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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 22:01

@yorkshiremumofone sorry forgot to tag you lol

yorkshiremumofone · 09/07/2022 08:06

@TheCakeIsALie18 Thankyou that helped!!

I did another test this morning my wee was a little diluted so the test is lighter 😳 which has me worrying, I'm going to do the same thing again and test same time as yesterday with my frer and hold my wee hoping it will be darker 🙈 should I be worried?

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Lauren441 · 09/07/2022 08:25

@yorkshiremumofone - Yesss! Huge congrats on that beautiful positive line! ❤️

@maya12345 - I did write the number down, but I left the paper at my mums house. But the hcg was around 3450mIU/ml. Which is good, as I know I'm somewhere between 5/6 weeks. The range for hcg is massive though, so it's important to remember that even if you get quite a low number for your week, you can still have a perfectly healthy normal pregnancy. It's for this reason that the range is so broad. As a rough example....

3 weeks 5–72 mIU/mL
4 weeks 10–708 mIU/mL
5 weeks 217–8,245 mIU/mL
6 weeks 152–32,177 mIU/mL
7 weeks 4,059–153,767 mIU/mL
8 weeks 31,366–149,094 mIU/mL
9 weeks 59,109–135,901 mIU/mL
10 weeks 44,186–170,409 mIU/mL
12 weeks 27,107–201,165 mIU/mL

The most important thing to help determine a growing pregnancy is that the level of hcg doubles every 48/72 hours if it's around 1000mIU/ml or under. And if its over 1000mIU/ml then it should increase by around 60/70% every 3 days or so.

Hop this makes sense. I'll keep you posted on my Monday count.

@waitingwatchingpeeing - think I'll do a digi tomorrow. :)

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Lauren441 · 09/07/2022 08:27

TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 22:00

Something I keep telling myself is that the CP wasn't my fault. It was likely to be a genetic problem between sperm and egg. Something predetermined. Something out of my control.

What it also proves is that I can get pregnant and the statistic are in my favour in that I should be able to carry to term and have a healthy baby.

I hope that helps a little bit. Continue doing the things you love. The endorphins from that is more beneficial to you than being overly careful staying at home xx

@TheCakeIsALie18 - such a good outlook, and you're so right 🙌🏼. I completely agree. Although somehow my anxious brain still manages to creep up here and there. Fingers crossed though, after this first 12 weeks we will all relax and enjoy it a little more. X

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Maya12345 · 09/07/2022 11:53

@Lauren441 wow that's so interesting! Thankyou for sharing that. Crazy how huge that range is.

@TheCakeIsALie18 omg you lift 150kg that is so cool. What an awesome outlook at well.

@yorkshiremumofone dont worry about it being light still you're still so early on! Especially if your wee was light too. Its defo darker than your first one yesterday!

I'm not sure if it's left over from the covid still but I've started to feel super woozy and nauseous today. How's everyone else feeling?

Xx

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 09/07/2022 11:58

That's a great count @Lauren441 you will def get a 3+ when you do the digi as that's well over the threshold 😍

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 09/07/2022 12:05

@yorkshiremumofone whoop another good line 🤩 I used to always test daily but after my CP last month I tested every 48hr at the same time and it def helped reduce anxiety

TheCakeIsALie18 · 09/07/2022 21:40

@Lauren441 I do like to try and stay positive. I understand the anxiety though. It still creeps up on me!

@Maya12345 haha thanks. I do love to lift along with karate, judo, horse riding, ballroom dancing and gymnastics lol. Luckily I can still do everything except gymnastics as I teach the martial arts haha.

@yorkshiremumofone yay! Another good line. Eeeek can't wait to see tomorrow's one!

Xx

yorkshiremumofone · 10/07/2022 11:10

Morning ladies

How are you all feeling?

I'm just super tired at the min!!

I'm going to test again this afternoon obviously 🤣 when did you all stop testing daily? My OH doesn't get the panic for me.
Also going to order some weeks CB what DPO did you do yours?

Hope your enjoying the sun☀️

Lauren441 · 10/07/2022 19:03

Hi!

Hope you've all been enjoying the sun?

I had my 3+ on a digi today! 🙌🏼 So ill be ringing the midwife in the morning to confirm/arrange bookings.

@yorkshiremumofone - I think now I've had my 3+ ill stop testing every day, maybe even all-together. Maybe just to the odd one here and there to reduce my anxiety. How's your tests looking now?

@waitingwatchingpeeing - the clearblue didn't show 3+ on Friday even though my levels were way above the threshold. That's probably because bloods are far more accurate and my urine sample was late in the day so really diluted also. I give it until today to retest. And will keep you posted on the blood results of tomorrow.

Hope you're all doing OK? @TheCakeIsALie18 @maya12345 @laurzz @waitingwatchingpeeing @yorkshiremumofone

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Lauren441 · 10/07/2022 19:04

Forgot to attach!

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yorkshiremumofone · 10/07/2022 20:35

@Lauren441 massive congratulations on your 3 plus!!!! 😀 does it make you feel a little less anxious? How many DPO are you now?

My tests are still going strong 🤞🏼🤞🏼 thinking of getting in contact with docs tomorrow to have the bloods checked for hcg levels! Do you think it's worth it?

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 10/07/2022 20:39

Exciting @Lauren441 🤩
And ofcourse, I forgot the levels can be different across blood/urine.

I'm trying to stay calm despite not really having any symptoms for a few days now. I had one moment where I felt nauseous yesterday for a few mins and today have felt like I have low blood pressure (which I got a lot with DD) but I'm scraping the barrel to try and find anything really 😳 hopefully will start feeling a bit more pregnant this week, I don't have any normal tests left only a digi so I can't even test to reassure myself 🤦🏼‍♀️

How is everyone doing? How are the lines coming along @yorkshiremumofone?

yorkshiremumofone · 10/07/2022 20:49

@WaitingWatchingPeeing awwww bless you! I know how your feeling at the minute I don't have any symptoms other than bigger boobs! I'm sure the digi will be fine!! Do you think you'll stop testing soon? Or order more?

I was Googling symptoms earlier and some don't start till 6 weeks!

Line progression good at the moment!

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 10/07/2022 21:35

Yay congrats on getting your 3 week digi @Lauren441

Ooooh those lines are looking good @yorkshiremumofone

It's been a crazy busy day for me today. On the go non stop. I'm on 7dpo today and holding stong haha. Will aim to test next Saturday. AF due 17th. I've had light cramping a lot of today and the last 2 days I've been on my knees tired. 9 hours sleep, an afternoon nap and still want to be in bed by 8pm!

I hope you're all doing well xx

Laurzz · 11/07/2022 07:20

@Lauren441 Amazing! That's another milestone smashed 💪.

@yorkshiremumofone lines looking good. I asked my GP if they would check my hcg levels via a blood test and they refused. However that was my GP so might be worth a shot. It will defiantly give you re-assurance.

@TheCakeIsALie18 Let's hope you get your BFP this cycle 😀.

I'm 14 weeks and 3 days so officially into the 2nd trimester. I've been feeling pretty rubbish the last few days but think the heat has a massive part to play in that. My tender breasts have completely gone and morning sickness comes and go's. I don't know if I'm bloated or if I can see a small bump forming.

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 08:38

Thanks @Laurzz I'm sorry you're feeling rubbish! Even if it is bloating bean is growing nicely and most likely will be making a bump appear soon! Eeek exciting ❤️

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 09:29

@Laurzz awwwww amazing your officially in the 2nd trimester!! 😀 another amazing milestone!
It's good you've not got major symptoms though think of that as a good thing (even tho I know we want some haha)

Well I've sent off to the doctors this morning a request for my bloods so we will see what will they will come back with!

My digis are coming today and I don't know when do to them as I'm so nervous I don't want to see 1-2 weeks on it as that's all it went too last time 😓😓

Hope everyone's well this morning! Xx

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 09:30

@TheCakeIsALie18 good that you had a busy day yesterday! Keeping your mind occupied!!! Eeeeeek your getting closer! Do you think you'll resit in testing any earlier? ☺️

Laurzz · 11/07/2022 09:44

@TheCakeIsALie18 thank you! My clothes feel slightly tighter but nothing major. I'm looking forward to wearing what I want with a bump without worrying its too clingy 😂.

@yorkshiremumofone I know I always feel but for complaining about my symptoms but sometimes you just need too! Oh I hope you get a better response than I did. Although I midwife is amazing! I'd stuck to the dates in the leaflet to avoid disappointment. I really hope you see that 3+ soon.

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 11:01

@yorkshiremumofone well I've just got back from a trip to tesco...and I walked straight past the preg tests... so I'm staying strong 😅 I've got a reasonably busy week this week with sports massage clients so that should help me resist the urge lol. But I reckon I'll cave by Friday. Hoping to go out for a meal with hubby on Saturday...would be nice to have something to celebrate about... xx

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 11:02

@Laurzz flaunt the bump! Is it bad that I have a wish list of maternity clothes on depop and shein waiting..... 😅❤️

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 16:56

@Laurzz well I've heard nothing back from my doctors at all!!! Think I will chase them up tomororw if not heard! How have you been feeling today? Any more symptoms? Oh absolutely we all love to complain about symptoms! And it someways you want them just to make it feel more real!

@TheCakeIsALie18 omg!! Go you! The will power is real! But that would be super cute something to celebrate at the weekend 🥰 you'll have to let us know if you test on Friday!

I think I'll do my cb weeks mid to end of this week! I have a wedding to go too on Saturday and not looking forward to wearing a tight dress as feel bloated and having to make excuses as to why I'm not drinking!

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 17:24

@yorkshiremumofone haha yeah, I'm hoping for something to celebrate. I'll keep you posted.

As for the tight dress and not drinking...you could say the heat is making you uncomfortable and therefore not want to drink... I think they'd buy that. In this heat all I want to do is drink water! Xx

Laurzz · 12/07/2022 07:17

@yorkshiremumofone hopefully they get back to you soon. Yesterday i just felt awful and struggled to eat. I work in an stuffy office environment with a strict dress code and i think the heat had a part to play in it. This morning i'm feeling ok but still not great. Hopefully they will lift over the next few days!

I managed to avoid boozy social events for 12 weeks but would have used the car as an excuse 😂.

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