First timers: ttc in June

[DelphiniumStar]

Hello Mumsnet! This is my first post. I'm 28 and new to ttc. On cycle #2 cd12. Very few of my friends have kids or are interested in having them so I'm in need of some support!

I'd love to hear from others in a similar position and find some cycle buddies!

We are lucky...no more weddings until October

Thanks daisylassy and Sizzle81
Yes I think I will have to 'just do it'! Why can't I be scared of spiders instead? My lady GP was just lovely but I just get so scared! The blood tests are to check my general health is in order, I think they are often done after people find out that they are pg, but that is because people often don't see a GP before they get pg?
In other news, I got my period yesterday, so no magical 1st attempt luck for us! I know that the general advice is try for 6 months (at our age) before getting fertility checked, but I don't know why? We are already doubting our fertility (and wondering what we did wrong, how can we do better, etc!).

Unexpectedly heard today (early!) that Mr Cat is all okay! False alarm, and no need for followup appointment. I'm sooooo happy!
Annoyingly he's away for work and not around to celebrate tonight. But never mind, couldn't be better news, and a week before we thought we'd get it. Yay!

Ooh sorry, also welcome, Iris and Alpha. Lovely to have you both on board!

Thank you for the welcomes!

I agree, it is almost as private as your age / weight etc, but I've told most of my friends, it's good to share experiences with people who have gone before, and it's a part of my life. I didn't want to be discussing it with family other than my parents though, as I don't want to feel under pressure, or worry about letting people down, particularly my husband's side.

I've told my boss, as we have a good relationship. It was a good job, as I had to go home from work when I was ill with first AF. Lots of colleagues have been making suggestive comments about trying for a baby since I returned from honeymoon last week.

I find the phrase "we're just seeing what happens" covers it all

Not bothering with opk or charting.

Enjoy your ciders in the sunshine! I'm back on the waggon again for 3 weeks.

An0n good luck with the smear.

???? Pallascat I'm so pleased for you both!! X

Great news PallasCat :) :) :)

Great news pallascat!

So glad for Mr Cat. Yay!

daisy I'm still bfn and no af. cd40...

Thank you everyone!

How are you all doing today? x

Ur welcome Cat.. Well been very busy at work summer hols in two weeks so it's a race to the finish. Had some bad news about where we live (currently mortgage but rent it out then we rent ourselves) might be losing house if we can't get it together to buy it , just an added but if stress I don't really need. Trying to stay stress free ... Been trying to DTD every other day ... What about everyone else?? Is any one near to testing or like me about to begin the 2ww!!
Who knew that trying to get preggers was so hard ... It's they make it sound so simple at school and on television... X

Hi,

Cat we must have posted at the same time, I'm very pleased to hear you're in the all clear and back on the TTC bus!

Daisy sorry to hear your news. I rent out my old house too.

I think I'm in the middle of my cycle - That's assuming it sticks at 28d - only had one post-pill AF so far and not bothering with opk - so going for every other day at the mo. The first month it was really exciting and was symptom spotting everywhere, this time just getting on with it and not noticing any symptoms. I kind of got it into my head that it'd either be during the 'fertility spike' at 1 month, or it'll take 6 months at my age.

Never knew it would be so complicated or that the pill would mess with your body so much. I'm amazed anyone manages to get pg these days!

Star any news??

Still nothing... Cd44. Went for a bike ride this afternoon and trying not to stress. I think the pill has fucked my cycle up royally...

Dstar-that must be really frustrating

AF is due in a day or two and I have all of my usual symptoms. Feeling quite disappointed but I guess it will do no good to wallow. Because we took a gap where we stopped ttc for a while this is my 4th unsuccessful cycle. Fingers crossed for lucky cycle 5.

Where is everyone else up to? X

Alpha100 Good to hear what you are up to - I hope this cycle is your lucky one!
Here's my update:
I'm on CD8, second cycle TTC, and for the 1st time in like ever, my cycle is not doing what it always does. I had an awful period by my standards, and spotting a couple of days after, so I'm a little worried about whats going on!

My husband dragged me to get my blood tests, during which I cried. Almost worse than the fear I felt was the embarrassment at behaving like that at my age AND while TTC. But its good that its done. Next is the smear test - I think I am more scared about that, but with the unusual amount of cramps I am getting these days I feel I need a check up.

In other news - I am considering getting a moon cup - I currently use pads only but my periods are getting heavier. Also, my husband is really keen on getting me to put pillows under my backside after sex. I don't like doing this (I don't think it'll make any difference and I feel stupid! And I like to go clean up after rather than just lie there!) so now I'm wondering if using a moon cup after sex could be an alternative. I'd love to hear others thoughts on this!

Also, I met up with my girlfriend as usual for a coffee and plate of cheese and biscuits, and I just didn't eat any bree - I don't think she noticed! Her and her partner ate all of it themselves! I think I will say I'm on a diet if she notices.

Sorry for so much detail! I love reading about everyone elses experiences too :)

Hi ladies,

Just back from a camping trip, CD14 so the air bed got a lot of use! Hoping for a good night's sleep tonight as we were awake til 3am thanks to a storm - not good for TTC.

I'm not sure what a moon cup is - is it something you put inside? Pillows are more comfortable than rolling onto the top of your back with your knees in your chest! Keep forgetting to put one in place tho. It is definitely recommended to stay lying down for a bit.

An0n well done for getting through your blood test! One down 2 to go...

I love hearing everyone's experiences too as we go through this together!
Xxx

Hi ladies, room for a little 'un?

I'm 33, cycle 1, TTC #1. I have PCOS and never really had proper periods - when I last came off the pill, in order to get myself checked out, I had a 9 month long anovulatory cycle. Gynae said fine to come straight off the pill and start Clomid, but decided I'd come off the pill to give my body a break from one lot of hormones before chucking another lot at it, and start Clomid after the summer. Also by charting am hoping to try to tune into my body and be able to better understand if/how Clomid's making any difference.

So this is my first cycle off the pill - wasn't expecting anything at all to happen. Yet by some miracle it appears I have somehow managed to lay an egg! We did our best to try and catch it and currently 6dpo in the 2ww. If AF turns up I'll know I did O and will be able to get day 3 bloods done, if I've had my first genuine period in over 10 years! If it doesn't, then I guess I'll know not to rely on a +ve OPK & temperature shift as signs of ovulation. Unless by some mad stroke of luck I get a BFP....well a girl can hope!

CD21 and nothing to report - just checking in. How is everyone?

Hey banana! Good to have you aboard!

An0n well done for biting the blood tests bullet. I've had so many in the past I don't mind them, but once had a nurse do one and she told me how she couldn't handle them herself - her husband apparently had to sit on her to restrain her for them! I'm sure whoever took yours is not surprised by a few tears!

Iris thank you and hope you enjoyed your camping .

Delphi and Alpha any news? How are you getting on?

Hi everyone and welcome banana!

My AF arrived as expected. I was determined to remain optimistic but looking at my chart it seems I'm next due to ovulate the same time my OH is off camping with his friends. This (alongside two new baby announcents with scan photos on facebook) seemed to tip me over the edge and I did shed a few tears but I've now pulled myself together and feeling cheerful again.

I hope everything is going better for all you guys. Is anyone due to test soon? X

An0n- my cycle did exactly the same to me. Was regular as clockwork 29 day cycle but as soon as we binned the condoms it went haywire- I've been 5 days late, 8 days late and 2 days early with regular periods in between! X

Hey everyone. (Kind of) good news for me. Finally AF today after CD47. Hoping this cycle will be shorter and will take ovulation tests this cycle. I think my body is having trouble readjusting from the pill. Hope it's nothing more than that. I'm trying to focus on being fit and healthy and trying to lose a bit of weight while I wait!

An0n are you overweight? Have you been tested for pcos? In terms of post sex spunk retention I just lie there for 10 mins and then get up and clean up. I'm not sure how a mooncup would work?

banana sounds promising?

Aww Delphi, that must be a relief, even though it's not the best possible news, it still counts as good news I think!

Alpha how frustrating! Think you're definitely entitled a few tears. Glad you're picking up.

Thanks ladies! Thanks for having me

I’m 11 dpo and don’t feel any symptoms at all, apart from feeling a bit emotional - which I’m guessing is the beginning of PMT. I was on the pill for so long, and when not on the pill could go months and months without a period, so I’d forgotten how rubbish hormones were!! Obv would have loved the miracle of a first-month BFP, but as I wasn’t in a million years expecting to ever ovulate, I’ll be bloody delighted if AF turns up, as means that I did lay an egg!

Delphi Re: the after sex spunk question (haha) My DH unceremoniously (but very sweetly) picked up my ankles and swivelled me round with a pillow under my bum & my legs up the wall. I asked my consultant about legs up / soft cups etc, and he said it doesn't make a jot of difference, as the swimmers that are going to get up there do so immediately (60mph apparently! how that was ever measured I don’t want to imagine…!) - and the, er, blow-back is just seminal fluid. But obv said it won’t do any harm - however I now can’t do that pose in yoga class without giggling haha

Xx

Hello and welcome bananafish81. I'm inclined to agree with your consultant re. helping the swimmers. Can't convince my husband though!

Thank you to all about your kind words and support re. needles and smears.
In answer to the questions -
I'm a healthy weight (BMI 22)
Never been tested for PCOS
This is an example of a mooncup www.juju.com.au/products/JuJu-Menstrual-Cup.html?gclid=CJSf5tbN3sYCFZeWvQod9p8GQw

This week I've mostly been having a health scare, which has led to more needles and some pretty invasive examinations, which has put some things into perspective - mainly I should be grateful to be able to have access to good medical care like needles and smears, not complaining about them.

On the TTC front, I'm on day 12 of my cycle, into the start of my fertile period. Part of me feels that we should wait until I've been checked out further (waiting for a referral for more tests) and besides I don't feel that great - defiantly not 'in the mood'. Husband seems confused and a little rejected by this :(

Wishing you all success! xx

60mph apparently! how that was ever measured I don’t want to imagine…!
Amazing fact, thank you bananafish! Tee hee!