We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Hi all, I was on the last thread but after a crappy week I have been just lurking. Feeling a bit happier today after a bit of sunshine and a nice day out with DD and DH. Just coming to the end of the first AF since MC and although very heavy and painful the fist couple of days it wasn't too bad, although it did make me very tearful and emotional - we aren't really sure if we should TTC this month as DH has just lost his job - although he has to be paid for three months regardless and is pretty positive about getting something else, it is a worry. He wants to put it on hold for a bit, we talked last night and I just got very upset as I am 36 in August and although I know it shouldn't make too much of a difference I do worry about my age and waiting. We are financially ok for another few months but it would use all our savings - which is what we were keeping for Mat leave. I am just gutted and really fed up about the thought of waiting.

hello all, i hope you've all had a lovely weekend.

bummer kata re AF, but loving the positivity.

missP i'm also loving your symptom spotting.

Welcome flohs i'm sorry i'm lacking in the positivity dept atm but will try and pass some your way anyway!

OLTT have a fabulous time on your holiday. Really hope that you don't need the cbfm! and here's a fish slap in advance of your testing tomorrow

Thanks so much EVERYONE for the support. sorry i'm feeling so low and inflicting it on you guys. Tomorrow is a new week and it's up, up, UP!

missmakes it is a tricky situtation that you are in. What if you don't actively ttc but also don't take any precautions? I think i'd be paranoid about waiting and it then taking ages and ages to fall pg. And maybe, magically, taking the ttc stress away will make it happen for you - in which case I'm a bit fan of ''everything will work out OK in the end": DH will get a new job easily before his 3 months pay ends.

Since everyone is talking about the CBFM I took a look at it. It is £54 with free delivery on amazon at the moment, is that a good price? And does it come with sticks or do I need to buy a pack of those separately?

I was going to wait a cycle or two before trying any monitoring, but after reading the rave reviews on amazon I'm starting to get tempted...

Poor you missmakestuff, life is being pretty rotten to you at the moment. But being 36 isn't all that bad, honestly - take it from a 36 year old

Pengunita I got mine from amazon too and I think it's about the same price. You'll need to get sticks separately. You need 10 for cycle 1 if you ovluate before CD16, otherwise 20. There are 20 sticks in each pack.

katatonic we are off to Majorca for the sun! Super excited about it, but mainly just getting away from work. It's been very stressful.

miss I don't know what I would do in your situation. I think I'll wait but that's because I'm a worrier about money.

Morning folks.

oltt hope you have a fab and sunshine-filled holiday!

missmakes I agree with aly, maybe just say to your DH you're going to take it easy for a few months but don't take precautions either - and if you want to keep an eye on dates etc, then you could still do that...totally understand why the idea of waiting stresses you out so much. Occasionally I think to myself, WHY did we wait so long before ttc?? But I guess you don't expect it to so fraught.

Like penguinita I have just been having a look at cbfm and now very tempted!! Does anyone else on here who uses it have long cycles? Pre- mmc mine ranged from 35 to 42 days - will it still work? Presumably I just have to use loads of sticks? (Expensive having long cycles!)

To be so fraught

Oh just for an update. Another BFN. I think I deserve that fish slap!

birds i'm sure my box says it's for cycles up to 42 days. I think their websites would say the longest cycle it can handle. However, if your cycle is also irregular, then it probably won't be much help? I don't know about this one, but charting is usually only for fairly regular periods?

If your cycle is long, you need 20 sticks a cycle. The manual says it'll use either 10 or 20. On cycle 1, it will ask you for a stick from CD6. So if you ovulate before CD16, then you'll only need 10. If you ovulate between 16 and 25 then you'll need 20. HTH.

Hmmm... No idea what's going on. Started spotting on Saturday and have been on and off but that's it! No proper flow yet... Hmmm. 4 mths on and still getting weird cycles - anyone else get this?

Ps misstakes - trying in a relaxed way might be a good idea... Can totally see the idea of stopping altogether would be v frustrating. people do say cooling it for a bit can be good for the mind and therefore the body!

Right! AF is done, work is out of the way, and I'm back in the saddle! Here goes....
Flohs my AFs/cycles have been weird.
I think it went:
Really light,
Really heavy,
Short cycle,
Long cycle,
Normal cycle but really heavy...
Hoping its all back on track now!

bugger OLTT but at least you can sit back and enjoy some nice cold white wine in the majorcan sun.

flohs my AFs (3) have also been quite light since mc, but so far there has been one day that makes me say it's a bit heavier than just spotting. Nevertheless each time I think "oooh maybe it's just an implantation bleed", but no.
I find it easy to fall into the implantation bleed trap because i had it with my DD and was totally fooled into thinking it was AF: hence had my dates all wrong when i finally found out at around 8 weeks. But now I think every period is an implantation bleed!

Hi all! Great new thread title btw.

Hope everyone had a fab weekend....think we all ended the week feeling the same: pissed off, sad, frustrated and in my case....slightly desperate too (full on crying on Saturday when I got home from having dinner with 2 pregnant friends!) poor DH, he didn't know what to say.

Anyway, have reached the end of OV finally, probably one last heave-ho tonight before I can get my precious uninterrupted sleep again and start the horrendous 2ww.

Ending on a positive though - got the results back from the colposcopy clinic this morning (I had a dodgy smear 2 years ago), and all is fine and normal - phew! I don't have to go for another year now which is one less thng to worry about in 'that' area. :)

Sundance great news about the test! And yay to the end of ovulation. It's always such a relief!! Ahh pregnant friends - its so tough. I had lunch with the friend I was supposed to be having a baby at the same time as on Saturday. I also bemuse my DH with crying and upset. He is such an optimist!

Al - yeh really don't think it is implantation bleeding. Think it's just my silly confused body. I'll give it till at least thursday if AF still hasn't showed before I POAS. But have got zero other symptoms.

Thanks all for your feedback on strange cycles post mc. I think I read so much that people got pregnant really quickly post mc and you were at your most fertile etc I think I just expected that it would be the same for us. So maybe I just have to learn to accept that it is just like before we got bfp and could take a while.

Hi all,

It's a new week! I'm only ONE week into the 2ww, it's like time has stopped, I just need to know, NOW!!!! Arrgghhh desperately symtom spotting and nothing (but never got any symtoms with previous PG so irrelevant..)

missmakes I wouldn't stop trying if I were you, but I have a naive 'everything will be ok' outlook to life so perhaps not the most sensible but I'm sure you'd cope and you'd be so happy if you got PG you wouldn't worry so much (I think...)

Good to see you back in the saddle saggy and good news sundance

Sorry I've missed loads of you but let's all hope this is a more positive week!

On another note, we are currently trying to buy a house due for completion end July/beginning of August but am REALLY trying not to get stressed by it as don't want it to stop me getting upduffed!!!

i found a symptom!!!
increased CM just before AF is due can be a sign of pregnancy (apparently). I've got that! woo!
still think AF will come tomorrow so i don't know why i'm excited.

flohs I read so many good news stories like that too, and have seen a lot of them on here. But i find it a bit heartening that there are also a few of us who haven't been so lucky - at least we aren't alone

sundance that great news about the smear

Aly both times I've been pregnant I've had tons of creamy CM (far more than normal) a day or 2 prior to expecting AF. Other than that its been terrible wind, and spots on my forehead so these are the 3 things I'm looking out for - only 6 DPO though so far too early

Guff when are you testing? I'm torn between early test this Fri or waiting to see if AF arrives a week tomorrow and possibly testing the following Friday. Good luck with the house move - have read that it's not the stress itself that can stop you getting pregnant, it's the symptoms of stress eg eating junk, not as much sex drive, so try to stay healthy and shagging!

Brilliant news on the test results Sundance

CM is v good Aly!

ooh thanks guys. i thought it was a crazy symptom but maybe not...

Wind you say rock? Hmmm perhaps I do have a symtom

Will be too early to test this Fri, don't want to risk a false negative, would mess with my head too much. Will try and hang on until after I'm due next Tues (if I don't actually go crazy before then...)

I agree aly CM is a good sign, got a good feeling about a rush of BFPs soon...

Kat, I haven't. We've been trying for a year and would definitely do it in a year or so if we haven't for anywhere. So very much understand your decision.

Ps excellent positive thinking!!

Well folk. I have had a day of brown spotting off and on with cramps so pretty sure AF is arriving in next couple of days and after all my efforts with symptom spotting

alyant that's a good sign. Fingers crossed for you

Good luck to everyone else testing soon

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To top it off my DP asked me why we are having all these problems when I had my DD so easily ( how quickly he forgets she was a threatened mc for 14 weeks).

Sorry being a bit self obsessed just feeling so down. Think it's getting on top of me but maybe period hormones.

kata. I haven't tired assisted myself but a friend at 38 tried for 6 months and then went straight to ivf as she felt time was not on her side. She now has lovely twin girls. Think it a personal choice. I hear a lot of people get pregnant after they have decided to go down that route so keep bonking.

missmakes. I really hope your DH get a new job soon and understand why u maybe want to wait and why you don't want to. Sometimes there is no right time and you just have to pick a time. Good luck.