First timers: ttc in June

[DelphiniumStar]

Hello Mumsnet! This is my first post. I'm 28 and new to ttc. On cycle #2 cd12. Very few of my friends have kids or are interested in having them so I'm in need of some support!

I'd love to hear from others in a similar position and find some cycle buddies!

Aww An0n that sounds really rough. Thinking of you. FX all is okay. xxx

Haha that would be fast! Typo on my part - should have been 30mph. Still faster than the speed limit near schools though!!

Hiya,

Welcome to the thread Banana! I'm glad you mentioned what your consultant said - we DTD this morning before work and I certainly did not have time to lie down for 20 minutes!

An0n I hope you're ok...

I noticed 3 of us have flowers in our name, what is the story behind your name? I chose IrisPurple as it was the main colour for my spring wedding theme. I just had to have irises, and purple the colour of irises.

And Bananafish... I bet that's got an interesting story!

Anon big hugs to you - hope you're feeling a little better

Thanks Iris - I love the flower names - what a gorgeous story behind yours

Mine is from a JD Salinger short story, called "A Perfect Day for Bananafish". And I was born in 1981

Re: injections, I'm somewhat nervous as I had a bit of a scary scan last month - came off the pill and decided to go for a 'Fertility MOT" scan, as it was by getting one done 5 years ago that I was diagnosed with PCOS. Showed my ovaries were polycystic but that my ovarian reserve was v good. Scan 4 weeks ago showed my antral follicle count had absolutely plummeted! Went to see my consultant in pieces terrified I'd dried up practically overnight. He said it's far more likely that the scan was misleading given I'd only come off the pill less than 2 weeks prior (wasn't done by him, I went to a different clinic), but needed further investigation to see where we are. If it looks like my AMH and antral follicle count have tanked, we might need to go straight to IVF

If we do, I'm gonna have to bite the bullet about doing my injections myself!

Although even if we don't, if I don't respond to the Clomid he said the next stage after that is FSH injections, so I might end up needing to do my own injections anyway!! I look away when having blood taken, but don't think you can do that if having to jab yourself

Although I'm far more worried about my ovaries having dried up than the prospect of having to inject myself TBH!!

Aww bananafish that must have been worrying to hear but your gp seems more optimistic. When can he do his further investigations? Fingers crossed it doesn't take too long

Thanks Alpha. My consultant said let's get the day 3 bloods done, then he'll see me 10 days later for a scan and we'll see how things look then. That'll be approx 7 weeks after stopping the pill rather than the < 2 weeks when I went for the fertility MOT, so hopefully a more accurate picture of what's going on.

So as AF arrived today, bloods on Monday and will see consultant approx 2 weeks after that.

My friend is a GP (not my GP) and she said it sounded like an oral contraceptive pill issue giving misleading results. There's no obvious reason my ovarian reserve should have plummeted between the age of 28 to 33, so I'm hoping the more likely explanation is what's going on. If not then, well, Clomid will get shelved and I guess it's on to IVF as quickly as possible really. Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed!!

Thanks for your kind words PallasCat IrisPurple bananafish81.
I feel a bit better in myself today, and I'm having a thorough check tomorrow. I'm fasting today so expect to get hungry (and therefore grumpy!) later on. I'm sparing you all the TMI so sorry about being vague! I'm sure everything will be fine.

bananafish81 I really hope it turns out to be a misleading scan and everything is OK.

IrisPurple that is a lovely story behind your user name. I think mine just reflected my desire to be anonymous - so much so I didn't want to use my more usual online user names!

On the TTC front: Husband and I are still trying - my app predicts I'm ovulating today. For the 1st time ever, checked cervix as an indicator, as I'm still finding mucus less reliable with all the sex. I'm considering starting temperature checks too.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

I'm considering starting temperature checks too yup me too.

AF got me yesterday - early and v painful. Thinking I might either temp or OPK (either way it'd be my first cycle doing this) this month.
Does anyone have any advice/thoughts/input on OPK v temping? I'd be really interested.

I've had 2 consecutive cycles of 25 days, and if my next one is the same, AF/BFP would be due on the first day of our delayed honeymoon. So feeling like I might step things up a gear this month in terms of working out what's going on, optimum fertility point etc.

Pallascat I've found temping and OPKs exceptionally helpful personally, although I am PCOS and just off the pill so have no semblance of a predictable cycle anyway. Without the OPK I wouldn't have had any idea I was about to O - esp as I had no fertile CM to clue me in that my body was gearing up. My temperature rise then confirmed I did indeed O, and could pinpoint it to the right day. I also then knew not to bother POAS before AF was due because I could see my temps falling so I knew AF was on its way. Obv if you're 'normal' and have regular cycles and know you ovulate, then temping etc is prob more hassle than it's worth - just DTD all the time and you shouldn't miss O date.

But if you're trying to target DTD then it's a more reliable way than just using a period tracker to predict - as you might well be ovulating at a different time to where the app is suggesting you do.

Don't know if that's any help at all? Xx

Thank you bananafish that's really helpful. Yeah the thing is I have felt it's probably not necessary, because I consistently get what I'm pretty sure is OV pain - currently occuring around CD10, which is early but my recent cycles have been short. It always lines up with EWCM. Plus I always used to get the same sensation before I went on the pill, and never got it while on the pill, so I do feel fairly confident that I'm identifying OV naturally. But then maybe it's worth temping/opking to confirm this... hmm food for thought...

Hi ladies,

I hope everyone had a good weekend with lots of sex and not too much symptom spotting!

Banana I looked up that short story on Wikipedia - sounds intriguing! I hope everything is OK after your scan - I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Alpha - it's OK to feel a bit emotional, it catches you unawares, doens't it? I hope you're feeling better. I felt a bit like that myself yesterday, when out with my male friends who all have kids, and they said their wives (one older and drinks coke by the gallon) got pg within the first 2 months. We must think positively - if other girls are getting pg then it means that it can happen!

Been a funny weekend... Did anyone see on the news about the explosion in a factory in Cheshire? My husband is a contractor and he was due to be at that factory tomorrow. He could easily have gone on Friday instead. That was a bit scary!

Symprom-wise, CD21, had stomach cramps yesterday and sore boobs for a few days. Exactly the same pattern as last cycle, so hoping for another 28d-ish cycle. Not expecting BFP this time.

Cat I'm keeping my fingers doubly crossed for you this month for a honeymoon BFP!

Hey folks. I'm finally on to my next cycle, cd6, so starting to feel more positive again.

My flower name has no particular story. I just like the word and the flower!

I've been temp checking but not finding it very insightful yet. The error bars must be big!

Anyone got any particular tactics this cycle?

Thanks for kind words. I'm on CD8 and feeling much brighter.

Irispurple-I saw all about that explosion. How awful for the people involved. Makes me realise how lucky I am.

Thanks for good thoughts ladies, keeping my fingers crossed. The good news is that after 3 days of just spotting, AF seems to have arrived, which means
a) I definitely ovulated!
b) I can get my Day 3 bloods on the right day

It's weird cos obv when TTC no AF is a good thing, as might mean a BFP. But when you've got PCOS and don't normally ovulate, a proper period feels like a massive triumph, as means my body is at least capable of laying an egg!

How's everyone been this week?

Glad to hear you got your AF bananafish!

I've had a bug as well as AF this week so been feeling really rough, but both are over now, so back to TTC (I'm CD7 so early days but I think I usually ov around CD10, so time to get cracking!)

How is everyone?
I'm on cd5. I have OPKs but have ordered a thermometer so will see how that goes. It would be nice to have the confirmation that I am actually ovulating.
Rain is making me feel very irritable! Crocheting my friend a baby blanket a wishing it were for me. xx

I think I ovulated yesterday but my hubby is away hiking in the brecon beacons until tomorrow! I already knew this would be the case so I was prepared and have soothed the frustration with pampering and chocolate cake . Hope everyone else is having more luck. Looking forward to the first bfp on this thread! Xx

Hi ladies, my AF came too today, 1 day early. I'm just so glad I appear to be regular. We had all the family round, but fortunately I wasn't ill like last month. Except for the cold I've had the last 5 days!

Cat how was your honeymoon? I hope you weren't poorly all the way through.

Anyone else due to test soon?

Sizzle awww that crochet sounds gorgeous! You’re a great friend

I temp and I found it very useful for confirming ovulation last month. I was massively surprised to get a +ve OPK, but as PCOS can give false positives, it was really helpful to be able to confirm if I did go on to ovulate or not by looking at my temps.

I’ve been trying the Kindara app and Fertility Friend. The former is much nicer to use, the latter has way more functionality. Good luck!

Alpha bloody law of sod! I know how you feel, as sod's law, if I do ovulate this month, if it's any earlier than last month then it’s unlikely we'll have any chance of trying to catch that egg as DH has to be away CD12-18. Last month I ovulated on CD20 so am hoping if my body does decide to lay an egg it can hang on till then!!

Fingers crossed for a late egg! X

Hey everyone. Anyone in 2ww yet? I'm cd13 so going at it. Hoping this cycle will be a normal length. Last two were 41 then 47. Anyone had success with opks?

Hey all!

Looking forward to the first bfp on this thread! Yes indeed, Alpha! Good call on the chocolate and pampering too . Fully justified, under the circs.

Hitting fertile period like you delphinium so not testing for a long while yet! (I'm CD10)

Banana FX for a late egg for you.

Iris sorry I wasn't clear - honeymoon is not for a couple of weeks - it'll be the next AF that hopefully won't arrive (FX, touch wood etc) while we're away. That's if my cycle length stays the same as the last two though, which is anyone's guess.

I've been pretty self controlled about not testing early so far (achieved by just not having any tests in the house, rather than actual self-control!). Think I might take a different approach this time and start testing when I'm towards the end of 2ww. For 1, to prepare myself if it is a BFN as I think I'd take it harder than in previous months if we're on honeymoon: AF will be just what I don't want for so many reasons! Also we have what could potentially be quite a rowdy drunken weekend the weekend before our honeymoon, so might do a FRER before that just in case. Right that's it - I'm decided - off to order some tests before I change my mind!

Hi Ladies. I have colon cancer, so TTC is on the shelf for now. I might start a new thread to see if anyone else was TTC and now facing chemo, but I hope there isn't! Don't want to be a downer on this thread - it should be a positive place! I expect I will still follow this thread for a while, its been fun and will remind me of were I'm aiming to be down the track.

Wishing you all BFP's and healthy safe pregnancies. All the best xxx

Oh an0n

Just devastating to read that. All my love to you and OH.

Have they caught it early? When will you start treatment? I have so many questions but don't want to be intrusive.

I think it is a really positive idea to start a new thread but please do keep checking in here too.

Take care my lovely. Message me anytime xxx