First time TTC - thread 2

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Thought I would create a fresh thread as the original had been going since Feb. This is for anyone TTC #1, a bit of moral support as we all attempt to embark on the scary journey that is parenthood! Join us if you are a mix of terrified and excited, don't really know what you're doing yet and hadn't heard of CM before you started reading Mumsnet!!

And just as I got another bfn - AF got me Well, I definitely have spotting anyway and a temp dip. Disappointed after a long and uncertain ride, but at least I can move on to next cycle!

Ah I'm sorry pyjamas. On the positive side you've got a baseline on your first cycle now to compare with next cycle and no longer in limbo

Thanks eva - still pretty confused about cycles as first one after coming off pill was 32 days, second was 22 days and third was 34 days. Maybe the middle one was an anomaly! I'm going to assume my cycle is 34 days and not test until am late - these FRERs and CB digitals are not cheap ha ha, and I can't take more BFNs than necessary!

Also - I've learned how my head can create phantom pregnancy symptoms, it was really quite impressive! From now on, there are no symptoms or I assume it's AF. I say this now of course, we'll see in the middle of the next 2WW! At least I'm working from home today, so I can be alone with my cramps and bad mood ha ha.

How are you getting on?

Ohhh yes I know all about it! I swear I'm not going to test but it appears I have no willpower, always the same every month haha!
And definitely re pg symptoms. Every little twinge and I'm like this is the month!! Then I get the bfn and it brings me back down to earth. I am still at the early stages of finding it amusing, won't be if nothing has happened by Xmas.
I'm good thanks, 8dpo today. Cramps, bloating and backache but I'm thinking AF is on her way. I checked on last months chart and I had bloating and backache this time last month too and then the witch showed her face. Temp is identical to yesterday which never happens.

You're comfortably above the baseline, so not out yet! And remember those symptoms can mean totally opposite things as they're common in both AF and PG, another reason I want to totally disregard every twinge next time!

Hello all

I've been lurking on this thread since Friday when I got BFP, willing you all on. I am going to try to relax and stop thinking about this for a while, and just keep my fingers crossed it works out for my bean! So I am off mumsnet for the time being, trying to stay sane and think about other things.

If anyone is interested, I didn't think I could be pg this month, because it wasn't that clear when I ov'd, so I thought we might have missed it. Also, my DH randomly used spit as lube (sorry, gross!) before I could stop him, and that can kill them off. So don't lose hope if you think you've messed it up.

The only symptom I had was waking early, feeling too hot. My temps also stayed high, but I had no other symptoms and still don't really, apart from bloating.

Anyway, massive good luck to all of you! It will happen soon.

Over and out.

Xx

Ah pj that sucks sorry for the weird and crappy month! But like you said think positive and on to next cycle!

eva those temps are looking great! I'll keep fingers crossed for you!

daisy I'm really happy for you you'll have to stop by and let us know how you're getting on

I'm now on day 3 of sleepless nights, lack of appetite, 2 days of nausea and dizziness and over a week of sore boobs and evil nipples. Still no period and no cramps. Got a definitely absolutely bfn yesterday. Really fed up now but had a slight elevation in temps this morning so fed up and confused.

Just sat and done fertility friend and my god it's confusing lol!

My symptoms are settling down a bit now.

Nausea each day is getting better, and my skin isn't as greasy now. Im less tired than I was a few days ago too.

No sign of AF yet. Ovia not saying to test yet.

My acupuncture went really well. She gave me lots of helpful hints and tips which I hadnt heard of before.

Lol busy yes it's not the most user friendly app! But it helps you see the bigger picture easier don't you think? Remind me, What cycle are you on, how long were your previous cycles?
daisy that's really helpful to know, thanks and yes definitely keep popping back in with updates. Hope it all goes smooth and no morning sickness!!
difficultyear good to hear things are settling down for you. Care to share some hints and tips? We need all the help we can get

I think your chart is looking good busy! But, what do I know, given recent events lol. I think the fertility friend app is definitely better for temping and seeing the big picture - my issue is that I'm extremely superficial and it's ugly while Ovia is so pretty lol

Yeah I'm with you there pj the scary math/science layout of ff puts me off a bit but handy to see the whole picture!

eva I'm on cd30 of my first full cycle since having my implant out in early May. I've pretty much counted this cycle out in my head no expectations but it still gets you thinking doesn't it? How are you getting on?

Glad to hear everything is settling down for you difficult. Any tips you can share?

The tips are a little weird...
But here goes:

1 - Keep the soles of your feet warm.

2 - When your DP/DH finishes in the shower, get him to spray his balls with cold water

3 - yoga

the rest of what she said was pretty standard like, eating healthily ,lots of seeds, nuts, avocados and dairy. Avoid aspartame/sweetners, sugars, caffeine. Dont over exercise but do nice walks, stay as relaxed as possible, listen to music and DTD every day or every other day and dont bother tracking ovulation, just keep at it.

Oh and of course, acupuncture every 2 weeks! :D

Which although expensive, its so relaxing I think I wouldnt mind doing it either.

Im not doing too badly on the relaxation front. But it doesnt help when some young man screams at me through my car window whilst Im sat in traffic because he thinks I could move further forward. Some people just have no patience and are so rude.

I got home and just burst into tears, it was more the shock I think. I didn't even know what to say back to him so I just looked at him!

Im also not great at keeping my feet warm. I dont have great circulation, so feel the cold on my feet more than anywhere. I'l be digging out my slippers for when I get home.

Will be due to test soon but really dont want to buy a test in a shop. Last time I did the lady on the checkout wished me luck. Which was lovely, but it didn't end well, and I want to keep it to myself until I know all is ok.

Hi everyone, I've been lurking around these parts for a few weeks now and I think I'm ready to join you all! I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant 5 weeks ago (On the pill, PCOS) and although quite surprised we were both quite excited but I was very cautious, I had a feeling something wasn't quite right, and 3 days after finding out I was definitely pregnant I woke up bleeding. A scan at the EPU confirmed I was miscarrying and we were heartbroken (still are) but it definitely let us know that we really, really do want to have a baby.

My doctor recommended we wait one cycle before TTC so this past month we've just gone without contraception waiting for either no arrival of AF (I did have my fingers crossed) or for it to arrive, and be able to get some idea of what my cycles are like. This is my first child, and DP's second. AF arrived this morning, so I can at least finally track my cycles and cross my fingers now!

Name: NeverGoOutOfStyle
Age: 22
TTC #1

Hi never sorry for your loss but welcome! More than happy to share and help you with the your next steps!

difficult that sounds interesting. Although the idea of acupuncture sounds like torture to me. I'm terrified of needles!

Hi never - sorry for your loss but welcome to the thread

Difficult - I really rate acupuncture, it helped me massively when I was going through a horrific break up and depression a few years ago.

I just had same day delivery from Amazon of my next batch of CB digi OPK sticks and a book called 'taking charge of your fertility'. It's quite a monster book, but I'm sure I'll get through it quickly!!

Wow pj sounds very gung Ho woman on a vision! Have to let us know how you get on

Sorry to hear that never. Welcome.
difficultyear that's really interesting, thanks, will definitely try those - although not sure DH will be up for the cold blast on his balls hahaha sounds like something from a James Bond movie! Then again I never thought I'd use a syringe to put fertility friendly lube up my flute so there we go!!!
I'm pretty sure AF is on her way, feel so bloated and generally ugh like you do before AF.

eva how long until AF due for you?

Okay ladies going crazy doing google searches! Still no period or cramps or any sign of AF. (Probably TMI but I even did a cervix check and absolute nada coming out that thing no spotting at all) Nausea, fatigue, acne, dizziness all ramping up to a high point. Boobs were already sore but just got ready for bed and I swear to god it feels like someone has inflated my boobs to exploding point it's soooooo painful. I now also have a really prominent and quite large blue vein circling and going into my nipple. Never been there before but can see it a mile off. Help! Talk me down to calm point and off google searches.

I'm trying to be really good and not symptom spot but it's like an inevitable crash. And I've counted this month out in my head so why am I doing the crazy symptom spotting please be a bfp dance?

Even if it was something fertility friend says my test date is Saturday so I'd promised myself I wouldn't test until then.

£5 on AF turning up tomorrow and proving me to be the lunatic I am.

Also sorry eva that sucks but could just as easily be early symptoms? When are you due AF?

Yep - and that is where I was a few days ago busy! Although I've got every finger crossed that yours are real! I think the boob symptom is interesting - I didn't get that during my symptom spotting cray cray time, but then I don't really have boobs lol. But I even convinced myself I felt sick and had an aversion to DH's dinner But, you never know though busy - anything is possible!!

This AF is a total bitch - has hit me with full force making me think that this may be the first real one I've had since coming off pill. Pain!!! Let's see how long it lasts - my last AF was barely two days or noticeable.

Thanks pj glad to know I'm not a complete fake and other people do this too! It just doesn't feel like it's me, feels like some crazy woman has taken over my body! I almost wish AF would turn up then I know.

Sorry to hear yours is going crap, mine was like that last month. Get the hot water bottle, ibuprofen and hot drinks - maybe even a bath. Warmth and comfort are you're friends right now!