First time TTC - thread 2

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Thought I would create a fresh thread as the original had been going since Feb. This is for anyone TTC #1, a bit of moral support as we all attempt to embark on the scary journey that is parenthood! Join us if you are a mix of terrified and excited, don't really know what you're doing yet and hadn't heard of CM before you started reading Mumsnet!!

Just did a cheapie (yes, am now a POAS at work freak) - line still quite dark but not quite as dark as control so technically a negative. Reckon I'm ovulating today!

I can re-use the reader on the dual hormone digi test I use busy - but I'll need to buy a whole new pack for next month if I don't get a BFP as I'm out of sticks and they're not sold separately.

Thanks! You can reuse the holder. So i bought a 20stick pack (comes with holder) so I expect that to last maybe 3 months. I started testing yesterday and I expect my static by Friday. It tells you (based on your shortest previous cycle) when to start testing.
I know busy I'm on cycle 4 now and getting seriously impatient. I bet if I'd had a one night stand with a criminal/ alcoholic/ dead beat / loser I'd be preg by now but because I actually want it to happen it's not happening (sob).
I've really geared myself up for August being my month, I'll hibernate and cry all day if I get a BFN!

Okay so you can use it for more than one cycle you just by the stick bits. But can you buy them separately?

Ugh I'm so confused. Today was another low/imaginary line on the OPK. But will keep trying. At least dh is home so can dtd in the hopes that something might work I suppose. According to ovia my fw finishes on Wednesday and my test date is 2 weeks today but think I might just ignore that. Not sure when to test suppose just see what happens in two-three weeks. I kind of wish I knew what was going on though as its my brothers wedding on 20th August and would love a few glasses of champagne but don't want to risk anything! Ugh. Overthinking. Enough.

eva I'm keeping fingers crossed for you in August then! I hope the flashing smiley devil is nicer to you!

Hi busy - for the dual hormone test you can't buy the sticks separately, it's always a whole new kit.

That sounds incredibly frustrating Maybe like me, your body may still be adjusting after birth control and you may ovulate later. Ovia had my FW totally wrong this month which I only knew because I carried on testing! It's now all updated on Ovia since putting in peak OPK result.

I know busy,I'm already thinking of how to cover up not drinking if I get my BFP! It's my 30th birthday in Sept and the year all my friends will turn 30 so that's a lot of excuses needed! I hoped a while ago that I'd be expecting by my 30th birthday so have booked a big holiday to avoid drinking celebration. Luckily the holiday will cover my FW in Sept so if no joy in August then there's some positives to cling on to.
Cd11, day 2 of flashing smiley.
pyjamas did you manage to DTD again yesterday? Now for the dreaded TWW?! Is this your first cycle?

Yep, managed to DTD again last night Eva Am exhausted now! Going to try again tonight, but both DH and I are pretty much done - actually looking forward to 2WW so the pressure to DTD is off a bit! It's second cycle after coming of birth control, but first cycle of actually trying as we totally missed FW last month due to work stress and ovulating a lot earlier (the opposite problem to this cycle!)

Have no idea what am going to do re: telling people about not drinking if I get a BFP - the second I turn down a drink, I'll be rumbled!

Hope smiley face behaves!

Eek fingers crossed for you pj when's your test date? I know what you mean about turning down a drink. I've had full on flu and not turned down a drink! So I'll definitely be rumbled!

eva eek that is not good a lot of excuses are most definitely needed. I was thinking maybe saying I was antibiotics but my family are nosey and will ask why! Day 2 of flashing smiley sounds good right on plan =]

My temp shot right up this morning but not sure if that's because had dh home and sleeping next to me or what. But then again if you look at my temp and what an example chart is it's literally perfect for what it should be. Will see what OPK says later but I'm not hopeful.

Hi busy- test day is 6th August according to Ovia eeek. Excited and petrified at the same time! It also gave me a date range for baby to be born if we conceived this cycle which TOTALLY freaked me out. My temps are still all over the place - really think they depend almost entirely on how hot/cool our room happens to be at the time which varies massively.

I'm just going to have to have a lot of "other plans" if I get a BFP and avoid social occasions entirely!

Hope you have more luck with your OPK later

Eva - when are you testing and what cycle are you on?

Slightly darker line but still within the realms of imaginary. I'm in a really grouchy mood today don't know what's up with me.

Your test date is two days before mine pj although mine is likely to change if an OPK doesn't darken up soon!

And that is scary I get its meant to be exciting but showing you when it will be born etc is just scary. Lol

My test date is 13th August. I'm on cycle 4, getting rather impatient now...
I know a few people who have conceived whilst 'not trying' or 'by accident' which I'm now quite dubious about!
Not to sound like a raging alcoholic but I'd be rumbled too, people would guess immediately. I think I'd try to have 'other plans' too pyjamas but not attending a friends 30th, maybe that would set alarm bells off too! I know all my friends would understand when it eventually is revealed why though - Just an awkward phase those first 3 months!!
pyjamas hats off to you for the amount of DTD! We DTD tonight and Sunday and I'll soon be joining you in the exhausted, just leave me to relax on the sofa phase.

busy how annoying (opks). What cd are you? Hope you've got a good supply of opks, persevere!

Lol I love that we are all worried about being rumbled from refusing alcohol. Never mind any other possibilities lol.

You two are heroes. Atm I feel like a sex pest with my dh! He gets too freaked out when I tell him it's potentially fertile window so I have to try and be subtle about it!

Mmmm so all test dates close together

Also yes I don't understand how the hell people get pregnant by accident. I just want to scream at them how?!

I am CD16 of an unknown length first proper cycle. I had a bag of 100 cheapie OPKs I think if no luck by end of August and if I know my cycle length I might invest in the clear blue one. No point really until I know my cycle length.

Last dtd in the bag - so relieved we don't have to think about it for a while! TWW now beckons...

DH away for work for 2 nights tomorrow - so not only do I get a break, I get whole bed to myself

Ha ha - the boozing is seriously one of the only things that will rumble me!

Lol at feeling like a sex pest busy - DH said I was breaking him, I said he wasn't the only broken one!

Hi girls, so we dtd last night for first time since mc so I think I'll be back in the game from now. It's cd cd12 today if I count from first day bleeding but to be honest I have no idea how it works after mc, when ill ovulate (or if i even will) and what this cycle will be like at all so just a waiting game until next real af I think. Started temping Monday so you pros can take a look once I have a few more weeks of data as I have no clue yet! How are you all doing? Who's next to test, is it you pj?

Hi jj good to see you back, how are you feeling?
Unfortunately I also miscarried at the end of last week, had a scan on Monday which confirmed everything has gone and my lining is back at 3mm. It was crap timing as my sister got married at the weekend and I was supposed to be MOH, I asked to be downgraded to Bridesmaid so I didn't have to do as much but it was still hard to enjoy the day. I feel so sad, tired and just really low now... Don't feel like trying again any time soon!

Sorry to hear about your loss cinnamon - hope you're doing ok all things considered and taking care of yourself

Hi jj - hope things even out for you soon. Yep, I think it is me next to test - Ovia telling me to test on 7th August, but, it's also telling me AF is due on 2nd Aug, so will be very hard not to test then!! I think it's confused as I ovulated on CD20 this time...

Am in 2WW now - currently enjoying being able to relax in the knowledge that we've done what we can! This is my second cycle after coming off bc, but first cycle of actually trying, so am not holding out much hope - am trying to mentally prep for a long haul TTC!

Welcome back jj it's nice to hear from you.
cinnamon I am so sorry to hear that

Hi jj it's really nice to hear from you! Glad to hear you are getting back on the horse (so to speak) we are all here to help with temping or God knows what =]

cinnamon that's horrible news I'm really sorry for your loss I hope you are feeling a bit better soon

Well I jinxed myself my temps are now a roller coaster ride again! Also not sure about OPK today so will ask you ladies. I got up this morning and had fmu then had about an hour wandering around like a wounded buffalo with a massive migraine. For me there's only one thing I can do then which is go back to bed. From which I've just woken up. Can I do an OPK now after being asleep for like 5 hours or would it skew the results?

busy did you do the OPK? They say as long as you have 3 hours sleep it's pretty reliable.

Hey :). Yeah I'm ok thanks, its been such a rollercoaster I just feel like I want to get this cycle over with so I can get my af (never thought I'd wish for that!) So that I know what's going on again.

Sorry for your loss cinnamon:'( it sucks doesn't it. Let's just hope the odds are now in our favour and the next one will be OK xx

I know this is silly as well as a baby is a baby but I really don't want a summer one so I'm hoping it happens again by next month so it's a May baby latest. Obviously if it doesn't happen by then then I doubt we would stop trying for months but fx.

Do you think you'll hold out that long pj?! If you know when you ovd then maybe you can test at 10dpo? I'd be too impatient to wait lol.

Did you opk busy?

I did do it. Was definitely darker, mine are cheapies though not the digital and not supposed to use fmu with them so now not sure if it's because I slept and it was concentrated or if it's really darker.

jj I know how you feel about looking forward to af a bloody odd feeling isn't it?!

I don't know if I will be able to hold out that long jj! I think I ovulated on Monday due to peak result on CB digital and positive cheap OPK on Sunday and weird pelvic twangs on Monday - I have next to no CM ever (symptom of coming off birth control I think) and my temps are all over the place, so it's just a guess! Who am I kidding, we all know I'll be testing 10dpo if AF doesn't arrive as predicted a couple of days earlier!

Promising on the darker OPK busy Those tests are so variable depending on time of day, water consumers etc so not surprised you're questioning it! Digi ones recommend FMU, so at least you get it over with, in case you decide to move on to those!

Had two glasses of wine tonight - was going to try and abstain, but then thought I may as well enjoy myself a bit.

pyjamas I came off the pill in April and I thought this EWCM was a figure of everyone's imagination but I got it today for the first time! Maybe it takes a few months to go back to normal. My BBT has also been a lot more stable this cycle so far..

That's helpful to know Eva! I came off pill in May after being on it for a couple of months and before that had Nexplanon for three years - my system must be extremely confused!