We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Wow, that was nice of her! But well done you for pushing it too.

A friend of mine has just given up on ttc after 3 years of trying, and 2 failed attempts at IVF - I felt so sad for her as she's only 37. She has no children yet (neither do I) but was quite adamant that I should push for help conceiving ASAP as the ticking clock just whizzes by.

I'm going to give it one more month of this and then try my luck getting a gp to refer me! Thanks icklemiss!

sundance I got a referral through my gp. If you are going to be an NHS patient then you obviously need to do the same, but even if you are private it makes sense to have as many tests done through your gp as possible, because the clinic will ask for them and, done privately, it can all get quite expensive before you've even started on treatment.

I had day 3 and day 21 blood tests done to test fsh and lh levels checked, bloods to check prolactin, haemoglobin, rubella status, thyroid function, and swabs done too. dh had a semen analysis and will probably need a 2nd, and he had a blood test, although this wasn't a requirement of our clinic.

I found it helpful to keep a copy of any tests I had done.

Also, it can take months to get a referral - it took me 9 months and then I had to wait just over 2 months after that before I could get an initial appointment. So my advice would be to get in there asap and start the ball rolling.

If it wasn't for my horrendous weekend I think I would have plodded on crossing my fingers. Saturday was a wake up call. I'm now not just spotting at OV but bleeding heavily so there's no chance of us conceiving ify body is going to do that each month. Just for to wait to have the pesky cyst removed! So sad for your friend. Must have been heartbreaking to come to that conclusion :(

Ladies, I'm cracking and symptom spotting. I'm trying very hard not to as it just raises my hopes, but I'm STARVING! All the time, I'm getting so hungry I feel sick. I also feel generally dodgy, and my lower back hurts. I'm probably just getting ill, but it's lucky our office is in the middle of nowhere or I'd have been out foraging the nearest supermarket. Am I being stupid? Is being ravenous a pg sign, or just an 'it's cold today' sign?!

Seaside there was one week in January where I couldn't get enough food, two weeks later I had my BFP (unfortunately that little bean decided not to stick around). However I didn't have any symptoms at all with my DD.

Sorry, that probably hasn't helped!

seaside i was constantly starving when pg with what turned out to be my mmc. Even before I got the bfp.

welcome trinpy and iowra. Sorry you're here. I sympathise with the close due dates. I've got two friends with exactly the same EDD that I had. it's rapidly approaching in august . i really hope that i have some good news by then to see me through that time.

thanks for the advice re temps and cheapie sticks guys. i tried the cb digi advance last month and it gave me some funny results too, so maybe ov sticks in general just aren't for me. low levels of LH or something?
But i'm loving the temping. didn't think i would but i find seeing my temp every morning somehow satisfying. And seeing the temp jump was really striking. Somehow it seems much more real compared to sticking a strip in a cup of wee.
if i did ov on sunday we completely missed the 3 day in a row shagathon that SMEP called for... bugger. but we've been managing every 2nd night since the middle of last week so hopefully that'll be enough.
Come on sperm! come on egg! make a baby! oooh how i hope that there's a little 4 cell embryo cruising along a tube right now

Poas today, stupid BFN.

Then saw old friend who haven't seen all year who happily announced that she's 5 months pregnant and her due date is around what mine should've been. It was apparently a total accident. I don't normally get like this but mumbled congratulations...now I'm so upset and angry :-(

So sorry to hear that tomkat. God knows why the timing of this stuff always has to be so cruel . Completely understandable that you feel upset/angry. Though I know that doesn't make it any easier.

Thanks trinpy. I'm not usually bitter and twisted! Just really held out a lot of hope for this month. We've all been through so much on this thread, just all a bit much sometimes isn't it xxx

I'm so constantly mad and bitter at the moment that I drop about 20 'C-Bombs' a day.....

hugs tomkat. it's hard all the time sometimes isn't it?

Tomkat sorry re BFN. Were you POAS early? I can't remember your timing. Sounds like a bad day. Other pregnancies are tough.

I was very "Pollyanna" after first MC, now I just feel bitter etc. when I want to, and to be honest I feel better for it.

Aly I used First Response and then Boots own brand OPKs, only ever got faint lines but got pregnant. Most recent pregnancy used Clear Blue digital that detects 2 days. On smiley face day I tested leftover sticks from the other 2 - yep 3 sticks at once! Both other 2 again only showed faint lines.
Hopefully every other night has done it. Fingers crossed you get your BFP this summer.

I'm due AF today...mind you that's based on 28 day cycle that I used to have...wtf knows these days! Maybe ill hold out and if AF doesn't arrive then ill try again Friday.

Am very lucky DH understands so tonight we're gonna sit here with our pimms lol and c bomb together :-)

Have got a new kitty to take mind off things....he's a sphynx so no fur.

not a newborn replacement or anything like that

oh a kitten. how lovely

ooh a new kitten. I'm jealous...

Speaking of opks, has anyone used the clearblue ones? Old fashioned line ones not the digis. Never used before but they were the only kind the supermarket had. The test line was slowly getting darker and I thought they were the same colour yesterday afternoon, tested again in the evening and the test line had got a lot lighter again. Does this sound like I might have ovulated? Am I crazy to think I could have ovulated 2 weeks after a mc? Definitely going back to digis next month. lines are so confusing!

Tomkat. It is Tuesday....

I know I know I'll try again Friday just so I'm no rule breaker and to make absolutely sure. Consider myself fish slapped.

trinpy sounds like you ovulated to me.
I think that I ov'd pretty much exactly 2 weeks after my erpc.

My very faint line on the cheapie ov sticks has now disappeared and my temp is sky high. Fertility friend app says that I ovulated on sunday for sure.
I love temping! I'm a complete convert. never touching an ov stick again.

I loved temping too Aly - only did it for one month, but going to try again next month. It was fun watching the temp peak, I agree - and my ov sticks have been hit or miss.

Am cutting out the symptom spotting again and just looking forward to a glass of wine this weekend once if AF arrives on Thu/Fri. Am going to in-laws who always have excellent wine in !

Hello! How is everyone....? Mid cycle at the mo. been trying to have a month of being more relaxed about it. So no opk's, we've just been dtd every two days for two weeks on recommendation of the doctor. Makes me feel nervous because surely we could so easily miss ovulation but I am much more relaxed about it and so is DH.

Aly I think we must be at exactly the same stage in cycle. Hope everyone is doing ok.

I get such a bizarre satisfaction from plotting my temps, Aly. Must be my inner nerd. I love to see the chart develop and then pore over it endlessly during the 2ww

flohs, if you've DTD every two days, you won't miss ovulation at all. If you ovulated on a non-sex day, then the swimmers will already be ready and waiting from the day before, IYSWIM.

Hello ladies
I've only been gone a few wks but hoping you'll have me back. Just had a second mc at 7 wks. Nowhere near as bad as my 12 wk mmc in April thank goodness but still rubbish & sad. Less of a shock too as I guess after a mc you always fear another.

Debating whether to have a break or cracking on with ttc. Think will have a brief rest until 1st AF & then give it another shot. Hoping for third time lucky.

Is anyone else here trying again after 2 mcs?