SMEM sperm meets egg method? That tells you to dtd for 3 days after ovulation as well (I think). It just seems like an intense plan. But if this month doesn’t work out I may need to look into it more.

@UserL95 yeah I try to keep busy in the TWW and I try not go on the apps to tell me how many days too!
I feel like we are the same person 🤣 I paid for private day 3 too and it said my TSH is slightly up for TTC! This prompted me to call my gp for clarification and she said she wouldn’t class it as high! She then re-ran my thyroid and then vitamins, iron, celiac etc! And they all came back super healthy! She told me to give it a few more months (it’s been 1 since)! The day 21 checks you’re making enough progesterone in the luteal phase so I think it checks your supporting implantation and so on! I’ve found it privately for £31 so that isn’t too bad!

The only thing we are trying now is to get a way healthier lifestyle! We’re doing 6 weeks no drinking (OH has a stag in 6 weeks time) and trying to both lose some weight/ eat healthy! You wouldn’t look at us and think you’re overweight but we both have been fitter and healthier so are going to try get back to that! Have you tried anything like this?

@UserL95 oh sorry meant to say! I’ve been going for back massages every 2 weeks too and I’ve definitely noticed a difference in my periods. I was getting just 2 days and then an abrupt stop but now they’re heavier (albeit more painful) - I do think I had quite a bit of built up stress from house moves and job changes! It’s been 2 months and better!

Hi, can I join you too. Ttc#1 cycle 1 and if the app has predicted correctly I should be entering my fertile window this weekend.
Has anyone tried the cough syrup method? I've read on a couple of other threads of people getting bfp after trying it, I think it improves cm.

@ScarletDreams whats the cough syrup method?

@ScarletDreams hi! I’ve not heard of the cough syrup method either?

@Bananatoast123 oo I will have a look at the day21 test too as £31 is definitely affordable! I’m pleased to hear that on rerunning bloods your day3 was all fine.. though sometimes I wonder if that makes it harder, the not knowing why!!

I can’t say that me or DH are the fittest healthiest people and one of the things that worried us about approaching GP is them sending us away to lose weight first- that would probably kill my soul because I have always struggled with how I look and feel in my skin. Neither of us drink or smoke though, maybe socially once in a while. We have been trying to eat more fruits and have take vitamins and supplements as well.

My periods changed massively when I had my copper iud taken out early last year! I’m about 4/5 days but only 2 days of proper bleeding and the rest is very light. I’ve accepted this is my new normal…