The waiting game!!!

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TWW officially begins!!!!!

AF due 13th May and have no idea of how I'm going to wait that long!

This is our first cycle TTC baby #1 and since we have decided to try I have been very anxious. I just want this to happen, my close family have all had fertility issues and I've convinced myself I will too.

Just thought I'd start thus for support for all wanting some words if encouragement.

Another BFN I'm starting to lose hope for this cycle. I know it's only 9 dpo but I'm not feeling anything. I really thought I'd be pg by now.

soda hope you have better luck than me this morning.

bourbon I think it could be IB. when did you ov? but like soda has said, it could also be anything.

Re: my friend. She's more like a lone friend and doesnt know my other friends well. I dont think I'd be upset if she stops speaking to me but I'd feel really guilty about making her upset. I think I'd just ask her to be one of my bridesmaids and if she says anything insensitive and too self-absorbed then I'll sack her... soda & bourbon - thank you for your input. It's really helpful.

bourbon it's amazing that you've been with your DH for so long!
Was with my ex for almost 10 years but the thought of him fathering my children never felt right and eventually had the courage to end it. Finally met my DP at 30, and I think he's going to be a great dad. Now just need to produce a baby!

soda I was so slow at typing my post that I only just read your post after posting mine. So sorry for your BFN.

TMI alert!
After the last post I went to the loo and found EW/watery CM with pink spotting and felt but also hoping it could be IB. So I went googling and found this page which took away my hope...
spotting during luteal phase

Sorry for your BFN too gakay Very early days for you though. That link is interesting - I thought IB was pretty common with pregnancy but apparently not. I'd say there's still hope though - chin up!

I'm like you too re partner - I was with my ex for 10 years and he wouldn't commit in the end. I met DP aged 30 and wonder why I wasted so much time with my ex!

Good decision on the friend, see how it goes and sack her if she's a pain!

AF should come today or tomorrow for me - if I'm regular. I read that the luteal phase is the same every month for individual people so based on last month it's 14 days and I'm 14dpo today. Was really disappointed on Monday with BFN but accepting it now and wanting AF to arrive so I can get on with next cycle!

soda gakay booo sorry for your BFN :(

gakay I have no idea for certain when I ovulated, but it should have been thurs/fri last week. As my peak day was apparently (according to ovia) on Friday. I think its more likely to be random and just one of those things probably.

Yes - i do feel lucky that I was with DH for so long. We started out as friends and both had feelings but didn't want to ruin it - then our friend alcohol got involved, and the rest is history. Never imagined being with anyone else since - well apart from those days you always get where you want to scream at them sometimes! haha. I know DH will be a good day, his sis has two boys, 7 & 4 and he is sooo good with them, he's been broody since the first was born, and i was like -Ummmmmm no thanks, not yet! haha.

soda hope you are doing OK. :)

Still no interview news... so we will wait and see! I just want to be put out of my misery! On all counts this month - still 9 days til I can test!

Wondering about getting some OPKs just to see this month in case I am missing something! I did mean to DTD last night, just in case it was later, but I was so tired from all the interview and everything I just went to bed early :/ maybe will DTD tonight just in case...

AF has arrived the evil cow

I'm ok. I had my miserable day on Monday- when I got my BFN then I knew it wasn't my month. On the plus side AF didn't keep me waiting and I'm pretty bang on regular so that's good.

Going to enjoy a bit of fizz at my friend's wedding on Saturday and then get started again for this month. Think I'm going to get some pre-seed lube stuff. I think that I mentioned earlier but I really seem to lack any CM - only noticed creamy White stuff in last few days, none of this fertile stuff people talk about. And going to DTD as much as possible - obviously!

Still keeping huge fx for you girls - and for news on your job bourbon

Can I join in? Ttc baby no 2 for 9 months. How much do you dtd. This month we did it on days 7, 10, 11, 13,14,15,16. According to ovulation monitor I ovulated on day 14. I'm really struggling as I get more and more upset every month. I'm sure this month hasn't worked. Any words of encouragement gratefully received.

soda sorry that the evil cow has arrived but am glad that you are feeling positive. It's good timing so you can have all the champaign and have fun this weekend.
I've not tried pre-seed. Let us know what you get on with it. Good luck with your new cycle!

bourbon looks like you are on a double waiting game - must be really hard.
I find OPKs quite helpful - at least I feel a little bit more in control by know roughly when I'm likely to ovulate but also need to remember that it does not guarantee successful conception - this is my 6th cycle on it...

Welcome wonky
DP and I are quite lazy and only DTD around ov time. This cycle we did it On CD10, 11, 12 and think I ov'd on cd12.
But just been told by a colleague what helped her conceive was by reducing TTC to every other day, even around ov.

I know what you mean by getting more and more upset with each cycle. This is why I'm planning a wedding b4 DP proposes to distract myself. Guess we'll just have to stay positive each new cycle.

I'm having a glass of wine and had runny eggs for dinner followed by some Camembert cheese. There are some advantages to not being pregnant

Welcome wonky - it's tough I know. Try to keep positive although I know that's easier to say.

gakay - Ive heard good things about pre-seed. And I'm a bit worried about my lack of CM so thought it couldn't do any harm to give it a shot! Apparently you can use it a little while before DTD so I don't need to ruin the actual moment!

Ok I am freaking out a little about smp. If I did change jobs I would still qualify cos I've been working the qualified no of weeks overall right? I have seen so many old forum posts but none new and when I did the calculator thing about it I think it said it was ok but don't know if I answered it all right (it's so confusing!)
Such paranoia about it all! And worry - don't know why none are concrete at all yet!! Just worried cos we an to use all our savings now to clear out first buy loan off and then I worry if I don't qualify for smp I am stuck!! And I don't even know if I should worry yet!

soda I'm sorry AF has arrived. But it's good that you can enjoy the wedding and not worry about the champagne and can enjoy those lovely food treats! I think the cheese thing and sushi will be hardest for me!! Oh and Jack Daniels! Oh and wine if I am pregnant when we go to Italy!

Hi wonky
gakay glad wedding planning is giving a distraction! Planning the hen weekend for my friend I'm moh for has helped me today!
Sorry for rambles in soooo tired but can't switch off or think properly!!

I've been TTC for 7months now and I'm 21 years old. so frustrating! my periods are irregulars and last month I was 6 days late, honestly was so disheartened when I got a negative test. Any tips or advice? trying to become pregnant sends you crazy!

I'm the same. Two or 3 times in the ttc nine months I've been late when normally I'm bang on. It raises my hopes so much.

Just typed a really long post and the pc suddenly got rebooted

Another bfn this morning think I'm joining you, soda, with all the lovely booze and cheese plus sushi and oysters
Am spotting for the 2nd day. I seem to be spotting earlier and earlier, and for longer and longer. Will wait and see what my bloods say. If progesterone is low then it can be corrected easily. But if not, I really don't know what to do... may try vit B complex next month...

bourbon glad you had the hen party planning to distract you. I don't know much abt smp. I think if the calculator thing you did said it's ok then you should be ok. Try to think abt sth else for now. E.g. what are your plans for the wkn? Weather where we are is going to be lovely. Hope it's the same for you too

rbrydonx welcome
Not sure if I have any real tips or advice as I'm also ttc #1 and have been unsuccessful for 7 cycles following 2 early mc's.
What my friends have been telling me is simply to DTD every other day during fertile period. I also use OPKs.

My first tiny bean would be due in 2 weeks today... this makes me so sad...

gakay yeah you are right, I am trying to focus on other things today. I am making a list of things I need to think about/sort. I re-did the calulator and it would actually be MA not SMP that I would qualify for.... so thats not great. Adds another bit of confusion. We shall see. What happens happens, but if it doesn't happen and I get the new job, I might consider waiting a few months before trying again. I don't know. deal with it if it happens.

This weekend - I am off to see Take That tomorrow night, and then with the inlaws Saturday (again!) and then back home for a BBQ for friends birthdays on Sunday. So lots of nice things planned. :) in 3 weeks I will be away for my birthday :) yay!

gakay I am sending you lots of hugs must be so hard knowing that it is 2 weeks from that date. I can't imagine what you are feeling, but we are here for you

robrydonx welcome! Yes also new to this, only my second month ttc #1 as well so not much I can offer in advise or knowledge, we are just DTD when we feel like it and seeing what happens :)

Ok - so MA you don't pay tax on, so its not all bad, but DH would need to not change jobs to get his stat Pat pay... otherwise I am not sure what he would be able to do, but that's only 2 weeks anyway, so probably not as essential, he could (if we budgeted well) take some unpaid time if needed...

Hopefully now I can focus.... at least this bit has made me think less about the fact I haven't heard anything yet about the job!!!

elle and sarah how are you both?

Another bfn apparently only 20% of pregnancies would have a negative results on 11 dpo. Last evening I had quite a few twinges in my pelvic area and was really hoping that it's imp pain...

bourbon all these MA and SMP sound so complicated. I've not actually thought abt finances after baby properly. Just hoping that everything will work out in the end.

Sounds like you are going to have a great wkn! Am working today through to tmw morning then going to a friend's daughter's 1st bday party. That is going to be tough as will be surrounded by babies and pg women... will have to try my best not to get too envious.

I've been wondering how elle and bourbon have been doing too.

I think I am on course for a BFN I am not getting any CM anymore, its all gone, and feel normal. Plus I have had a 3.5lb weightloss this week, which never happens! So I don't think I will get a BFP next week.

yeah it really is a bit confusing, I am not so worried about the after, but just more the I want to be able to live when on mat leave. I think its cos we are focusing on house and paying off our equity loan. So just wanted to know how much savings I would need to rebuild in the meantime.

I really hope I hear about job today! I know they only finished interviews today, but gah!!!! I want to know if I got to second round!!

Sorry soda for af.

Question first day of last period 28 may 28 day cycle mn calendar not showing when do i need to dtd?

bourbon is the weight loss intentional? Well, don't lose hope yet. Am sure they are not strong indications of bfn.
Hope you are enjoying your TT show.

london it depends on your cycle length. Would suggest you just DTD every other day from now.

gakay yeah been trying to get down to a healthy weight, so been doing slimming world. I'm just off halfway to my ideal target for now. But taking it steady and just seeing how it goes. We shall see :) not doing it a stupid way so hopefully will be ok.

london I agree with gakay dtd every other at least or when you fancy it if think more

TT were AMAZING!!! Great night! Feeling so tired today though.... May have spent fortune in the new lush shop on Oxford St as well.... Oops! I saw early birthday pressie to me :)

Hi girls,

Hope you're all well and had nice weekends.

gakay - keeping fingers crossed for you. And bourbon - well done on weight loss.

I've had quite an eventful weekend - DP proposed to me today! Am thrilled! ??

soda congratulations!! Tell us more. How did he proposed? This is so exciting!

bourbon well done on the weight loss.

I'm still spotting but am sure AF is imminent as spotting is getting heavier. Have stopped poas since y'day. Will check if my blood test result is back. Am hoping I do have low progesterone then it can be corrected easily.

DP is now thinking perhaps we should have our wedding in this November to avoid big bump. I like the idea of getting married sooner but not sure about winter wedding. It would be so cold...

soda congratulations and yes - details :) how exciting!

gakay boooo :( have you had your blood results back this am? I think all my hormones are taking a bit of time to get back to normal post pill still. I have 4 days til POAS and I am just feeling normal, I don't have my usual AF symptoms yet, but I don't feel any different either, so no idea what will happen end of this week. I am thinking perhaps I will use one of my internet cheapies to see, but not holding my breath for anything this month.

Our weekend was really good, although I had a few drinks last night at a friends birthday BBQ and feel so tired from 3 nights of bad sleep now. Can't wait to get home and just relax tonight, think it will be bath and early night!

Oooh I love winter weddings! You could have one of those cosy shawls that they have or little jackets to go over you for photos, or a long cape. You would only be outside for a little while so wouldn't need to worry too much about the coldness.

Morning all, sorry not been around much have had a really busy week and weekend, nothing fun just work and building work at home! Oh did have a shopping day on Friday treated myself to a new handbag lol

Welcome to all newcomers, fx for you all.

Bourbon any news on the job??
soda CONGRATULATIONS.....need more details though, how/where did he do it??
gakay has the witch shown up?? Have you had your blood results back?

So then according to Ovia I have 5 days till I should test, no symptoms at all....have really made an effort to put it out of my mind and not torture myself like I did last month. last month I had loads of symptoms and spotting which felt very different to me so I was convinced I was pregnant only for AF to arrive 5 days late. This month is nothing like last month so just have to wait and see. I could be either 8dpo or 9dpo......

elle no news from the job - I am wondering how long I can leave it before i contact the agency?

sounds like you had a very busy & productive weekend.

I am the same I dont know if anything has happened or not really this month. no symptoms really, and I am glad I have been so busy over the past week as it definitely helps to not think so much on everything. I feel a little sickly today - but not sure if thats from over-indulging over the weekend. I was fine when I woke up and all morning, but the past hour been feeling a bit queasy... maybe I need to eat something else!