We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Thanks everyone. Katatonic not great, but thanks, hospital nurse has just called and said I have to have medical management rather than EPRC due to high blood pressure, so still going in tomorrow but very scared now as I've heard horror stories of medical management and the agonising pain. Am studiously trying to get drunk tonight, which is probably very irresponsible of me.

Stars and Ickle, am so sorry to hear of the shitty times you are both having. Am trying to send you both good vibes and virtual hugs xxx

Over pleased to hear your HFCs levels are coming down. Try not to worry about going back to work. Some people won't know what to say to you (so might say nothing!) and others will probably say something stupid, but well-meaning, but going back to work will probably do you some good. I am a Secondary School Teacher and going back made me feel a lot more 'normal' afterwards and gave me something else to focus on. As for your pains, I do remember having the odd twinge for a few weeks after the op, but nothing major. As you just said (I think - I can't scroll back to check!) it will just be your body recovering from being poked and prodded about so much, I'm sure. It's over six months since I had my laparoscopy and can honestly say that if it wasn't for the scars (and the bloody BFNs!) I wouldn't know I'd had a tube removed. I don't get twinges or anything at all now. I'm not one of those women who can feel ovulation pains, but apparently some women feel this more strongly after surgery. Hope this is helpful!

I am so bored of symptom spotting. I feel rotten, achey and sick but think I'm probably just ill. Am in bed already like an old lady!

Stars I had medical management. It was a bit painful for an hour or two - It was like the first stage of labour, but over much more quickly. The drugs they gave me were good and some studious back rubbing by dh saw me through. That was the build up. The actual miscarriage bit was painless and the cramps stopped pretty much immediately after that. I got a bit stuck on my cervix and had to endure lots of poking and prodding to figure out why the (copious ) bleeding wouldn't stop, but hopefully that won't happen to you. I've also had an erpc to compare to: the bit in hospital for a medical management is more painful but the recovery was much faster. I had no pain at all in the follow up, just a bit weak from blood loss.
So try not to worry. It will be ok.
So sorry that you have to go through it again

Stars, I had medical management of my MMC (11+4weeks) and it really wasn't so bad. I had read horror stories online and was dreading it.

I had the pessaries and antibiotics up the bum at around 9:10. I sat on the bed and felt my waters 'pop' at 10:20ish, moved to the commode and passed the baby/sac almost immediately. The placenta followed about 20 minutes later. The nurse checked everything to ensure that the miscarriage was complete.

I took paracetamol in between passing the baby and the placenta, but I only had very mild cramping. Period pains, really. Not the slightest bit like actual labour (that I had experienced).

I had lunch at the hospital and was home and tucked up in bed by 1:30.

Obviously everyone has very different experiences, but they are not all bad, and I sincerely hope that everything goes as well as can be expected for you tomorrow x

So sorry to see you back Stars. Ill be thinking about you tomorrow. Xx

Thinking of you today stars, hope it goes as well as it can & you have lots of people around you at home who can help.

Thank you badhair. I'm a teacher too! So looking forward to the hol. I will have had my first fertility appointment & hoping 6 weeks of stress-free will improve my chances of TTC!

stars I hope you are ok today. Will be thinking of you. I had an erpc but would have gone medical mgt of they had offered it! Big hugs x

Thinking of you stars x

I have a question for those of you experienced with temping.
I've been taking my temp every morning for a week now. For the first few days it was very stable. On sunday it dipped a bit, yesterday it was higher than it ever had been before and today it was even higher. Saturday and Sunday I had ewcm. All those signs point towards ovulation on sunday or monday, am I right??
The thing is i've also been using cheapie opks that came with the bbt and up until sunday I had no line at all (except for the control line). sunday and yesterday I had a very very faint line, same intensity both days. According to the packet that should still count as negative, but my body is telling me that i've already ovulated. Perhaps the sticks missed my LH surge?
What do you think? Trust my body and ignore the sticks?? What are your experiences??

stars i hope everything goes as smoothly as possible today

stars sorry you're going through this. Thinking of you today.

ickle glad you had someone helpful at hospital. Has the bleeding eased? You must be feeling very drained.

Seems trivial, but my hair has been falling out over the last couple of days. Literally by the handful after shower, quite shocking. Hoping its MC related and will stop. Seemed less today.

Alyant I've never temped but is say trust your body. Before the MC f-ed up my cycles I knew I OV as I spotted a little - now I have full on heavy bleeding around OV. Not very inviting for DH & I doubt any of his swimmers could past that torrent anyway :(

Rainbow the bleeding is easing, funnily enough coinciding with the invisible OPK line which clarifies my thought that my hormones are crazy & are Malone my have a "period" midcycle. Hoping the fertility clinic can sort me out, be reading about clomid? Anyone had experienced of it? I know it's prescribed for people with PCOS (I have the ovaries not the syndrome) so hoping it'll be prescribed for me.

How are you doing stars?

That should reading "causing me to have a period mid cycle" - how did my iPhone get that?!

Alyant - I find that with the cheap OPKs, the second line never gets as strong as the first one, in all the years I have been using them. So as soon as the second line appears, it's a positive. Sounds to me as if you ovulated on Sunday (the day before the temp starts going up).

Can I join please?

Mc at 5.5 weeks 14 days ago.

Fertility issues of some kind on both sides but Im the real problem. Cycles never went back to normal after coming off bc 15mnths ago, so getting pregnant at all was a miracle. Hoping for another one now .

I have an appointment with the fertility clinic at the end of next month to discuss options (would have been last month but cancelled it when I found out I was pregnant, then mc the next day ). In the mean time I'm desperate to conceive naturally again if I can!

Added to all this, my brother and sil are expecting their first baby a few weeks before mine would have been due. Posted about this on mc forum if anyone saw it.

Sorry for the long first post!

Hi Trinpy, I'm in a similar situation to you. I should be 31 weeks pg now but miscarried at 11 weeks. Two days later I find out my friend is expecting twins 10 days after my EDD. Since the MC 7 other friends have announced their pgs. I've got an appointment at a fertility clinic in a couple of weeks, hoping for a positive result.

Hi, can I join too? Just getting over a mc at 5.5 weeks also. I have 1 dd already and have been trying to conceive number 2 for 9 months. Nothing until this cycle. We're going to start trying again straight away I think with opks this month.

Sorry to see so many new faces here, lowra, Trinpy - stars, I hope today passes quickly and as well as possible for you, so sad for you.

Over - sorry for the slow response, couldn't check thread yesterday. I had some odd pains since surgery, and I think I can feel myself ovulating on that side now. I haven't had anything really painful though, except during acupuncture. It is strange, when she put needles in that side I get shooting and dragging pains around where my tube was. Am assured it's normal - gets much worse just before my period. Have one this evening and AF due Friday, so not looking forward to it! If they're really sore and keep happening, I'd go to your doc, but it's probably your body complaining about and getting used to having bits taken out of it.

I've found my cheapie OP sticks don't give me dark lines either - I'm glad you found the same JBrd, I was starting to worry I wasn't ovulating.

Welcome newbies, sorry you find yourselves here, hopefully your stay will be short though.

stars - hope everything went as well as can be expected today.

trinpy & icklemis - do you mind me asking about the fertility clinic appointments? Did your gp refer you or have you approached them yourselves? Think I need to go get looked at!

Af is definitely in the building! Was hoping if might be just spotting but no, full on attack from the old witch so I'm back to square one again!

Trying to find the positive...which in this case is that I can drink on holiday as we said we'd take a month off trying if not successful this time round. We fly on Saturday so af will have gone thankfully, the pains are getting worse every month, quite debilitating really.

Hope you are okay stars, I've been thinking of you today.

alyant, I'd be tempted to trust your temperatures over cheapie OPKs. It sounds like you had a pre-ovulation dip on Sunday then ovulated later that day. I used cheapie sticks when TTC DD2, but soon switched to the CBFM once I realized the cheapies were a bit hit and miss.

sundance re. your pains. Would you consider using a Mooncup? or are you completely repulsed by the suggestion

I realise some might find them a bit too urgh, but I used to suffer cramps quite a bit and they completely disappeared after I gave tampons the heave-ho.

ddmf - I have heard of them, though I hadn't associated them with pain relief. I don't think anyone on this board has a weak stomach when it comes to stuff like that either, we've seen much worse.

My problem is that I'm lazy, anything that requires cleaning usually goes in the dishwasher and I don't think a mooncup would be welcome amongst the cups and plates! Haha.

I'd been on a progesterone only contraception pill before trying, and it was like a miracle cure for me, the pains completely went and I hardly noticed my periods. Obviously when I came off I was back to being in agony, and they are worse since the mc. Another reason I can't wait to get pregnant!!

sundance, I went to my GP and basically ranted at her for 5 minutes. I'd just been discharged from hospital as I was heavily bleeding & was so fed up of being told I am ovulating although I have irregular periods, I just let her have all my frustration! I said it took 13 months to conceive my pg I lost to MC & since then my periods have been abnormal from a mixture of MC & PCO. I said I couldn't wait another 13 months as I'm nearing 35 and I want another child. She made me an appointment there & then & set me up to have a blood test too. I was surprised especially as she isn't my regular GP - he's in annual leave. Don't know if it helped that she's the only female at my practice, she's my age & has a DS same age as my DD. Maybe she related? I'd definitely push for a referral. I think we're too anxious not to make a fuss & we should!