May Bus

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Hey All

Welcome to the May Bus!

This is our second month of trying.

Good luck to everyone.

Hey ladies

I’m new here! I must say reading through all your comments it does help me feel like I’m not alone in all the crazy symptom spotting etc! Congratulations to all you ladies who already have their BFP!
We have been TTC now on cycle #2. We were due to get married this month and since lockdown began and with the realisation of putting off the wedding it just made me want to start a family even more! This month I have been noticing twinges and dull aches in my lower abdomen since 4/5 DPO and slight nausea from 7DPO seems to come on quickly then disappear when I eat something. I think I’m 10DPO today and did a cheap One Step test this morning but got a BFN.. I have ordered some CB’s but AF due Friday and honestly the tests can’t come soon enough! 😁

Welcome to the madhouse @Julia529 sorry you had to put off your wedding have you picked a date for next year? Have you gone mad on the tracking yet? Or just going for the regular sex plan? Hope we can help you get through the next few days waiting on your CB? Xx

Thank you @SmileyT
We’ve provisionally booked for October this year but who knows what will happen in the coming months if that will go ahead or if we will have to postpone to next year 🤷🏼‍♀️😩 I haven’t been using OPK’s just going off CM and DTD every other day during fertile window. By reading all the posts on here I think if AF turns up this month I will try out testing next month to make sure I can get more accurate timings for ovulation 🤞🏼

1st official month of TTC. Stopped the pill middle of March so have tried to allow my body time to adjust. I’m already obsessed with ovulation sticks. Has anyone experienced a second LH surge right before AF is due to arrive? Both cheap sticks and clear blue picked it up

@Julia529 one of my friends is due to get married in September and is still adamant it will happen, so hopefully you'll be all good in October 🙏 I think ovulation sticks are good if you have erratic cycles and are unsure when you are ovulating but regular sex throughout your cycle also works 🙂

@Dreaming101 yep last month I had a lh surge the day before my period... wasn't as strong as peak but pretty strong considering it had been zero before that x

@SmileyT it’s a relief in someways to know that I’m not the only one. I’m also new to all this TTC business so I think I’m worrying over everything and anything. My LH hasn’t really dropped since my peak which I find odd x

@Dreaming101 where are you in your cycle now? Mine stayed high(according to femometer app) for about 7 days after ovulation and but dropped to pretty much zero the last couple days but expecting to see it go up again before AF if it's like last month. You are definitely not the only one worrying about everything and anything it's not as easy as I imagined it would be 🙈 xx

Hi @Dreaming101 and @julia529 I’m new to this all too but I’ve found reading through threads really helpful and it makes me feel less crazy haha. Let’s hope we can all keep each other sane on our journeys ☺️

@SmileyT I’m around 7 DPO if the app/testing sticks were correct. Think I’ve ovulated late at day 21. I had a 28 day cycle last month. Good old aunt flow is due tomorrow. Not sure if to leave testing a bit longer fort cycles to return.
Aw @kodasmom I’m so glad I’m not alone in my craziness 🙈

Oh guys! I have AF cramping going on now... very dull cramps and the odd shooting pain like I usually get when I’m due on! 🙄

@J0DI3 I think the waiting for AF to arrive is one of the worst feelings 😞

Hi everyone, I hope you don’t mind me joining, I have been looking for a thread like this everywhere! We have been ttc for months but I have really irregular cycles (last month my cycle was 70 days long and I think I missed an ovulation completely 😩!) I am tracking cycles by taking bbt and using ovulation tests and according to the both ovulated last wednesday on the 6th which means af should be due on the 20th, making me 5dpo. I’m having lots of period like cramps but that could be due to anything! I have promised myself i’m not going to test until at least 12dpo this cycle as I always go crazy with testing too early and it gets so expensive and is so disheartening to keep getting bfn’s. Good luck to you all, hopefully May will be our month 🤞🏻💕🌈

@ lt01234 I am the same, I think AF is due tomorrow and have had some cramps/discomfort😞. I really didn’t realise how difficult it could be to get Pregnant!

Well that's me started my AF tonight girls, cant even say how happy I am 😁😁 sounds stupid being happy AF coming but its cause I know I wasnt getting that BFP so the wait was now just irritating me & making me stressed 🙈 so that's me now fully on the June bus but I will keep a check on this thread, I hope all of u get your BFP 💜

@KRK05 I'm sorry to hear that! Ate least you have a fresh point to start from and can look forward to the next month! I wish you so much luck and baby dust 🌌

@Dreaming101 how many DPO was you last month when your period arrived? Expecting AF at 8dpo is very early, most people have a 10-16 day luteal phase (part after ovulation) your cycle length wont always be the same but your luteal phase should be so if it was 14dpo that your period arrived last month then it would be due in about 6 days this month, if that makes any sense?

@J0DI3 how are you feeling this morning? Hope AF stayed away xx

Welcome @lt01234 must be so annoying with such long cycles but at least you didn't miss ovulation, less than a week to go until you can test 🙌🏾

@KRK05 I'm glad it's arrived for you and you can finally start on CD1, will be good to use your opks and confirm ovulation aswell, I've just bookmarked the June bus so I may see you over there next week xx

@SmileyT I’m feeling okay this morning. I was very tempted to test but resisted the urge. It’s 2 days until AF is due so want to wait until then as I’m currently 12dpo. Will just have to wait and see what happens!

@KRK05 AF sucks but welcome to day 1 of a new opportunity :)

@Julia529 sorry to hear about your wedding, shall keep my fingers crossed you get your baby wish instead 🤞

Just need to vent ladies and I know you guys will understand!
So after it being pointed out to me yesterday that I may very well have had an early ovulation sunday evening I thought we'd best DTD last night to make sure we're not missing a prime opportunity. Half way thru my DH took cramp in his leg so we stopped till it subsided now I fully expected us to get back to it....... but he fell asleep!!!! Actually just lay there fuming all night while he snored away. I know I'm being unreasonable to feel mad at him it's not his fault he got cramp and he'd just worked 12 hours so was shattered but the neurotic baby making side of me just wanted to cry at the missed opportunity. I know itll sound crazy and selfish if I vented anyone else but you guys would understand the frustration!
Ah this baby making journey turns us all crazy doesnt it, why do we do it to ourselves!?

Morning ladies. I need someone to tell me off. All I did last night was dream about getting a BFP so when I got up this morning I caved and tested. I'm 8DPO today so obviously it was a very clear BFN. Now I'm mad at myself as I KNOW 8DPO is way too early to test. I didn't get my BFP till 11DPO last time and it's just a waste of a test and guaranteed disappointment as now I feel like I'm definitely not pregnant when the fact is I still could be. So for anyone tempted to test super early, let me be the example not to. It's almost guaranteed disappointment and certainly won't make you feel any better.

@Julia529 Welcome and sorry to hear about your wedding! Such a shame you've had to postpone but hopefully you'll have baby number two on the way when you do get married!

@Dreaming101 Hi 😊. I use CB digital OPK and you stop testing after peak so don't have any advice on a second surge but I'm soooo with you on the worrying over every little detail. Honestly no one tells you TTC messes with your head so much! I'm 8DPO today so think we're at the same point! There's a good few of us all within a couple of days of each other so hopefully we're in for a flood of BFPs end of this week and beginning of next! Are you sure about when your AF is due and how many DPO you are? Like @SmileyT said it's unusual to have a 9 day luteal phase so maybe your dates could be a little off?

@lt01234 Welcome and I'm glad you found us! No one understands the mind fuck that is TTC unless they're going through it so you'll get lots of support and no judgement here 😊. Omg a 70 day cycle sounds a nightmare! Mine were always a set 28 days before my miscarriage and they've been 33 the last few months and those extra 5 days have really annoyed me so I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you. I'm with you on the early testing, it's just so hard to wait when you desperately want to know one way or the other. I'm mad at myself for testing this morning but honestly it would have played on my mind all day so at least I can forget about it now. Fingers crossed this is your month!

@KRK05 well at least the old witch has finally shown up! I totally get what you're saying, you spend the first few weeks of a cycle praying AF stays away but once you're sure you're not PG you just want her to show up so you can start a fresh cycle. Fingers crossed the June bus is your ticket to a BFP. Stick around here too and let us know how you're getting on 😊

@J0DI3 I'm super impressed by your resolve after I caved this morning 😂. Only a couple more days and then hopefully you'll have some good news!

@DKDK123 Oh it's not unreasonable for you to be mad at all. I'd have smacked my DP awake and told him to suck it up and get on with it 😂. Honestly though it's totally reasonable. Men don't get it, my OH just thinks TTC is great as he gets loads of sex. It's not as all consuming for them, they're not thinking 'am I pregnant, what's that twinge mean, do I feel queasy' every day like we are. And frankly they're less clued up. I swear my OH thought it was as simple as if you have unprotected sex you get pregnant. He had no idea it had to be times correctly and even of you do everything right the odds are still against you. They don't understand how frustrating it is to be doing EVERYTHING you can with tracking etc to give you the best shot and then have them muck it up because they're tired. Maybe explain to him how important it is that you're DTD at the right time? But definitely don't feel bad for being angry, I'd have been raging 😂

My dates could be out, It’s my first month using OPKs so I’m pretty clueless. My LH peak was on the 5th of this month but the app said I should have ovulated on the 28th of April 🤷🏽‍♀️
@DKDK123 I’m with @ Noble89 I would have woke him up🙈 I swear they don’t understand or listen when we say about the 5/6 magic days a month!

@Noble89 it’s only because I’m convinced AF is coming and don’t want to be hit with a double blow! To be honest this is my very first attempt so I’m not expecting to fall pregnant first time - but think I will still be sad if I don’t. Just got to keep positive and move on to the next cycle!

Don’t beat yourself up for testing. Sometimes you’ve just got to do what your mind is telling you. Otherwise the day will just feel even longer. It’s still early so you’re not out. Try and wait a few more days 😊 fingers crossed for everyone xx

@Noble89 dont beat yourself up for testing, it's like an itch that needs to be scratched if you didnt do it it would have consumed your thoughts all day.

Morning everyone ,

@KRK05 sorry to hear AF came.. no matter how much you tell yourself you’ll keep trying it’s still really disheartening. But positive vibes and a new month 💕

@DKDK123 I would have been cross too lol that’s just typical of them and then he probably doesn’t know what he’s done to annoy you !!!

@Noble89 I totally with you. It’s taking all that I have not to test because I know I’ll get a BFN and be disappointed. I’m glad I didn’t this morning cus I’ve had a little spotting. I’m 9dpo so I’m hoping it’s implantation and not the sign of an early AF.

Hope you all have a lovely day ☺️

@Dreaming101 sounds like your dates are definitely out mate. Did you input the positive ovulation into your app? That should amend the date of ovulation and AF for you. Which app are you using? Most people have a luteal phase of around 13-14 days so if you got your positive on the 5th your AF probably isn't due till around the 18th/19th. Definitely input the info into your app. I ovulated 5 days earlier than my Flo app predicted (my cycles have been a bit out of what since my MC) So when I recorded my peak it reset the figures, corrected my ovulation date and brought my predicted period forward.

@J0DI3 I know, I'm trying not to be hard on myself but I know 8DPO is ridiculously early and only someone who implanted earlier than normal would see even a faint positive. I will hold out and test at 10 and then 12 DPO now.

@DKDK123 100% I woke up after literally dreaming about testing twice through the night so I knew if I didn't test it would play on my mind all day.

@Kodasmom oooh sounds promising. I think I read somewhere you won't get a BFP until at least 2 days after implantation so hopefully that'll help you hold out a couple more days!