Medical termination and ttc

[Cakesnbiscuit]

Has anyone else had to have a medical termination then ttc again?

I am absolutely petrified to ttc again incase the same issue arises but I desperately want another baby. I’m not sure I can put myself through the pain again but the overwhelming urge to have a child isn’t going away.

I’m heartbroken and grieving as it was recently which isn’t helping.

@RMS0209 thank you, I think that’s the best course of action. Maybe by the time I get back you will have your BFP. I really hope so.

@Hopingforbetterluck Really hoping this is the case for you, have a wonderful holiday! well deserved x

@Hopingforbetterluck Definitely think it's best to go and have a lovely holiday although I know it will be difficult to put it out of your mind. Then who knows you may have some lovely news when you get home 😊 x

@RMS0209 That is interesting about the multivitamin. I looked into taking some of the pregnacare TTC tablets and people had said the same thing about them so decided to just take folic acid with B12 x

That's what I was on! @HoneyPea Pregnacare before conception his & hers,..... avoid it x

@RMS0209 Thanks I definitely will. I'm coming to the end of my first box so will probably just get the same again then x

i'm just using boots own folic acid, cheap and cheerful does the job! I do however have a drawer full of supplements oopsie.. I got my OH the wild nutrition ones they are meant to be really good, he starts them today. x

@RMS0209 I haven't even looked at supplements for DH. Might give it a few months of TTC and then if nothing happens look into different supplements x

@Hopingforbetterluck Hope you had an amazing holiday.
@RMS0209 @HedgehogToes @Cakesnbiscuit Hope you are all ok x

@HoneyPea thank you, I had a lovely holiday but it’s good to be back home! How are you feeling now, any better than you were?
hope everyone else is doing ok

@Hopingforbetterluck I'm glad you had a nice holiday, it's nice to have a change of scenery 😊
I'm feeling a bit better physically now thank you, still keep getting the feeling of having an infection every few weeks though which is rubbish!
Struggling a bit mentally as some big events that were going to be very close to my due date are coming up, DS birthday and settling in days at preschool. I had picked out a nice maternity dress for his birthday which I now don't need and don't know what I will do with myself for the days he goes to preschool as I was meant to have a baby to look after 😞😢 x

i didn’t have to make that decision but I did face a medical termination due to high NT which we would have had after testing. Mother Nature made a decision for me and I lost one of my twins. All I can say is I hadn’t realised how many of us go through loss for a medical reason and how hard it is. Sending you lots of hope for the future .

@HoneyPea I’m sorry you’re struggling. My due date is coming up too in a couple of weeks and I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve decided to redecorate the house to distract me. Could you take on a bit of a project like that to keep you busy while DS is at preschool? I’ve kept a maternity dress that I never got to wear from two pregnancies ago and I see it every time I open my wardrobe. It’s strange isn’t it, the things that can upset you.

@Hopingforbetterluck we are halfway through getting the kitchen redone so need to get that finished first, it just seems to be taking ages but then I think I might start trying to tidy and de clutter everywhere. We told DS he would need to move rooms, now he keeps talking about it and asking when it's going to happen so his new room might be a project for when he's at preschool.
Have you decided to do anything to mark your babies due date?

@HoneyPea we scattered our little boy’s ashes at a local beauty spot so on his due date I’ll probably go there for a while but other than that I haven’t planned anything. So few people knew I was pregnant because we’d been very private about it due to our previous losses so I’m not sure anyone other than me will even remember it’s his due date and that makes me sad.

@Hopingforbetterluck 💐

Hi ladies, I hope you’re all doing as well as can be expected? I’m sorry if I upset anyone posting this on here, it’s just you’ve all been in my past situation and I don’t know who to ask for advice. If I upset anyone please let me know and I’ll delete if I can.
I am now nearly 13 weeks pregnant following my TFMR in feb. My dating scan looked ok but I’ve been given the option of having a CVS next week given my past. I really thought I wanted to have it to rule out the 1% chance of the genetic issue from last time happening again but now I’m not sure. As I’ve had miscarriages in the past the possibility of the cvs causing a miscarriage scares me. Does anyone have any thoughts, I’m completely torn.

@Hopingforbetterluck Congratulations, how are you feeling about it all?
I'm sorry I didn't see your message earlier have you made a decision about the CVS? To be honest with you I have no idea what I would do (I know that's not helpful sorry) On one hand I would want it to rule out the possibility but on the other I would be scared of something happening although the chances are extremely small. Did you have a cvs last time? I had an Amnio for my TFMR baby. Sending you lots of love x

@HoneyPea thank you. I don’t feel excited or relieved that the scan was ok so far. It still feels very early to me and I feel like I’m just waiting for something to go wrong as it has the last three times.
I had a cvs for my TFMR but the consultant at the time pointed out to me that the chances of something being wrong with the baby were far higher than the chances of a miscarriage from the procedure (1/16 vs 1/100) so I felt comfortable having it. This time as the scan looks ok I’m really confused about what to do. DH has also said this is it for him and if anything went wrong he doesn’t want to try again as it’s just too hard. This is our fourth and final roll of the dice so to speak so I don’t want to take any unnecessary risks iyswim.
the consultant was helpful last time so I will talk it over with him but just wanted some opinions from people who might face the same decisions in the future, although I completely understand it’s hard to say what you would do - I can’t even decide what to do and I need to make the decision by Thursday.

@Hopingforbetterluck we made the decision to start trying again this month and I've been feeling sick the last few nights and I'm stressing about the thought of possibly being pregnant so I really cant imagine how difficult it is for you.
Are you any closer to making a decision? X

@HoneyPea it’s good that you feel ready to start trying again. Are you thinking of taking a test if you’ve been feeling a bit sick? It’s difficult when all you want is a baby but then don’t actually feel happy or excited to be pregnant. If anything I feel worse after the scan because I feel like I’ve been given hope and I’m scared it’ll be taken away again. I’m worried when I go for my scan they’ll say there’s no heartbeat which is more a fear from my miscarriages not the TFMR but it all adds up to be quite stressful.
I am leaning more towards not having the cvs but I don’t think I’ll actually make a decision until I’m sat in the consultants room tomorrow and talk it over with him.

@Hopingforbetterluck It's so hard isn't it. You want that reassurance but actually at the same time are scared to let yourself believe everything could actually be ok because what if it isn't!
AF is due today but I'm supposed to be out drinking all day with DH tomorrow so think I will do one today just to be sure.

@HoneyPea I’ve got my fingers crossed for you getting your positive and if it’s not your month enjoy your day of drinking with DH tomorrow. I’ve been on the alcohol free beers this week in the heatwave we’re having here!

@Hopingforbetterluck

@HoneyPea oh wow, congratulations, that’s a strong BFP. How are you feeling, are you ok? I know in our situation as much as you want a BFP it can throw you into a bit of a tailspin when you actually get one. 💐