May Bus

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Hey All

Welcome to the May Bus!

This is our second month of trying.

Good luck to everyone.

It's like you read my mind as I was just arguing in my head if I should wait or test early 😂 I'd love to be able to hold out until I'm due on.. maybe I will test a couple of days before then if the wait becomes to much!! I'm the most impatient person ever x

@Panda789 haha I am exactly the same. We weren't even properly trying last month, just stopped trying not to get pregnant, and then the week before I became obsessed 😅😂 I think a couple of days before is absolutely fine, waiting until AF is due / late is tough. I've got my FRER ready 😂🙈 x

@KateColx I am so caught up in it all too! 🤣 we aren't telling any family or friends anything about trying, so they will only know when we eventually get to the 12 weeks of pregnancy stage so I feel like I'm going mad on my own! I read a lot about folic acid which is why I started taking it so it's probably a good one to start with!

I'm not going to stress over the amount of DTD, just going to keep going whenever the mood takes us and at least do it on the day before ovulation to keep it covered. Also doing some yoga every night after work to keep relaxed!

I haven't even got any pregnancy tests! I felt like it was tempting fate to buy them in too early but now I will have no way of knowing 🤣 think I will wait until I am late before I think about testing.

@KateColx 😂 same! Got mine ready. Thinking about it, I really don't know if I could wait until AF is due lol. Is it 10dpo you can test? x

@Ltay2 you've got willpower!! But yeah it would be hard to to test early if the tests are there so I know what you mean haha x

Thanks ladies I was just curious cause it was around 3 days ago I had mild pains & lots of EWCM, which any other month I have never noticed only this month cause we're TTC & now I'm fine symptom wise so cause I'm in the TWW! 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don't know if we're maybe out this month already not sure if DTD enough as our lovely 5 year old has decided he will be a pest & not sleep at nights, lockdown got us all a bit over the place.

Love everybody speaking about baby names, so positive! I can only ever think girl games, boys are so hard I think! Oscar's our little boys name.

@KateColx I'm the exact same as u not taking any supplements or fully tracking ovulation, also dont think weve DTD enough but my 5 year old has been a pest 🤦🏼‍♀️ I decided though to try make the first few months TTC unless were lucky & do get a BFP but try make them fun & not stressful, kind of get to grips with my body etc but I can already feel my inner self saying if dont get a BFP this month il be doing OPKs & starting supplements 😂

@Blossom93 Yeah I guess I'm in the TWW now so we can keep each other company! I had an ectopic pregnancy in March so I think I'm gonna be crazy with line testing & progression but I am gonna try hold out to the 5th/6th May to test & then if it's a negative can kind of relax & wait for AF but if AF doesnt come then test again!

@Ltay2 yes I'm with you! I don't even want to keep talking to my OH about it until we're actually pregnant, so it's good to have you guys on here now ☺️

I think it's a good way to go about it, I really don't want to put pressure on it. I'll pester him around ovulation dates and that's it 😂 you've got really good will power not having any pregnancy tests, it's probably a wise move though! The temptation is always there if not 🙈 x

@Panda789 haha I know I probably won't be able to either. Erm I'm not actually too sure. The FRER says 6 days before AF is due I think, so I would think 10 days would be fine? X

@KPK05 I've seen on other chats on here that others have thought they haven't done it enough and then get a BFP after sometimes only doing it once! So you're not out yet 😉 Oscar is a lovely name!! I have a handful of names I love, then change my mind I'm a nightmare!! 🙈

@KateColx ok I'll see around 10dpo but try and hold off if I can! X

@Panda789 I hope that's the case for me with the lack of DTD hoping for BFP although wishful thinking 🤣

@KateColx Yeah I am trying to stay chilled about it all hence the non buying of pregnancy tests but if it doesn't happen this time (which I'm not expecting it to it's still so early) then I will look into some more supplements and start buying more supplies!

@Panda789 Well yeah very true, hope one of them is me 😬 I was actually on the implant for 4 years, got it out January & fell pregnant February was an ectopic though unfortunately! That was without even trying was more 'we're not gonna have any contraceptive so when it happens it happens' but since then it's made me want to conceive more! But I have this icky feeling that now were trying properly that it wont happen. Sometimes the laid back approach seems to result in a BFP!

@Ltay2 You're the same as me having one month laid back then go crazy after that with everything but its hard not to! I get all teary when I read peoples posts of how long they've tried then feel selfish it's our first month & I'm like I WANT THAT BFP 🤦🏼‍♀️ hope weve DTD enough 😂

@KRK05 I think that's the best way to look at it, there's no need to stress so early about it all, just try and have fun I guess. You guys have made me feel better ☺️

@Panda789 @Ltay2 I think it's easy to get caught up in what others are doing too, but as my OH reminded me, it only takes one time to get lucky 😂 I think that's simplistic male logic but I'm taking it haha.

I'm loving the baby name chat! I have so many I love for a girl, but not one that we both love for a boy x

@KateColx Exactly! I just remind myself my little boy was conceived while on the injection then was pregnant February without even thinking about it. Your OH is right it just takes one time. I think when your TTC though in your mind your thinking about ovulation, symptoms etc so planning it around that when who knows couldve been that one time 4 days before ovulation u actually get caught! It's crazy but I can understand why we all get so obsessed cause we all just want the same end result, a baby ☺

I am here worrying about not DTD enough although we did last night and I ovulate today so in theory that is all that is needed 🙈 also seem to have written off DTD 4 days ago when that again could have been enough, although likely to be a little too early.

@KRK05 I'm so sorry to hear that. But your positive attitude is amazing!! Just keep going and it's gotta eventually happen! We all got each other here to keep spurring each other on! 😊

@KateColx haha yep your OH is right, once is all it takes! 😉 which is why we shouldn't be hard on ourselves if we only do it once x
I find myself googling baby names sometimes.. it's so hard not to when you want something so much!! There's a couple boy names I like, but not sure if I love them enough!

@Ltay2 you did it at the perfect time so everything crossed for you!!

@Panda789 Thank you!! I really hope so, but trying to not get my hopes up too much!

@Noble89 can't believe you are a mortgage advisor aswell, two peas in a pod, unfortunately I work for a retail bank and they have us in branches 🙄 surprisingly busy aswell for some reason but does keep me distracted from negatively obsessing.

It definitely only takes once I think it's just the fact that when we start ttc we feel like we are doing everything so it should happen quicker 😂 but this group has made me feel better about it happening when it's meant to.

DP keeps going on about the bloody kitchen and bathroom we need to get done so might use that as a distraction technique aswell x

@SmileyT I know! So similar!

I work for a broker so I'm working from home but we're super busy too.

My OH is furloughed so I've got him glossing and painting and sorting the garden and all the other jobs we can never be bothered to do. I keep saying at least our house will be nice one last time before a baby bomb hits it 😂

@KRK05 yeah exactly, I think the more you read up on ovulation, tests, supplements etc. It makes you feel like you should be doing more and more. But like you so many get pregnant without worrying about it too much. One of my friends is about 5 months pregnant and she was saying today they just started DTD more and she didn't look into ovulation timings etc. I obviously didn't say I was reading into everything like mad and joining forums 😂 x

@Noble89 ahh we are all so desperate for a baby bomb 🥰 I worked for a small brokers for about a year in between banks but my boss was not a nice man (would use another word but I won't on MN) and I just wanted to go somewhere I'd get a decent mat pay, probs go back to broking afterwards, it's tiring working somewhere they pretend making money isn't important 😴

How are you feeling? I've had a G&T tonight as decided giving up drinking the whole time I'm trying is going to make it less enjoyable 🙈

My OH works on the train lines so he is a key worker but bless him he is more into interior design than me, also got him to sign off on the boys name I love.

*apologies for the non-ttc self indulgent post

@SmileyT I've never worked for a bank I've been with my company for 5 years now. They paid for my CEMAP and did all my training which was awesome. The hours used to be rubbish but actually they're much more flexible and family friendly now. I always thought I'd have to go to a bank or something once I had a family but over the last year that's changed so hopefully I'll be staying put!

I'm feeling good! TMI but my period has been vicious but it's calmed down today so I'm feeling better. I've gone back on my pre-natal vitamins and ordered my OPK over the last 24 hours and it's made me feel really good. Like the waiting is over with after 6 months and I can finally get back to where I wanted to be.

When I was TTC last time and before my miscarriage I was watching loads of YouTube videos of baby must haves etc and after I miscarried I didn't want anything to do with those sorts of things. Now I'm back on it and I'm excited about that.

I'm a proper loser who very rarely drinks anyway so thankfully I don't need to give up really! I am a complete caffeine addict though. There's something so comforting about a cuppa and I have like 10 a day so as of Monday I switched back to decaf again in preparation.

Oh that's a win! I'll never get my OH to sign off on my favourite boys names so a compromise we can both live with will be a win 😂

Hi everyone thought I'd hope on this bus 5th month ttc#1, had my peak opk today and af due 6th May, fingers crossed for everyone 🥰

I’m so glad I found this board, felt like I was going nuts thinking about this by myself!

This will be our first month TTC “properly” - we had a fairly relaxed approach to it before but we’ve decided to go all in with OPKs, vitamins etc very exciting!

I’m slightly concerned though - AF is usually around 7 days long and it’s now been 14 days has this happened to anyone else?

Fingers crossed Pika

@Noble89 your job sounds like a win... it makes a big difference when you find a job where you can have a good balance. I'd never advise going to a bank after a broker the micromanagement is just the worst 😩

Yes after 6 months of waiting/ worrying it's great you can get excited again, Ive never seen these YouTube videos I'll give them a go. What opks did you go for?

You are not a loser if you don't drink I'm definitely partial to a G&T on a sunny day 🙈 but can go months without caffeine, we all have our little habits. I did get a 30min workout in yesterday which I was proud of.

Glad your period is pretty much done now and you can enjoy the weekend before starting opks next week 🙌🏾