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The waiting game!!!

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Itwillhappenforus · 29/04/2015 09:10

TWW officially begins!!!!!

AF due 13th May and have no idea of how I'm going to wait that long!

This is our first cycle TTC baby #1 and since we have decided to try I have been very anxious. I just want this to happen, my close family have all had fertility issues and I've convinced myself I will too.

Just thought I'd start thus for support for all wanting some words if encouragement.

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sarah1391 · 01/05/2015 18:17

Hi everyone :) just thought i'd say hello. We r away to ttc #1...not sure how long it will take as my partner works away for weeks at a time (has been away for 3 weeks and came back today...will be away again on tuesday). Also I'd been on microgynon for 9 years and came off at the end of Feb!

Blanketsandpillows · 01/05/2015 21:31

Hello-can I join in! I think my TWW starts tomorrow (unsure about my cycle length so may have already started). TTC #2 and very excited. This is cycle 1 and I've convinced myself it'll happen so know i might be setting myself up for disappointment....

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Itwillhappenforus · 02/05/2015 10:46

Keep looking at my calendar and counting down days to the 13th May. This has officially been the longest four weeks EVER!!

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sarah1391 · 02/05/2015 11:48

itwillhappen fingers crossed for u! Stop looking at ur calendar and try to relax :)

gakay · 02/05/2015 21:05

Welcome sarah and blankets

itwillhappen am the same too. Keep looking at my temp chart and feeling glad about having ov'd and had well-timed DTD.

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Itwillhappenforus · 03/05/2015 08:19

Welcome blanket and sarah!

blanket it's so hard isn't it not to get carried away and think it will happen first month. I think I've convinced myself if it doesn't happen this first month we're going to struggle to conceive for years.

sarah we're in a very similar situation,I actually work away a lot of the time. Luckily this last cycle I've been local and not had to stay away but it looks more likely next month I will have to go Edinburgh for a couple if weeks (I live in Midlands). I hope it's works out in terms of my cycle days to dtd.

Just to report - no symptoms. Looking less likely by the day, but still okay with that. It will happen when it'd supposed to ( that's what I keep telling myself whilst stalking my app calendar).

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sarah1391 · 03/05/2015 11:24

itwillhappen quite nice to have someone in the same situation! Makes it difficult to plan to dtd so i'm not temping or anything like that as i think i'd just get frustrated! I'm trying to think the same too as i really believe in the whole 'everything happens for a reason' thing...but i'm already obsessed haha

gakay · 04/05/2015 10:30

No symptoms here either but think it's still too early to have symptoms.
Almost 1/2 way through our tww!

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Itwillhappenforus · 04/05/2015 17:40

Convinced am definitely not pregnant this month, I feel like I would know if that makes sense. I just know I'm not, which is fine. This is our first month and we would be the very small number of people to get pregnant with their first try if it happened.

I'm expecting it to take 6-12 months which to be honest I'm fine with, would love it to be much sooner but in addition to keeping fit and healthy and tracking your cycle there is a lot of luck in it. So I'm happy for when ill have my lucky month.

Feeling positive today although all of that seems negative, just seemed to have a reality check this weekend in my own head and thoughts. Hope you have all had a great weekend?

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gakay · 04/05/2015 18:11

Part of me really hope this month is the month but another part of me is also telling myself it's probably not gonna be but the next one might be the lucky month.

I had no idea what was going on with my body in my first cycle. I forgot when my AF would be due and completely missed the fact that it was late. Noticed some symptoms but never clicked that they were pg symptoms. So the BFP was great surprise. Am missing those ignorant days... it's so difficult to not monitor my body and obsess about every little thing I feel even though my logical mind tells me it's too early to notice anything and it's only going to stress me out.

Have had a lovely weekend (apart from Saturday as had to work). Boardgame all day yesterday and this morning. Really help taking my mind off the wait. Hope you girls have all had a lovely weekend too

sarah1391 · 04/05/2015 18:33

I think its best to try and take ur mind off it gakay (easier said than done). I'm thinking the same as u itwillhappen, probably 6-12 months...hopefully closer to 6 than 12 but whenever it happens is fine with me. I dont think it will be this time...i've seen a few threads about ewcm and i'm pretty sure i dont have this just now...and dont really know how to check! Maybe i should start paying more attention to what my bodys doing!

sarah1391 · 04/05/2015 19:15

Ok...i've just downloaded an app and its a period and ovulation tracker which asked me for my cycle length. I'm not sure of this as my last period i had was my first real one so the one before was a 'pill bleed' but i just used that...38 days (and that would be about right for what my period was like before i was on the pill).

Anyway...this app has said ovulation is today! I don't know if it's right or not but considering we DTD this morning i'm a bit like OMG.

I would actually be shocked if i got pregnant this quick haha but at the same time seeing that has made me get my hopes up Confused

gakay · 05/05/2015 09:39

sarah it's really hard to tell the cycle length when you've just come off the pill.
But like you said, everything happens for a reason, and it's best when you stay relaxed.

I dreamt that I had a BFP this morning. It should excite me but since I woke up I've been feeling really nervous. Guess I really don't want to have my hopes up only to feel disappointed again...

sarah1391 · 05/05/2015 10:11

Thanks gakay. It's only natural to feel nervous, dreams are weird because sometimes things in dreams happen so you're bound to be thinking 'what if'. Fx you do get ur BFP but if not, it'll happen when the time is right :)

sarah1391 · 06/05/2015 08:51

Hows everyone doing today? DP left yesterday morning for approx 3 weeks so fx I ovulated and we DTD a few times so just need to wait and see!

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Itwillhappenforus · 06/05/2015 09:07

Morning Ladies

I am doing well, having a crazy work this week. Love bank holidays but it does mean that I have to fit 5 days worth of work into 4!!

Sarah how are you getting on with your app? I think they are great as they help you track but also doesn't demand the time or stress of temping. I did OPK's around the fertile period to pin down ovulation day which will help in the coming months I hope.

gakay, dreams in some cultures mean that it will come true! Let's hope that's true.

In terms of symptoms (not tracking, but hard not to notice), this morning woke up with sore boobs Blush but now just feel very full. This is very normal for me in the run up to AF though so nothing new there. A couple of times over the weekend when I was sitting down and got up quickly I did get a shooting pain in my lower tummy. Literally for about 15 seconds but that's it. But again this is usual AF stuff.

My DH has asked a couple of times over the weekend if I think we're pregnant (he doesn't really get the TWW), and my response is definitely not. I feel like I would know.

Anyway, hope you are all well?!

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gakay · 06/05/2015 09:28

Morning.

sarah fx for you. Isn't it frustrating that work is taking our DP/us away when we are TTC? My DP happened to have to work abroad or away on my ovulation day in 3 of my previous cycles!

Anyway, no symptoms so far. Did notice a few twinges in my lower abdo a couple of days ago but that could just be my bowels.

Just had my first bfn thus morning. I know its way too early but because I'm on a trial it tells me to start testing daily from cd15! Crazy isn't it? I know. That's why I decided to go against the trial protocol and waited until today (8dpo). It's feeling less and less likely for a BFP now. Am trying to stay positive and hope the next cycle is the one.

itwillhappen think we sometimes assume our OH to know as much as we do re TTC. I had to give a reproductive lesson to my DP a couple of weeks ago.

sarah1391 · 06/05/2015 10:26

itwillhappen the app seems to be going fine, according to it we DTD at exactly the right time however if no BFP in a few weeks I think I'll combine it with temping/OPK (not sure which). Fx ur symptoms are for a BFP and not AF! Ur DH is funny, my DP seems to think we will get pregnant straight away, dont think he realises it could take a while!

gakay work does get in the way! But I suppose if he didnt do it then we wouldnt be in a financial position to TTC so have to just put up with it for now. Are twinges a sign for a BFP sometimes? Fx for u!

bourbondreams · 06/05/2015 11:42

hey! I'm i my TWW as well due AF 14th May... so nice to see so many other ladies in a similar timescale on their cycles. its my first month ttc #1 and have been trying to stay relaxed like you all say, but it is so much harder to not think about it all.

Anyway, I am also struggling to know what is possibly my endo symptoms for AF and what could be a BFP symptom, but I have been feeling queasy and tired past few days and had twinges. Who knows! It will happen when it happens, but would be nice to get this TWW over with already!

Hopefulnewbie · 06/05/2015 12:56

bourbondreams i just saw this thread you started.. can I join you all ladies?! Need to keep me sane! ..
AF due 13th May!! , this is only our second month ttc and im already symptom spotting … last week I was getting a pinching feeling in my side, now this week im getting a deeper sort of pinching pain lower down my side/groin (hope I’m not describing a symptom for something serious!) im also slightly nauseous and light headed… I just don’t want to get my hopes up!!

sarah1391 · 06/05/2015 13:15

Welcome bourbondreams and hopefulnewbie. Its our first month ttc too so can't offer much advice but the others here are great :)

Hopefulnewbie · 06/05/2015 13:27

itwillhappenforus sorry I just realised you actually started this thread! … see I can’t concentrate! all over the place Blush

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Itwillhappenforus · 07/05/2015 08:14

Ladies, less than a week for those of us testing on the 13th!! Definitely not pregnant this month, I just think I would know. And no real substantial symptoms, so looking forward to a glass of wine considering I haven't had one coming close to a month!!

Welcome hopeful and bourbon!!

How is everyone feeling? I has to be on a 6.17am train this morning to get to Manchester for 9am....tired beyond belief!

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Hopefulnewbie · 07/05/2015 08:19

Itwillhappenforus i had a moment of pure madness this morning and tested... obv it was a bfN and now im gutted and thinking im out this month.. why did i do that to myself when i knew it was too early !? ahhh

sarah1391 · 07/05/2015 08:37

I'm not sure when I should test :/ don't really know when my period is due so just guessing but then I read somewhere that if you don't know then wait til 21 days after DTD? itwillhappen relaxing with a glass of wine sounds lovely! hopefulnewbie i dont know why we do these things to ourselves! I want to test even though there is no way it would be a BFP!!

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