Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

Hi all, hope you don't mind me joining. Am a long-time lurker. I am 43, 44 in February, been trying for #3 since last Feb but no luck. Starting to think I am probably too old!

Wish you all ttc success.

Hey ladies, so just before I conceived I went on a fertility diet plan. I have irregular cycles and was getting super fed up with trying to catch o. I also wanted to lose weight. The diet didn’t really sort out my cycles but it did I think make me a bit healthier. We didn’t follow it to the letter as we had treats and nights off. I obviously then fell pregnant so it may have helped with egg quality. This is the lady I downloaded the plan from…

pages.fertilitydietitian.co.uk/

I just thought I’d mention it because she’s got 50% off today with the code Black Friday.

The meals were pretty easy to do. Not suitable for vegans or vegetarians though. I downloaded the pcos weight loss plan but there are others.

I don’t know the lady or have any ulterior motive other than to share something that may have helped us conceive at 42. She’s also got some great free dietary advice if you follow her on social media. Xx

@Catconfusion fab thanks I'll take a look anything that will help is welcome x

@Swirlywoo welcome to the group im ttc #3 too but am suspecting age may be having a negative affect given we have been trying over a year... but I'm not giving up just yet so good luck to us all xx

@DOB78 secondary infertility and irregular cycles basically my nhs consultant just said your old so you're body isn't working as well so this may help 😂 the clomid is supposed to bring on strong ovulation but in my case it's currently no ovulation 🤷🏼‍♀️ and she wasn't interested in the fact I have adenomyosis and possible endometriosis that could also be preventing me getting pg

@oldermam you and oh can take pre pregnancy vitamins that contain a lot if what you need

@Swirlywoo hi and welcome I've seen older people conceive so don't lose hope! I'll be 43 in March but still hanging on in here trying #3 for me too, I have two teens and my partner has two teens but none together

@Catconfusion shame I'm a veggie, there seem to be very little diets for veggies/vegans

@Marvellouslymadmum that sounds a bit rubbish that you don't feel you're being listened to. It's not a medication I've heard of does it take a little while to work or should it work straight away? I hope you O soon and make that baby x

@Swirlysoo I'm 44 and trying for #3 too. My 2 Daughters are nearly 22 and 18 but new partner has no children and we'd love one together ❤. I'm thinking December is gonna be our month x

@Swirlywoo oops got your name wrong sorry🙈

@DOB78 it's very frustrating, it's supposed to work straight away, you take it days 2-6 of your cycle and it brings on a strong ovulation for day 12-14 or it does for those it works on 😂

Hey lovelies….

Has anyone got any experience/knowledge of discordance of AMH and AFC???

I’ve been having fertility tests which have all come back good, had AMH tested and was well above average for 42!

Then BFP in August, MC in September, baseline scan following first AF last week and they’ve now recommended I start the application for IVF (self funded as I live in Cornwall 😡) as they’ve only been able to count 6 follicles.
So they told me I had a good ovarian reserve, now they’re telling me it’s low 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️
I’m so confused!! And it’s hit me REALLY hard 😞
To be told I’m essentially infertile after my one only ever pregnancy ending in MC, it’s floored me!!
How can the two tests show such different results???
I get the point of starting the application process…. I know it can take up to 6 months and we can keep trying naturally in the meantime, but I’m just so confused and upset by it all 😢

@Kelb79

Hey lovelies….

Has anyone got any experience/knowledge of discordance of AMH and AFC???

I’ve been having fertility tests which have all come back good, had AMH tested and was well above average for 42!

Then BFP in August, MC in September, baseline scan following first AF last week and they’ve now recommended I start the application for IVF (self funded as I live in Cornwall 😡) as they’ve only been able to count 6 follicles.
So they told me I had a good ovarian reserve, now they’re telling me it’s low 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️
I’m so confused!! And it’s hit me REALLY hard 😞
To be told I’m essentially infertile after my one only ever pregnancy ending in MC, it’s floored me!!
How can the two tests show such different results???
I get the point of starting the application process…. I know it can take up to 6 months and we can keep trying naturally in the meantime, but I’m just so confused and upset by it all 😢

Hi @Kelb79 I also have discordance between AMH (2.7) and anterior follicle count, but mine is the other way around. They just told me that it meant that it was unpredictable how many eggs they might be able to retrieve through ivf and that it would possibly be between 2-3 eggs. My first round, they retrieved 4 eggs, even though I had about 9 follicles. The second round they changed the trigger and managed to retrieve 11 eggs from 12 follicles.

So I guess my experience was that the AMH was aligned with the first round and my antral follicle count was aligned with the second round. But the consultant said that these things can just be natural variations from cycle to cycle and can be a bit hard to predict so it's hard to tell whether the changes in my medication between rounds made any difference or if it was just how my body reacted that particular month!

It doesn't sound like the clinic has handled things well at all for you - it's stressful enough without them being unclear about things and making you worried. 6 follicles is not a bad number at all and you can definitely still successfully have ivf with those kinds of numbers!! If you're self funded anyway, is there any way of accelerating the process to ivf? 6 months sounds like a long time!

@Marvellouslymadmum oh dear that sounds very frustrating 😕

@Kelb79 I'm really sorry you've received such conflicting results that have left you feeling this way.
I'm awaiting fertility tests which could take months apparently. I'm not even sure I want to know or we just carry on trying as we are and hope for the best. I don't know if I could cope with being told we've no chance and there's no way we could afford to pay for IVF either.

@Kelb79 hi and welcome, I agree that it can all change month to month unfortunately I haven't had a proper afc as my ovaries like to play hide and seek so makes it difficult to see any at all 🤷🏼‍♀️ I would maybe get an opinion from another clinic and see what they say, have you been diagnosed with pcos or anything?

@DOB78 it's very frustrating. There's never no chance unless you have an amh of 0

@Marvellouslymadmum that's what makes me think why do we need to know. I've managed to get pregnant 4 times 2 have been fine 2 I think are down to low progesterone which we can get help with. Maybe ignorant bliss is the best option 🤔

Thank you SO SO Much everyone!! Your replies gave really helped ease my mind a bit! got in such a funk with it last night that I didn’t sleep a wink and have been a total mess today!
OH has had serious words to bring me back down to Earth a bit too 🙈🙈
I’ve had all clear in every other test so I’m no at a loss for what to do right now but I guess I’ll go ahead with the referral to get the ball rolling and just BD plenty in the meantime 🤪

Evening all so this month I was quite certain me and DH were going to DTD pretty much every day that I was possibly ovulating. We did sometimes when I least felt like it. But in all honesty I expected AF to arrive right on Q as always. I had a few cramps and twinges earlier in week but also had tingly boobs and a bit of tenderness. AF was due but last night I said to DH I'll just do a test in morning to put myself out of misery, low and behold this morning I had BFP massive blue line no doubting the result. I'm in a bit of shock tbh still had a few cramps thru day but that's not uncommon for me and early pregnancy. Scared witless after the MC this summer but am hoping this one sticks 🤞what a day it's been x

Congratulations @Gemandi2 that's wonderful news! Hope it sticks for you xxx

Thankyou @Littlemiss41andfabulous you guys will be the only other people who know for a good while yet so just wanted to share somewhere with others - just hope these on/off cramps calm down which in successful pregnancies before they usually disappear over a few days 🤞

@Gemandi2 Congratulations to you both!!! Wonderful news x

Great news @Gemandi2 congratulations 🎉. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

@Gemandi2

Evening all so this month I was quite certain me and DH were going to DTD pretty much every day that I was possibly ovulating. We did sometimes when I least felt like it. But in all honesty I expected AF to arrive right on Q as always. I had a few cramps and twinges earlier in week but also had tingly boobs and a bit of tenderness. AF was due but last night I said to DH I'll just do a test in morning to put myself out of misery, low and behold this morning I had BFP massive blue line no doubting the result. I'm in a bit of shock tbh still had a few cramps thru day but that's not uncommon for me and early pregnancy. Scared witless after the MC this summer but am hoping this one sticks 🤞what a day it's been x

Congratulations 🎉 keeping everything crossed for you xx

@Gemandi2 huge congratulations to you. Xx

I'm miserable today, period started again, the second since coils came out ten days ago, this one is heavier so I'm assuming this is a good thing but I feel so rotten with it. Coupled with an awful death in work as my shift finished yesterday (nicu nurse) I'm very tearful today.

I think a hot bubble bath, and cuddles on the sofa are in the cards tonight x

@oldermam so sorry you're having a hard time right now. It's really hard but I Tey to think of periods as a good sign that at least my body is doing what it should be even when I wish she wouldn't. Enjoy all the cuddles x

Thank you DOB78. He just brought me my fave choc and popcorn. He's a gooden x

@Gemandi2 brilliant!!!! ⭐️