TTC after miscarriage thread 10

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@AwayWeGo22 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @FfayeN @Chellooo @Indianna2006 @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @Margo34 @MIW01 @MrsCristiano @Pancake92 @pangolin84 @TheBirdintheCave @theblueflowers

Sorry if I forgot anyone ❤️ also hope I've done this right 😂

@Luna57 10dpo today and a bfn this morning 🙄😫

@theblueflowers I'll be 10 dpo when we fly to Barcelona. I don't think I will test then but famous last words

@Chellooo oh no hate bfns well I know how much we all love fertile week and guess the ovulation day 🙄 I think I'll be joining you soon damn chemical pregnancy pushed back my ovulation and I didn't DTD enough during fertile week 🤷‍♀️ but we will see soon enough

Opk is darker this morning, still only 0.15 but trust me when I say yesterdays were literally blank 😆 so I’m a bit happy about that, obviously it’ll depend if they keep rising!

Only takes one little swimmer! Keep your fingers crossed

@MrsCristiano I think we’ll just take a step back on actively trying and just go with the flow and if it happens it happens. My hormones are really all over the place

@Chellooo 10dpo is still early! Don’t rule yourself out just yet

@Chellooo 10dpo over here too! Well, if my OPKs were correct, my temp didnt rise to who knows....I've told myself to resist the urge to test but let's face it, it's gonna happen isn't it!

Hi ladies,

Hope you're all doing okay?

Just found the new thread 💞
I took a bit of time out the last couple of weeks. Went on holiday...lots of cocktails, sunshine and not overthinking ttc, which mentally made me feel so much better. I decided to not take any opks away with me, but did one as soon as I got home 😂 and it went straight to peak/static smiley, which I didn't expect! Didn't even realise that could happen?! Then the next day had what I think were ovulation pains, so I guess I'm now 1DPO and in the TWW again!

@Chellooo 10dpo is still way early, don’t lose hope! Good luck when you test too @MrsCristiano @Tor88, or good luck resisting!

Glad they’re up again @LuckyMoonstone, hope they keep rising tomorrow!

Hoping for a sticky bean from your holiday then @Astar21! Hope the tww doesn’t feel too long for you!

Today my ds has been really hard work and we had to leave a mum and baby group early while I carried him out screaming (not his first nor his last screaming fit of the day!) and all my NCT friends were there with their new babies too or massive bumps giving me these smug “oh poor you with an out of control child” faces. When they’ve got two who are both perfectly behaved! Plus it’s getting harder the closer I get to what would have been my due date to be around them and all their carefree pregnancy and baby happiness! Sorry for the rant, I’m tired and my dh has had a grumpy day today so I feel like I’ve been trying really hard to keep everyone else happy when I just want to shout F* IT!!!!! And take myself off to bed 😂 hope you ladies are having a better time of it! Xx

@AwayWeGoAgain this sounds like me with my DS2😂 he's the most well balanced of all my kids now, also can relate to DH and grumpy form. NO ONE has kids that don't play up! Smug mummy happiness pisses me off !! Seriously though sorry about due date sadness it's gets me too 🥲

Whoop just got my peak this evening 🎉 🍆 🕺

@AwayWeGoAgain Ergh sounds like hell. I always struggled with feeling normal in those mum and baby groups anyway and with that on top I’d have probably walked out even if he wasn’t screaming 🤣.
To be honest my DS has been pushing my buttons today and throwing a wobbly no matter what I do. So much so that I’ve questioned whether I really do want another one… but then he looks at me with those eyes and gives me a cheeky grin and my heart melts 😭

@pangolin84 @AwayWeGoAgain honestly my boys would do anything for me now whist my DD sits in her room and gives me the death stare (total daddy's girl) 😂😂

@pangolin84 ovulation!! Fingers crossed hun 🤞

She's more like me than I care to admit!!

@Tor88 I can't bbt I just don't have the discipline. It's embarrassing 🙈

@pangolin84 yay for peak!!!!

Thanks everyone, you’re the best! Xx

Getting so fed up of DTD 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Had a few O signs today (feeling like my left ovary is bruised when I sit down) but no sharp pains yet so I'm not sure whether it's happened or not.

We're off to my colleagues wedding tomorrow and get a night in a hotel which will hopefully liven things up a little 😂

Well stark BFN at 10dpo. I've been cramping quite a lot the last few days, woke up this morn feeling really dizzy, and I've had an odd, bitter taste in my mouth a few times. It all feels really hopeful but I've had this exact experience before including a v v faint bfp which then turned immediately to a bfn despite the promising symptoms continuing, so really trying to manage my expectations.

Why is it such a MADDENING process 😅😅 I honestly look forward to the post AF pre Ovu phase in a way just give my mind a rest from being so consumed by symptom spotting.

@TheBirdintheCave haha I know exactly what you mean re DTD. But surely a nice hotel room is exactly what you need 👌And maybe some bubbles and wine at the wedding, bingo

@Tor88 I totally echo the post AF build up to O. The TWW for me has totally changed since MC. I used to have no symptoms other than back ache, the last few (even when not TTC) I've had the pulling sensation, 'warm' uterus and tingling which I had with my successful month: it's a total headf@£k! I'm now CD10 and pinning hopes on the SMEP and fertilily this month 🤞🏼

@FfayeN omg I'm so glad you said that!! I thought it was just me. Ever since my first miscarriage and even more since my second I have constant cramps and twinges everywhere, especially in the TWW. It's maddening.

With both my pregnancies I've had this very distinct burning sensation behind my pubic bone after implantation which I've never ever had in any other contexr, until a few cycles ago when I had it constantly during my TWW exactly when implantation should have been happening, but tests remained totally negative.

This may be over the top but I've almost found that harder than the miscarriages 🙈🙈Ok not true really, but its soooo hard having all these symptoms all the time and basically feeling like you have no clue what's going on with your body anymore. Plus my cycles have changed, my BBT doesn't rise like it used to.

Ok rant over lol, it's really reassuring to hear someone else talk about this though 🧡🧡😘

Well nothing more happened yesterday and OPK is just a tiny bit higher this morning than it was yesterday morning, but my ewcm has come back so I’ll carry on testing this afternoon/evening. The thing is, I just cannot be bothered to DTD. And I know it’s the one thing I HAVE to do to get pregnant and I’m just like urgh I don’t want to 😆

@Tor88 totally the same for me. I was convinced last month. So I will continue to test early as it's easier to see the negative tests for me than wait and symptom spot.
@LuckyMoonstone I absolutely get that feeling too...first few times is ok; then it gets dull and feels more like a chore. I feel for you aswell with your cycles. Is there a way to hold off for longer? Or less frequent until you think you're closer to the peak? It's so tough isn't it, but you're right...there's no way round it really xxx

@FfayeN well I think I’m gonna get a peak tonight or tomorrow so I have purposefully left it until the last minute lol

@LuckyMoonstone persevere lovely: maybe have a nice treat planned for yourself for after O and it's done. I feel like we all need medals 🤣🤣🤣

@LuckyMoonstone know the feeling!! The two times I've conceived I've just DTD twice, one in lead up to peak and once at peak, so be kind to yourself if you only do it once/twice!

@FfayeN do you mean you test early to avoid getting your hopes up?? I'm trying to resist after BFN yest, my problem is I still manage to convince myself the bfn will become a bfp so even negative tests dont really put it out of my mind 😅😅

@Tor88 @FfayeN I swear my post ovulation symptoms happen earlier and earlier each cycle. I have been tracking for such a long time now that I don't think it's just me being more observant and noticing symptoms, but I never used to get sore boobs until the second half of the TWW and now they are going for it at 3DPO. It makes me think my hormones must be out of whack.