May Bus

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Hey All

Welcome to the May Bus!

This is our second month of trying.

Good luck to everyone.

@KRK05 I also never hold my wee for 4hrs I just don't wee right before I think it's fine 👌🏾

Hey! First time posting! Fairly new to MN.

I need some advice on this- is this positive?!

I'm 11dpo and have a short luteal phase so it should also be the first day of my period which hasn't shown yet.

I have a digital but don't want to waste it!

Thanks!

@inthestars90 defo a line there! Congratulations!! 🥳

@inthestars90 that's definitely positive lovely! Congratulations! Xxx

@inthestars90 yep two lines so definitely positive, congrats 🙌🏾

@SmileyT @Noble89 @notyetamumbuttrying thank you !! I am a bit disbelieving...will do the digital tomorrow before telling partner-he's so laid back about it all- if I said I wasn't sure he'd say just wait a week and test then! I'm patient but not that patient so I am yet to admit I have tested! It seems a lovely community on here

@SmileyT @Ltay2 Thanks girls 🥰 il start getting in a wee routine with it & so glad I dont have to hold for that long, when I read 4 hours I like WHAAAT there must be something wrong with me cause that's impossible 😂

@inthestars90 That is definitely positive. Congratulations 💕

Hi everyone nice to join the may bus I have been trying for a year not but I think I missed alot of the ovulation days hence reason for negative pregnancy test and went docters who also said my husband has low sperm mobility..but they did say we can improve it by improving his diets, lifestyle and supplements his been doing this for the last few months so hopefully this is a new start and we will get a big fat positive soon..my ovulation is due by this week on the 11th may we will be doing the deeds every other day from the fertile window till the end of the cycle fingers crossed... x

Morning ladies! 5DPO for me today and I'm still having that niggly cramping and I woke up feeling nauseous again. It's far too early to be pregnancy related as I know for sure when I ovulated. So either I have a little bug or my body is legit playing tricks on me which is very annoying.

How's everyone else doing?

It is evening here is Australia - I am also 5DPO, feeling constantly hungry all day and very moody. I know this as I am being super narky towards my husband. I also feel sad for absolutely no reason. Does anyone else feel like that?

Hello ladies,

I hope you don't mind me jumping on here!
I used to be fairly active on mumsnet earlier in the year (Feb bus etc)

I found these forums very helpful. The ladies are so supportive of one another in time where it can be so isolating ( if you are not telling anyone you are TTC).
I had been trying for baby #1 since sept 2019 and had started feeling very down every time AF arrived. It was beginning to consume my thoughts and I felt like it was ALWAYS on my mind regardless of time/place.
I left the forums as a way to "free up my brain" from thinking about TTC (to no avail ofc!). There were many meltdowns and bickering (with DH) along the road!
However, many months later I have finally got my BFP! I thought I would share where I think I went wrong. I was solely basing ovulation and fertile period off the flo app. However within two months of monitoring CM alone I managed to conceive!
I had tried to use OPKs since the start of TTC however I never had one positive result which confused me even more! And therefore resulting in me relying on the app even more heavily (I don't know if I had a faulty batch)

I just came on here to say I know what each of you are going through and to stay strong! You will all get your BFPs soon! Just try to go easy on yourselves and your partners- when the time is right it will work!
Baby dust to you all!
Take care ladies xx

Hi @Jellybean252 we've been trying since sept too for our first and still no bfp for me! Congratulations on yours, how exciting! I also use Flo and ov sticks but I do get positives on those so will continue. I can't rely on cm as I never see egg white, suppose I need to go hunting for it lol! Thanks for coming back and sharing your story. I wish you all the very best!

Hey everyone! So AF came by last night in full force - really trying to stay positive. It's only our first month trying so knew it was unlikely anyway but finding it really hard to not get upset.

I was just wondering what does everyone do about telling their OH? We were kind of trying last month and I was a week late so convinced myself I was pregnant then having to tell him when my period came was horrible cause I know he wants this just as much as I do and is so excited. I just really don't want to upset him so just wondering how everyone else copes with it? Sorry to be a downer just struggling today.

@1izzie sorry to hear. I try not to say things like "ooh this might mean pregnancy" if I say out loud I have a headache or twinge etc. I also now just say "oh it's probably just my period" so that he thinks I know what I'm talking about cos I know my body etc. This way round works better for us. No ones getting there hopes up then. Wishing you all the best!

Ahh @1izzie I'm sorry that AF arrived but as you say it's only the first month of trying so try and see it as you've had a full month of seeing what your body normally does and working out ovulation dates etc and now you'll be even more ready to hit the ground running this month. Last month I cried when AF came and I think it's alright to let yourself be sad but also remember this is a journey and ttc is just the start.

In regards to telling OH I have no tips as mine as interested in my cycle as I am, we basically discuss it everyday so he knows when I'm due on etc and he has told me when he thinks I should test plus if I get into bed with clothes on he knows 😂 so only suggestion is just to be honest about, it's a joint venture so it's not like you are letting him down, it just didn't work out for both of you this month xx

Congrats @Jellybean252 and totally agree that my flo app is normally about 5 days out, but I'm using BBT and ovulation tests aswell as trying to track CM. We just try and DTD throughout the month as I read most people get ovulation dates wrong which means they are missing their chance.

Hope you have a happy healthy 9 months xx

@notyetamumbuttrying

Thankyou! I hope you get your BFP soon!!
I was checking my CM each time I went to the loo the eggwhite is there only for a short amount of time- for me anyway xx

@SmileyT
Thankyou so much.
Yes, I think thats exactly what happened to me - I focused so much on DTD on my fertile days according to the app that in reality I was missing the actual ovulation day!
I hope you get your BFP soon fingers crossed!! xx

@Noble89 @beautifuldream
I'm now 7dpo and I've had some dull twinges in my right hand side this morning, I'm also feeling super hungry, emotional and kinda hating the sight of my DP this morning. He offered to make me breakfast and i was so irrationally annoyed at the idea especially as I now want him to make me breakie 😂 No nausea at all for me... I did a workout this morning and my body wasn't like the core exercises but that could be because I haven't worked out in a while 🤷🏾‍♀️ I'm hoping it's good signs for all of us xx

@Jellybean252 congratulations lovely! Hopefully we'll all be joining you soon😊 I use OPKs as without confirming on the app when you actually do ovulate then it's all just averages and estimates and actually most women don't fit those. I think tracking with OPKs for a few months is a good idea but then of you're proven to ovulate at the same time every month then you can just go by the app.

@1izzie sorry to hear about AF 😔. Most of us have been there and it sucks. I remember being super upset last time but I read somewhere that even of you do everything right and it's all perfectly timed the chance of conception is still only around 25% each month. I feel like they lie to girls as kids and tell us is soooo easy to get pregnant to make sure we're careful but then they don't circulate enough realistic information to adults and we have unrealistic expectations. We're you using OPKs etc this month or timing DTD? In terms of telling your partner I learned last time not to share my symptoms with him. The symptoms of pregnancy mimic the symptoms of your period so closely and realistically you're super vigilant looking for signs so you'll probably have things that happen every month that you don't even notice that you will notice when TTC. Month 1 I was convinced I was pregnant last time as my boobs were a bit sore. Nothing horrendous, but definitely a bit sensitive and tender. I've since learned this actually happens every month about a week or so before my period. So I've taken to saying NOTHING about my symptoms or suspicions to my OH and I share them on here to get them off my chest as everyone here understands.

@SmileyT eeep hopefully this is the start of some signs! 7dpo is around the time you can start noticing symptoms so I hope that's what's happening! Poor DP 😂. They just can't win sometimes. I'm off for a good long walk with the dog, frankly I'm just trying to pass the days as fast as possible!

I am finding the nausea is immediately fixed when I eat. Again I just don't get it as it's too early to be pregnancy related but if it was a bug I'd assume eating would make it worse? I think it's my body playing tricks on me to be honest!

Morning ladies, this morning I woke up feeling great, had some alone time with hubby 😏 and then did a few jobs around the house, then just been to the toilet and wiped and blood on the tissue!? Wiped again and there was less, then third one was gone... put a tampon in just in case but I'm so confused, my heart rate hasn't dropped, I dont feel like its my period and it hasn't started like it... plus I'm only 8dpo (using OPKs) and still 6 days from period?!

Implantation bleeding has crossed my mind but it was red not pink?

Hi everyone, I'm 100% new to this as I've found myself with a BFP very unexpectedly. It's been a complete shock, obviously we're happy but it doesn't seem real. I'm really confused about the dates however, I'm assuming I'll need to wait till a scan to find out properly.

Basically I totally skipped my AF last month, I'm assuming I just didn't ovulate due to lockdown stress. I actually did some tests a few weeks ago as I couldn't understand what had happened(all BFN). Then last Friday (1st May) I started having AF like cramps and nausea, dodgy tummy etc. I assumed AF was coming or that I had a bug or food poisoning, when I got to Wednesday 6th and it was still happening something told me to take a test, and I honestly couldn't believe my eyes when Pregnant 1-2 came up on the screen! I then confirmed it with another 2 tests.

I think the hardest thing for me to wrap my head around is that this has nothing to do with my interrupted cycle last month, as I must have ovulated 2 weeks ago based on the test, and we had sex around then. Sorry for this very convoluted story, basically what I'm asking is, is it at all likely that the 1-2 (3-4)weeks could be wrong and I'm actually further on than this? I'm thinking the cramps etc could have been implantation which would have made sense as it was about 6/7dpo if I'm assuming the CB test was correct. I'm totally new to this, it's been really helpful reading through this thread as it has helped me learn.

Our wedding is later this year, but with the current situation we're expecting to maybe have to postpone, and so we were thinking about starting TTC in September anyway, but it's a huge shock that it's happened now more or less by accident!

Sending my best wishes to everyone on here who is waiting and trying. It's been so helpful reading about other people's experiences!

Well @Noble89 you say this but @babyG123 had nausea from 2dpo and got her bfp yesterday, so who knows what our bodies get up to. I've just had a look back at my notes from last month and my mood/ twinges seem to exactly mirror last month 😕

@EllieJai44 I'm glad you had a good morning but can totally understand being a bit confused. Have you had any other bleeding today? Does sound around the kind of time that it could be IB especially if it was only a few drops and doesn't return.

@sachaf08 congratulations 🥳 and you are very blessed to have avoided the whole stressful ttc part of getting pg. Honestly as you weren't tracking ovulation there is no way to say how far along you are exactly. The digital tests work within boundaries and will depend how high/low your hcg is as to how accurate they are for you. The midwife will take your dates from your last menstrual period (LMP) so if that was about 8 weeks ago you'll probably get a 12week scan pretty quickly and then at the first scan they date you from the actual size of the baby and give you an estimated due date (EDD) ❤️❤️

@SmileyT Thank you so much for your kind reply!Aaargh I didn't even think about the fact that they would give me a 12 week scan early because of 2 absent AFs! I'm pretty sure I can't be as far along as that, I gave in to temptation just now and did another CB and it has changed from 1-2 to 2-3, that's from Weds 6th to now. I might be putting a bit too much faith in the tests dating ability, but it does sort of make sense in terms of implantation cramps that I would be only 4 weeks atm.
Speaking of implantation cramps- if that's what they were, they were absolutely awful. Woke me up in the night several times for a few days and I nearly vommed a few times! It was like bad period cramps but not constant, happened maybe every hour. They've got much better over the past couple of days but still niggling cramps every now and then. From what I've seen on here many people get fairly severe implantation cramps.
Thanks again for your reply, wishing you all the best as I see you're 7dpo- as far as I can tell that's when I started feeling weird! I'll check back to see how you're getting on xx

@SmileyT nothing else! Was red but not as red as period and watery and but was probably only a few drops, just looked more on paper haha

Average resting Heart rate is higher today after a dip yesterday 🤷‍♀️ im never early for a period so totally confused lol