TTC after miscarriage thread 10

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@AwayWeGo22 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @FfayeN @Chellooo @Indianna2006 @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @Margo34 @MIW01 @MrsCristiano @Pancake92 @pangolin84 @TheBirdintheCave @theblueflowers

Sorry if I forgot anyone ❤️ also hope I've done this right 😂

@AwayWeGoAgain thank you so much x I went for a walk with DS and it made me feel a little better. Still feeling a bit deflated though 😞 no I def didn’t peak, I test several times a day and I temp! Last month it was like CD 28 or something when i ovulated so it looks like it’s heading the same way. I was just hoping it wouldn’t take so long again this cycle. I’m mad about the eating because I’m trying to lose weight and this week was supposed to be a strict week but I ruined it by going at the biscuits every evening, so now I haven’t lost any weight for the last couple of weeks which is annoying when it’s going sooo slowly anyway!

@Mariabombia I am so sorry you are going through this grieving process and sometimes it feels it’s never ending. Thank you so much for sharing I feel you on every level, I had a stillborn baby 5 weeks ago and it hurts how my own mum wants me to quickly “move on” ! I think it’s so unfair what we are all going through and the pain of losing a baby at any stage is really something else, that no one should expect us to just move on grief comes in waves and it’s unpredictable you are not alone @Margo34 you are right if these things were happening to men there would be more research and we would all have our healthy babies and not have to have this anxiety and multiple threads on ttc.

I have also made a decision today as I have under active thyroid, prolactinoma, fibroids and PCOS. Although I had a C section 5 weeks ago and advised to wait but my heart hurts so much when I think of Leo passing away . So I will be joining you ladies in 14 days time, I have done my research and because I have been in bed resting the past 5 weeks my c section feels strong outside and as they will monitor me more carefully as they didn’t last time I will start trying because it took us a while to conceive Leo, I actually found out I was pregnant on the first day when I went for IVF treatment. He was conceived naturally in the end but it took a while and now today the doctor told me I have to wait 6 months and to go back on the IVF list I have to try for 2 months the pain of loosing him I can’t wait that long especially with all the health issues I have. I just can’t do it!

Hi folks, I've been on the last two threads but a bit intermittent, so just adding something so I can start following this one 😊😊

Having an angry day today. Third cycle in a row I've had positive OPKs and EWCM but then no BBT rise until about 6 days later (I kept going with OPKs but they never turned positive again). Truly bizarre and v frustrating. That's every cycle since my second miscarriage. I have a scan next Thurs to look at my cyst and try and figure out if it's that or something else that caused the explosive pain that sent me to a&e about a month after my second MC. Who knows if it's all relative. Honestly this year can just done one 😅

And then today my sister shared a celebrity pregnancy announcement in our family whatsapp chat. I mean wtf?! Im trying to be chill but that feels so insensitive. She knows exactly what I've been through.

Just needed to vent... People who haven't been through it just don't get it do they 🥺 Love and baby dust to all xxx

Glad you’re feeling a bit brighter @LuckyMoonstone! I know it’s easy to say but try not to be too hard on yourself about the biscuits, you’re stressed about the lack of ov so maybe now isn’t the best week to try to be strict? Plus you need the nutrients to make a good egg! I have been known to demolish a packet or more of biscuits in one sitting when I’m stressed, dh calls me the velociraptor 😂 I’ll pray that your ov comes sooner than last month!

@Tor88 people can be so insensitive, it’s so frustrating!!! I kept getting invited to baby showers straight after my mmc by people who knew and I was like… Why?!?! Hope your scan goes well, let us know! must be so frustrating about the bbt/opks! Hope they can get to the bottom of that at the same time! Can they do a blood test or something to check when you’re ovulating?

Hi @Daisy155! I’m so sorry for your loss, that must have been horribly traumatic, you must be a strong lady for surviving and even contemplating trying again 💪 my SIL had a baby born sleeping then went on to have two healthy boys and she is hands down the strongest person I know for getting through that! I know this isn’t what you want to hear (and absolutely NO JUDGMENT here) but if the doc has advised you to wait, maybe you should get more medical advice or a second doctor’s opinion before trying again? Only I think they advise people to wait after c-sections because whilst the outside heals pretty fast, the uterine muscles take longer and if you did get a bfp right away you’re at a much higher risk of uterine rupture which could be fatal to you and/or the baby. Or the embryo could implant in the scar tissue and cause miscarriage or lots of really horrible problems. I’m not a doctor so don’t take my word on it but might just be worth getting a second opinion? Sorry if I’ve stuck my nose in where it wasn’t wanted and of course we’re here to support you whatever you choose but I just want you to make sure you’re safe xx

@AwayWeGoAgain thank you lovely x I’ll try not to feel so bad

Hi all, I just came across this thread. I was wondering if someone could help me. I miscarried 7 days ago (first trimester) and I was hospitalised because of the blood loss and pain that made me scream in agony. I also vomited and couldn’t stand because I was in pain and dizzy. I bled through a pad every hour for 3 days and bled for a total of 6 days.

I track my bbt. It was high throughout the bleeding and it’s still high! Is this normal? I’m still a bit all over the place because I was told I would struggle to conceive (I’m only mid 20s) and it was a shock to see those 2 pink lines when I was 2-3 days late 😕

Hi @rubysparkles1 sorry for your loss and what a horribly traumatic thing to go through. I think it takes a while for hcg to leave your system which may cause the raised bbt, it took me about a month to get a negative pregnancy test. Hopefully yours will be sooner. Though my heart rate absolutely plummeted because of all the bleeding. Sending you love

@AwayWeGoAgain Thank you so much for your response, You are so kind and thank you for sharing about your SIL. I really wish that for myself as well, due to medical negligence the consultants and midwives missed all the complications I was having. The woman surgeon who did my c section said to wait ( she didn’t give me a time scale) but to try when I felt mentally ready due to my infertility issues and everyone has to do the rest and make sure this doesn’t happen again. The GP that said I should wait 6 - plus 2 months so 8 months for the IVF - I am on maternity leave and I am worried with my age and situation it will take a long time to conceive anyway. Maybe I am just really hurt 😞me and hubby almost dtd yesterday but we stopped ourselves due to these risks that you mentioned and I have also asked several Doctors at the hospital and said if I got pregnant so quickly by “mistake” for instance what would happen they said they now have to monitor me extremely close from the beginning and they will go above and beyond to ensure safe delivery and that it’s happened before and people have gone to have healthy babies but it’s risky if especially if I choose VBAC but I won’t. I have also got in contact on Instagram with mums who had the same thing and most of them got pregnant 3 to 6 months after baby loss! So I want to try I have faith it will go well, I am going to my 6 week appointment next week and I already asked more tests before I start trying again including scans! Plus going to the hospital right now for multiple blood tests to ensure my hormone levels are getting better! I will keep you updated after the 6 weeks appointment but my heart of all hearts I wont lie, we both want to try as soon as possible! It’s all we both think about and research

@AwayWeGoAgain @MrsCristiano @mummatara so I just caved and tested... B...F... fucking N 🙄 pretty pissed if I'm being honest

Well this evening’s OPK has gone up to 0.51 from 0.29 this morning so I’ve got my fingers crossed for peak tomorrow 🤞
Would be nice to not have 8 days of those flashing smileys…

Welcome to the group @rubysparkles1, I’m so sorry for your loss and the trauma you have suffered. I don’t know for sure about the bbt but like @Annapolis35 said, it’s probably because your pregnancy hormone is still high even when the baby has gone. It took 2.5 weeks for mine to go down. If your temp starts going up it could be a sign of infection so just keep an eye on it for a few days and contact your epau or gp if you’re worried. Do you have people around you supporting your emotional (as well as physical) recovery? We’ve all been through some variation of this awful thing so we’re here if you need us. I hope you’re ok, sending virtual hugs.

Hi @Daisy155 that all makes perfect sense! Sorry I didn’t mean to question it but I was just a bit worried about you before you explained! Of course you are really hurt and it’s on your mind all the time, you have been through something indescribably awful and I can’t imagine how you must be feeling right now. Please keep us updated after your 6 week appointment and know that we are all here if you need us! Wishing you all the best with ttc and your next pregnancy when it comes! Xxx

@Chellooo Sorry to hear that. BFNs are always shit ☹️

@Chellooo @pangolin84 sorry I missed your messages somehow!

@Chellooo don't panic! Give it 48hrs and try again, if you’re early it could still turn into a bfp, you’re not out until af shows up!

@pangolin84 woohoo! Peak is coming! Time to get busy 😜

@AwayWeGoAgain thank you for your kind words❤️ I’ve only spoken to my DP about this. My parents knew I was in pain and sick but they assumed it was a horrific period.

@Daisy155 @rubysparkles1 so sorry to read about your losses, take one day at a time and look after yourself.

@Chellooo what Dpo are you? I want to test too but don’t want to see a bfn, might test Sunday which will be Dpo 12. Tho I might have had a few AF twinges today 🙄

@Talia11 I'm either day 8 or 9, I can't bloody tell anymore! According to flo app I'm due af on Wednesday if that helps

@Chellooo ah you’re still quite early, hopefully you will see those bfp lines soon!!

@Chellooo still way early...Was it a 10iu test? Even with a super early clear blue I didn't get a positive til 10 dpo and only under certain lights xx keep the faith🤞

My opk is just starting to drop though I would have killed for a line like todays on Tuesday 🙄

Thanks ladies but given that my boobs don't feel any different and they did when I was pregnant before the mc, im taking it as a no...it was with a frer so thought they were meant to pick up pretty early

@Luna57 how are you doing?

@Indianna2006 totally agree. Endless worry! I also don't think trawling through MN reading horror stories helps either 😫..I'm hoping once u start to feel little flutters/kicks then it'll be slightly more reassuring xx

@AwayWeGoAgain thank you so much fingers crossed all is well and we get the green light to go just got back from the hospital for my bloods and I also managed to get a scan done today! I am much more assertive now I used to be embarrassed and shy to ask for things at the hospital. I will never ever do that again! Thank you so much @Talia11 you are so kind @Chellooo so sorry you feel frustrated I hope you get the BFP soon x

@MrsCristiano im 14dpo today I did test this morning just to be sure but bfn. My womb and back is so sore it’s not even cramps today it’s just pain. It was so bad earlier I couldn’t even straighten when standing. The pains and cramps come and go wish AF would just come now. Are you in the TWW now?

im a bit torn whether to leave TTC a few months. My SIL has started meds for IVF and I love her so dearly I would hate for her round to not be successful which is very possible due to both their diagnoses and for us to get pregnant (if we’re lucky enough). When we found out I was pregnant last month my first thoughts was ‘how are we gonna tell her’.

@Chellooo how many dpo are you?

How is everyone?

@Luna57 sorry for the bfn. Just do what's right for you and a break would let your body heal more. Hormones really do go nuts after miscarriage.

Yes day 1 of TWW for me. As signalled by the sore boobs when I woke. I hate this part ☹️

Hi all,

I've been away from this thread for a few days- lots to catch up on!

Welcome to everyone who has joined, hopefully you won't be here long!

I'm 3DPO today. I've decided I'm actually going to test early this cycle and not wait for AF. I actually found seeing AF arrive last cycle much more upsetting. I think for me, a negative test sort of softens the blow, and then I am okay when AF comes because it's the start of a new cycle. I wonder if it's because both of my miscarriages started with seeing blood. It has never worked out well for me when that happens.

Hope everyone is doing okay.