TTC after miscarriage thread 10

[mummatara]

@AwayWeGo22 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @FfayeN @Chellooo @Indianna2006 @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @Margo34 @MIW01 @MrsCristiano @Pancake92 @pangolin84 @TheBirdintheCave @theblueflowers

Sorry if I forgot anyone ❤️ also hope I've done this right 😂

@LuckyMoonstone why is nothing ever simple ?? I'm stressed

@Chellooo I echo what @AwayWeGoAgain says but I really can't talk either I caved at 8dpo 🤦🏼‍♀️ there's def no judgement in this camp 🤞🏼

@MrsCristiano eurgh that's frustrating 😭 bloody men always want it when it's not optimum time though don't they 🙄

@LuckyMoonstone sorry lovely hopefully you get so movement on them tomorrow 🤞🏼

@calimc83 I really ummed and ahhed about an early scan as we went for one last time at 8 weeks and all was fine until the 12 week when we lost at 10 so I was like eurgh do I go for one or just leave myself to fester until 12 weeks. In the end we've decided to have one when we get back from holiday I'll be 8+6 ultimately I'm trying to be a positive polly if I keep telling myself it's all good then it will be. Are you having one?

@AwayWeGoAgain I really hope you are in our we feel like shite club ❤️

@mummatara I've got my Victoria's Secret underwear on and the fucker is asleep on the couch. MEN 😡

@MrsCristiano oh no he didn't 😳😡😡 pour a cold glass of water over him as punishment 🤔

@mummatara haha did that once before not ttc related it didn't go down well 😂 hopefully the swimmers last 3 days 🙄 mind if they are like him they won't

@MrsCristiano 🤣🤣 omg I'm dying on both comments but in all seriousness I hope they do last 3 days 🤞🏼🙏🏼

@ChloeN Sorry to hear about your loss, hope you’re recovering well.

That doesn’t make sense does it?! I’ve read countless posts about people getting pregnant post MMC before a period! Hope it’s our month! Xxp

Pfff even lower this morning 🫤 but still ewcm like I have had the last few days

@MrsCristiano nooooo 🫣 did you manage to wake him up?!!

@LuckyMoonstone oh no! Maybe it'll pick back up in you're afternoon pee?

@Chellooo I think it depends on how you feel either seeing a bfn (obviously its bloody brilliant if it's a bfp though!) do you have any symptoms that are unusual for you? Personally, I would probs wait a few more days to give you a clearer reading.

@MrsCristiano 🤣 your comments cracked me up! I’m sorry it was a waste of nice undies though! Men!!!! 😤 they definitely can live at least that long, maybe try to get one more dtd in tonight though just in case if you aren’t too furious with him!

@LuckyMoonstone oh that is so frustrating! Hope you get peak today!

@mummatara that sounds like a good plan, just try not to worry about it while you’re away!!!! Xxx

@AwayWeGoAgain I'm so annoyed he's in for a world of sexual frustration til next month 🤣

@MrsCristiano your tests were really dark even before your peak so you may O super quickly and day 3 may actually be perfect timing!

@bunnykins123 that's the only thing giving me a smidgen of hope right now. And also keeping DH alive 🤣

@Chellooo did you test 🙈

@MrsCristiano at least if you leave him hanging you might be able to get it down to 5 seconds 😜

@LuckyMoonstone hopefully later least you still have the ewcm so it's just taking it's bloody time

Even if it does go up later I definitely won’t be peaking tonight. Earliest would be tomorrow night as it’s always evening for me, but I usually start off with at least a 0.3-0.4 on morning of my peak. Today it’s 0.07 🤣

Morning ladies, had a massive meltdown last night, just couldn't stop crying. It's not like I ever forget about our loss but sometimes the sadness is just overwhelming. Sometimes I just can't believe it's actually happened 💔

Morning everyone! I seemed to lose this thread for a while even though I was tagged in it 😂Still getting EWCM here so no O to report yet. I'm CD14 now and have my fingers crossed that it will happen within the next few days. I want to be able to go swimming on holiday so badly 😭

Welcome to all the newbies!

Also, in response to the earlier discussion I also have a tilted uterus and get bad O pains. Maybe there's a connection?

@MrsCristiano @mummatara 🤣 5 seconds would be impressive!

@TheBirdintheCave @LuckyMoonstone hope your ovs show up quickly for you! The waiting is a nightmare, I feel like 99.9% of ttc is just annoying waiting!!!

Oh @Mariabombia im so sorry you’re feeling down honey. Grief can be so strange like that, you think you’re getting along fine and then suddenly the loss feels so fresh and raw it takes your breath away. What has happened to you and all of us is so heartbreakingly unfair we know exactly where you’re coming from. Have you got a supportive partner or friends/ family around you? I’m always here for a chat or a rant and wish I could give you all a cuddle on the shit days! It’s totally normal to feel really sad some days, I still do too. But if you think it’s more than that and you’re really struggling don’t be ashamed to seek help from a counsellor or your gp. I found the miscarriage association really helpful after our loss, you can chat to their “experts” online or via email so might be worth a look if you want more support www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/your-feelings/your-mental-health/looking-after-your-mental-health-after-pregnancy-loss/ Sending lots of love xxx

@mummatara the same has happened to me with early scans 😫..u think you are safe when u hear that heartbeat. But with this PG I've been seen by the EPU every 2 weeks. So I've had 2 so far. It kills me every time 😬..makes me so so nervous! @AwayWeGoAgain im convinced you're in the feels like 🤢 club. Everything crossed for you xx

Thank you for your lovely msg @AwayWeGoAgain ♥️ & that's really good advice about reaching out to the miscarriage association, I didn't realise you can email ! It's just so painful to discuss I feel like that would be easier.

I have a really wonderful partner and support network and I'm honestly doing well but sometimes it just hits you like a ton of bricks doesnt it. I really appreciate your support, sending you a virtual cuddle right back! Whenever you need to rant or anything I'm here too.

I was seeing a psychotherapist before I even had my mc because I was overly anxious about ttc. The nurse who spoke to me after the mc said she would be able to book me in for more sessions in light of what had happened so I had a session after my mc and the therapist basically said I'm dealing with it well and she doesn't need to see me which wasn't the most helpful tbh. She also told me to just try again as it would help with the grieving & that she sees women who have multiple mcs and still births etc , I just felt quite dismissed tbh & almost like my situation wasn't bad enough or I wasn't sad enough. Think she might be the only therapist affiliated to my hospital for this stuff! I have EAP with work though so I'm going to give them a call for some general cbt for anxiety, I'm just putting it off as it's so hard to discuss the mc.

The whole thing is just bloody stressful and I feel really strongly that if men physically had to go through this there would be way more support and way more testing etc.

Anyway thanks for the virtual hand hold, I'm just ranting now 🙈

@Mariabombia I'm sorry you are feeling so sad lovely. It's not fair 💔

@Mariabombia I actually seem to have alienated a lot of people or people who don't know and are insensitive. DH to give him credit is good.

@MrsCristiano thank you lovely lady. Glad you have good support from dh.
It's hard not to distance yourself from certain people isn't it!

@Mariabombia yea it's forgotten so quickly by everyone but I can't forget.

@Mariabombia I get exactly how you feel 😞 and sometimes it’s like everyone else just expects me to move on and be normal, and has no idea that I can’t just do that because my life has changed forever, and they just don’t get it. Hope you’re ok xx