Medical termination and ttc

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Has anyone else had to have a medical termination then ttc again?

I am absolutely petrified to ttc again incase the same issue arises but I desperately want another baby. I’m not sure I can put myself through the pain again but the overwhelming urge to have a child isn’t going away.

I’m heartbroken and grieving as it was recently which isn’t helping.

@Hopingforbetterluck I've had a sugary cup of (decaf) tea and I think I've stopped shaking! It feels crazy quick after only deciding to try again a couple of weeks ago, wasn't expecting anything yet. I'm guessing the worried feeling won't get any better 😳
How are you feeling about tomorrow?

@HoneyPea it was the same here, we weren’t even supposed to be trying until we’d been on holiday and in the end I didn’t tell DH until we got home as I didn’t want to ruin his holiday with worrying. It’s hard not to worry but I actually managed to put it out of my mind quite a lot until I had the 12 week scan so you might surprise yourself. I just focused on DS and keeping busy! I’m here whenever you want to chat or rant or get anything off your chest x
I’m very nervous about tomorrow, more than I was about my 12 week scan for some reason but it’s first thing in the morning so at least I won’t be waiting around.

@Hopingforbetterluck Thank you so much 🥰 and the same for you. Whatever you decide to do tomorrow will be the best thing for you and your baby x

@Hopingforbetterluck Hope everything went ok this morning x

@HoneyPea yes thank you, everything went well. The scan looked normal and I decided against having a cvs after talking it through with the doctor. If I change my mind about further testing I can have an amnio after 16 weeks but for now they’ve discharged me to normal antenatal care with no extra scans or anything. 🙁
How are you feeling today now it’s sunk in?

@Hopingforbetterluck Still feeling nervous. Had a chat with DH and he's feeling very worried to. Wondering if we get any extra support (offer of NIPT etc) I don't think I would go for CVS if 12 wk scan looked ok either thinking about it.
How do you feel about being discharged?

@HoneyPea it’s probably only natural that you’re both worried. I expected more extra support than we’ve had TBH we were pretty much left alone until the 12 week scan. I looked into paying for NIPT privately but as I understood it it really only looks for the main Trisomy’s and that wasn’t relevant to us. It’s probably worth paying privately if you can find a clinic that would test for the particular issue that affected you though.
I’m not too happy at being discharged as I was hoping for an extra heart scan (the chromosome issue in our last pregnancy caused issues with baby’s heart). I suppose if I feel I need that extra reassurance I can always pay for another scan before our 20 week anomaly one. Is just so hard isn’t it, all the what ifs and questioning everything x

@Hopingforbetterluck I was hoping they would offer the NIPT and an extra heart scan as our baby had T21 and associated bad heart issues, cystic hygroma and membrane issues. Was your 12week scan with a consultant or a sonographer?
Is there no way you could ask them to do a detailed scan on the heart to relive your anxiety?

@HoneyPea our 12 week scan was with a sonographer and then the consultants dept called that afternoon to book me in for a scan with them. As harsh as it sounds I just figured they didn’t want to waste the consultants time without checking it was a viable pregnancy with a standard scan first. I did ask today if we could have a detailed heart scan in a few weeks but he said there was no need. There feels like a need to me but medically apparently not!
In your case I’m sure you could push for a NIPT if it’s not offered as they can test for T21 with NIPT so you’ve got grounds to ask for it x

@Hopingforbetterluck I've just filled out the online new pregnancy form. It felt weird to log in and see the information from Feb all there on the screen saying delivered at 18weeks 😭

I think if you feel there is a need for the scan they should be trying to accommodate you. I say this now but I'll probably be saying the same thing after mine when they won't give me one either!