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Thread 19 TTC#1 Just. Keep. Swimming.

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AliceScarlett · 27/09/2016 10:42

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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AlexiaB · 30/09/2016 11:12

I love reading about your DTD efforts haha! Great work Jem and Starmist I hope you can work your magic laterWink

Still so ovulation here so we are DTD every other night. Last night DH was exhausted. Got into bed after 11 and he was asleep by 12 as he couldn't keep his eyes open. Woke him about 2am and shoved my phone in his hands (pornBlush) which equalled instant boner and within about 2 mins we had DTD. It's never been easier for us! I felt like a champGrin Then I couldn't go back to sleep and I was panicking about getting my 3 hours sleep for temping at 6.30am so I kicked snoring DH out into the spare bedroom. Cue this morning, first thing he says is "well I got used and abused last night!" Shock lol

Ps. has anyone tried the female orgasm after sex thing? It's supposed to make the cervix dip in and out of the vagina and 'suck up' the rest of the sperm. Serious tmi but who cares.

Good luck to you ladies testing soon LSFX! skipper glad your temps are still up.

LondonJem · 30/09/2016 11:21

I've heard that about orgasms too alexia god knows if its true but that's one I'm more than happy to try Wink

My worry of the week is blowjobs. I've read they kill sperm. But surely if its just quick one before you have sex AND you are using preseed, it won't make much difference? I'd have thought by the time he ejaculates there is not much saliva still around?

Musicgrrl · 30/09/2016 11:21

I just reread my message and realised it makes little sense! I meant tomorrow or Sunday and then realised my comment about FX was immediately after my one about my wine cravings and made it look like I had FX that my tests would show that I can drink wine this weekend! Clearly not my primary objective, would prefer a BFP, ha.

Alexia I love your post. I really would like to see how my DH reacted if I woke him up at 2am for sex. I don't think anything I could do would put him in the mood then! So good work Smile

Not tried the female orgasm tip but sounds interesting. And love the tmi!

geeup · 30/09/2016 11:48

Skip/music - I probably won't test - usually I start spotting before I'm due anyway Sad but you never know right. And appreciate i'm further along than you both but I drink during the 2ww so don't need to test before a Wine. I don't drink a huge amount anyway but my doc said 5 units a week is fine when ttc so we try not to put our lives on hold. Everyone is different though so whatever makes you happy. Will be cheering you on and living vicariously through you if you do test early though!

AlexiaB · 30/09/2016 11:51

Jem I try to avoid BJs in the FW if I can but any sex is better than no sex so if it takes a BJ to get the jizz then oh well.

Music haha we don't have much time for DTD so it's good that this works for us. My DH is really chilled so I can wake him up whenever. He also never hears my alarm for temping which is good. Does your DH wake up? Your LP is much longer this month (are you 11dpo?) I really hope it means good news is on the way!Grin

geeup · 30/09/2016 11:53

Alexia I've tried the orgasm thing. I have to say I definitely don't orgasm every time we DTD these days (half the time I'm barely in the mood but know we need to) so a couple of cycles the day before/on ovulation day I have finished myself off in private just afterwards but didn't work for me.
I'm a bit sad we don't always keep going to make sure I orgasm too - my husband would give it a go - but I find it quite hard and takes quite a long time sometimes and when I'm knackered in fertile week I can't always muster the energy. That sounds bad doesn't it Blush

AlexiaB · 30/09/2016 12:01

No that doesn't sound bad I understand how you feel. We're like that too. For a while ALL the fun in sex was gone but we've found a few things that work better now. My main aim these days is making sure DH cums very quickly so I get what I want and that he doesn't use much energy and isn't tired. I'm a multiple internal O type of girl and sometimes it happens straight away without any foreplay (like last night) but then there are other times we could be there all night and I just don't feel it. I'd rather it be over in 2mins, but I have started to finish myself off if I feel like it once DH has left the room to clean up.

MouseLove · 30/09/2016 12:26

Oh NOOOOOO London re the blowjob thing.... ahem. I mean... not like I did that last night ahem. Jeeze and now you tell me I have to orgasm AFTER him?? Well that never happens. I'm doing it all wrong ladies!!!!!! Blush

HepKestrel · 30/09/2016 12:42

guess what i'm allowed to do again tonight Wink

(and the hint of spotting never developed beyond that....)

MouseLove · 30/09/2016 12:48

Hep? POAS or DTG? GrinGrinGrin

sk1pper · 30/09/2016 13:03

alexia. - I've heard it's beneficial for the woman to orgasm too though because of the cm that's produced.

Hazandduck · 30/09/2016 13:25

Hello, hope I can join! I recognise a couple of names from TTC after miscarriage board :(
About me:
I'm Harri
TTC #1
27 y/o
Surrounded by pregnant friends
Miscarried at 10-11 weeks in July, yet to get AF so awaiting further tests (docs in a couple of weeks) so still DTD and not back on the pill.
Was on Cerazette for 9 years so no idea about periods etc and fell pregnant as soon as I came off in May, so don't know my cycle at all.

Good luck to everyone trying! We'll get there some day! X

HepKestrel · 30/09/2016 13:38

welcome hazan

sk1pper · 30/09/2016 14:03

Hi haz I was also on cerrazette and found my cycle sorted itself out instantly. Sorry to hear about your MC xx

Musicgrrl · 30/09/2016 14:14

Hi Hazan good to have you!

Jem I almost always have a bit of BJ in the mix so that is upsetting to hear! It gets DH in a good place quickly but I will definitely bear that in mind in future!

Gee that's annoying about spotting. I usually go from nothing to full AF in a very short space of time so quite different. At least I don't have the chance to wonder if it's implantation bleeding!

Yes alexia, LP is longer this cycle which I'm very relieved about. It was only 8 days last time and 5 days before that! If AF arrives tomorrow it will have been 11! I'm liking that trajectory. I'm taking it as a good sign but trying not to read anything into it. The novelty of having a longer LP meant that I tested with ICs on dpo 8 and 10 with no joy. Assuming she still doesn't show I'll test either tomorrow or Sunday.

Also, gee, thanks for the comment about the wine. I don't need much - just a half glass to unwind from the week will do!

kavanaughkj · 30/09/2016 14:23

So this is where you all are!

Hiya ladies :) Sorry I've not been around for a while but the new job has been hectic, just finished week 2 and haven't had a spare moment to come on here. Last weekend was totally taken up with doing the Shine Night Walk in London for Cancer Research - 26 mile walk through the night past a lot of London's milestones. After limping through to the end I have absolutely no idea how anybody could ever RUN the distance my DH and I trudged ... owwww!

With all the kerfuffle with the new job and the walk I haven't had much time to consider fertility and this month has probably been my most laid back ever in terms of TTC efforts. I'm pretty sure I ovulated the day before the night walk last week, and we managed to DTD twice that week, though realistically only one will have been during the appropriate timeframe - since then I've been stressing over learning new job so I'm not sure my body is in the right frame of mind so to speak to enable anything to happen, and the marathon probably stomped on anything that might have hung grimly on!

Congrats moose, btw - I was really happy to read your news! Flowers

I'll post my stats for the thread even if it is a bit late.

Kav
37
Cycle 10
Probably 7 DPO now but can't be sure because I didn't take any OPKs and I haven't been temping. Not getting any hopes up, just chugging along.

Hope to drop in a bit more often but with tons to learn at the new job it might not be much! Cake to all :)

Hazandduck · 30/09/2016 15:04

Thanks guys :) Am I the only stingy OH on here who uses blowies as a bargaining tool and gives them out sparingly haha! Although in fairness I do quite enjoy giving them, I just don't do them that often. I'm selfish in bed!! Haha. And always orgasm so easily multiple times! My poor OH lol x

HepKestrel · 30/09/2016 16:22

welcome back kav !!

WingingIt83 · 30/09/2016 17:00

music all sounds very promising with you!

Welcome back kav

I'm still crampy which is pants as have a busy weekend :-(

sk1pper · 30/09/2016 17:53

Just bought some preseed. Well why not? It's just about the only thing I haven't tried. Grin

If I get a BFP this cycle I'll put it up for grabs.

Musicgrrl · 30/09/2016 18:37

winging I was feeling upbeat earlier but now I'm not. I have no symptoms to even try and spot and I definitely don't 'feel pregnant' like some people seem to! Just really hate the waiting.

skipper ooh preseed - good work. hopefully you have involved Sod's law and won't need it!

Starmist · 30/09/2016 18:42

Welcome Hazan sorry to hear about your mc.

I have also heard saliva kills sperm so I avoid BJ... Tho maybe they would get DH more excited so perhaps I should try this if he's struggling as that would be better than nothing.
I think an orgasm whilst he cums is supposed to help squeeze the sperm up to the right place. Sure we learnt that in science Blush but who can manage simultaneous organisms?!
I've cracked open the alcohol & ordered take out. Operation sneaky DTD has begun...

geeup · 30/09/2016 18:43

In the spirit of trying something new, I just ordered softcups from Amazon. They must be the only thing in the whole world I haven't tried yet...

Starmist · 30/09/2016 18:44

I meant orgasms not organisms obviously!!! Damn autocorrect

AlexiaB · 30/09/2016 18:55

Welcome Harri very sorry to hear about your mc Flowers hope you'll be back to 'normal' soon. Haha I'm stingy on the blowies most of the time. I just cba!

gee let us know how you get on. I'm scared to try them!

music that's really good news about your LP. If it is 11 days that's a decent number but I'm LSFX for your BFPGrin Good luck with your next tests xx

Starmist plan sounds perfect. Good luck!

Hope you're okay fxskip and kwick FlowersCake