TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

[FfayeN]

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You girls educate me so much! With this whole checking temp thing around ovulation do you do the dignity/strip tests to check for ovulation too or just relay on the temp?

@Indianna2006 yeah it certainly looks different to a year ago!

@HalWin2221 I'm doing both now, just to make sure I was ovulating when I thought I was really as was worrying I was a day later than expected, but it seems to tie in. Plus I'm a control freak 😂. This is the first month I felt I could be consistent enough with it and actually it's given me something to focus on in the TWW x

@FfayeN I still haven't passed anything significant but the bleeding is tapering off to almost nothing so I'm going with it's all nearly done and what was there has been reabsorbed 🤞🏼

@HalWin2221 I use 2 strips and CB ovulation sticks - it's pricey. I only temp a bit before and after O as I usually forget so not as obsessive about it. For what it's worth, when I conceived DD I didn't get a temp spike until like 5dpo so I'm not sure it's all that accurate for me!

@mummatara so hoping that's the end of it 🤞

@MrsCristianoX thanks for checking , that's really interesting. I wonder why it says on medicines.org that it's contraindicated in pregnancy. So confusing.

@FfayeN im with you on being a control freak! 😂 TWW is such torture isn’t it! I’m on 4dpo and everything I feel I’m like is that a symptom?! 😂

@bunnykins123 I’m using the CB too. It worries me when I get the smiley face and can’t DTD until later though! I wish I could see my egg release and when it is when we DTD 😂

CD14 for me and no peak yet🙄 I had a rise this time last cycle so might be a day or 2 out this month! But I’ve dtd for 4 days in a row already lol so looks like I’ve still got a good few days to go🤣

Fingers crossed for those of you in the TWW ✨hope it goes quickly for you!

No more spotting today so far for me🤞🏻 anyone here had blighted ovum before? If so were your pregnancy symptoms the same?

@HalWin2221 I temp alongside strips I like to see how it's matched up. The temping doesn't really tell you when you might O only when you have so it's a bit useless for predicting when to DTD in the lead up but I do like to see what's happening if nothing other than curiosity and I find it interesting I never O the same CD. They say you should temp at the same time every morning but I did read somewhere that as long as you've had a good chunk of sleep at least 4 hours it's ok to take your temp. Unfortunately I've had to do this lots because kids don't love sleeping as much as I do 😂 and I've found my temps to still be consistent if it's only been a block of about 4 hours

@Mariabombia that is what my current MC is for. I hate to say it I had all the same pregnancy symptoms and a couple of new ones as previous pregnancies which is just cruel of the body IMO. They tapered off a couple of days after our first scan at the EPU so I would have been 9+6 at that scan

Oh bless you, I agree it is so cruel of the body :( hope you're doing well love. When are you due back at the hospital? Do you have to wait a few weeks after the bleed or are they scanning you throughout?

@mummatara xx

@Mariabombia I'm ok started bleeding last mon hopefully there won't be any retained products 🤞🏼 I have to do a test in 3 weeks I don't know if that's from when it ends but I'm guessing yes and call if it's still positive. Last time they made Me wait one more week to test again then I had bloods done then they scanned me so I imagine they will do the same if it's positive at 3 weeks. Are you not having many symptoms? What makes you worried about a blighted ovum? ❤️

With my natural mc I had to wait a week , get scanned and then do a test after 2 weeks and call if positive still but thankfully it wasn't. I did take ages to go negative though as it was positive a few day before those two weeks finished. Hope yours will go negative quickly for you ♥️

Ummm I've got sore boobs and stabbing pains in my pelvis but I'm only 5 weeks so not too concerned about not having much nausea yet.

It's just what epu said that's playing on my mind about spotting possibly being either implantation or a blighted ovum. Im really trying to be positive but feel so pessimistic.

@mummatara omg I'm the worst at tagging 🤣

Shitty shitty time. So tired of everything. So tired of people, of childlessness 😥I often cry on the way to work but then just wipe my tears before going in. Today was one of those days.
I will not be able to face a negative test this month 😪Honestly, this will be the final straw. Also made a conscious decision yesterday to not speak to one of my friends anymore (unlikely she would notice as I was the one putting in all the effort in this 'friendship') as she is been shit about things.
Most of people in my circle know about the first loss, not everyone knows about the second but if I could, I would go back in time and not tell any of them!

I just want to move somewhere else (with DH obviously!) and start afresh! Does anyone ever feel the same??

@ChloeN 4 days in a row! 😵 we did it 3 days in a row and poor OH had to really concentrate to get anywhere 😂 you go girl!

@mummatara oh god, don’t tell me that, I get so excited about CB smileys and now I’m going to think they are lying to me! 😂 did you track temp etc with your other children? 😊

@lovenaps hope you’re okay 🙁 it is such a lonely feeling being in the position that we are all in. I think running is such a normal feeling! Remember you’ve got all us to vent to, anytime 🥰

@RaliaMusca I'm no expert in hospital medicine. Consultants tend to prescribe it in secondary care and they are rarely wrong. Then your gp will authorise a prescription based on consultant recommendation. Progesterone suppositories/vaginal doses will not support a baby with chromosomal abnormalities. It's basically used to maintain a healthy uterine lining to support a viable embryo if the issue is low progesterone. I did read medicine.org but if your progesterone is failing it's a necessary step Xx

@lovenaps people are quite selfish I find, one of my friends went through a tough time just after my mc and I was always asking if she was okay, never got the same back! I’m not someone who needs to talk to people or get sympathy but good job really, I wouldn’t of got any!

@HalWin2221 I wanted to do it everyday in the fw so I didn’t feel like I’d missed out 🤣 it’s not been too bad tbh but hope he doesn’t get any ideas that’ll be like this all month😂

@Mariabombia 😂 your tagging me made me chuckle! Oh god sometimes don't you just wish they wouldn't say anything 🙄 It just puts fear into you. I didn't have any spotting or bleeding at all so yes it could be but it also might be nothing. It's so so hard not to worry about these things esp as you now have to wait to know for certain. I'm sending you all the big hugs and love 💕

My last mc took 6 weeks to go negative but I did have a D&C so I do think that's a bit different on the body

@HalWin2221 haha no you can trust the CBs 😂 I tracked with two of them the second was a surprise we did it once and I O 5 days later. We were being careful in FW as we were getting married in May so we planned to try properly after that. But that one time it had been a while so we sort of got distracted in the moment and I didn't imagine I would get pregnant 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was 9 weeks pregnant at our wedding 😂

I used to use the strips alongside the temping but cycle after our MC in June I upgraded to CB OPK. When I got the solid smiley I checked with a strip. I liked that I only had to do one wee in the morning with those and much easier to interpret for me. I did have a flashing smiley for about 8 days though that was very very annoying and tiring

@lovenaps remember it's ok not to be ok. talk to any of us when you need to❤️ I'm sorry I kinda lost track of everyone..are you close to testing?

I feel similar. You had a loss and it f**king hurts. I choose my friends now too, you aren't alone with this

@lovenaps big big virtual hugs 💕 I was absolutely at the end of my tether a week ago felt like I was holding on by the thinnest thread. You do get to a point where you know the friends that are worth your time and there's nothing wrong with cutting ones that are not contributing to your well being loose. As hard as it it sometimes. You will get through this one day your dream will be reality. It never even entered my head after we had DS that I would have one MC let alone 2 but it shows me how strong we all are in this group that we pick ourselves up time and time again and we just keep going because we are so determined that we know what we want and we will endure everything to get it ❤️❤️

@lovenaps oh hun, you're not alone even though it can sometimes feel like that. I have wobbles quite frequently now, that's mainly as the hope I once had is slowly diminishing. For me this journey has been going on way longer than I ever anticipated (recent diagnosis of high NK cells 😢) and 3 miscarriages. This forum is a godsend as it's somewhere we can openly talk and get support.

@mummatara so are you saying CB ovulation sticks aren't accurate 🤯

Temp went down today so doesn't look like O happened. Does temping an hour or so before your other temps affect the reading?

@mummatara 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣 technology is not my strong point lol.
Thanks for that message♥️ No more spotting so far so that's good. However that doesn't mean everything's okay but I suppose no one ever knows at 5 weeks. It's such a waiting game isn't it!

@lovenaps so many people who I thought would 'get it' don't and then some people who I didn't think would have actually surprised me, it's a weird one. I don't think people really understand until they've had a loss. Hope you're okay, we're all here for you ♥️