I've started to keep a pad with me when I read this thread, so I can note down things I need to reply to - otherwise I can't remember, it's just soooo long!! (Admit it, ladies; we are the most rockin thread on Mumsnet right now.)
Shely - I have the exact same problem. It has worried me a fair bit over the years, because theory no fertile CM = no baby. BUT the fact that you are getting wet may well be good enough; I do the same and have read that fertile CM can also be thin and watery, and isn't always the classic eggwhite stuff. ALSO I have a number of friends who swear they never had eggwhite either and who got pg perfectly quickly and easily. If it takes you ages to get pg you could talk to your doctor about the possibility of IUI (intracervical wouldn't be good enough) but until you reach that point you could try the robitussin, grapefruit juice, starflower oil and drinking loads of water - all these are supposed to improve your CM. I try all these in theory, but often forget (cough syrup four times a day? I'm not nearly that organised).
Jeddah - hope you have a great break. I think your husband's got a really good point. When I used to work in infertility clinics there used to be a lot of talk about people who got so hung up on getting pg that they would try to pinpoint ov and only BD then, the result being that they were not giving themselves nearly as many 'chances' as if they were just having happy carefree sex throughout the month. On the ohter hand, many of us don't have the energy or opportunity for sex every 48 hours, and it would be daft to be pushing ourselves into it at times of the month when it is almost guaranteed not to succeed. I think there's a happy medium which is to try to have sex every 48 hours during the week when you are most fertile.
Moschops - hi and welcome
Tania - so sorry to hear that the witch af is on her way to you . Much love and chocolate to you.xx