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We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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GuffSmuggler · 14/06/2013 15:51

A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

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nearlyreadytopop · 21/06/2013 11:58

just checking in to see if there are any bfp todayGrin

sal you really do have patience of a saint!
I requested a different hospital for my antenatal care this time. Very glad I did as I had a phone call yesterday from the epu offering an early scan next week. still very scared and a little in denial so hopefully it will make me feel better.
hope you all have a lovely weekend x

OveranxiousUnderated · 21/06/2013 12:03

Hi Ladies

I'm going to be joining you again I'm afraid Sad Won't be ready to ttc for a while yet, but would like to lurk and could do with some support.

Quick reminder - I got a BFP following a period and have always been negative about this pregnancy although Dr assured me that it appeared to be a viable pregnancy, bloods normal etc.

Well I was 8 weeks on Monday (previously mc at 6 weeks) but Monday evening I had horrendous bladder pain, dizzy, loss of hearing/sight...ended up at out of hours, prescribed anti b's for a 'water infection'. Tuesday I was still in pain, unconvinced...I went to my GP and insisted on a scan. 2.45pm Tues I was scanned...I only came home from hospital last night.

Scan showed no pregnancy in uterine...I knew I was 8 weeks so I knew bad news was coming. It was ectopic, partially ruptured and fluid in my pelvis. I was put on the emergency list and rushed into theatre the same night. I had ruptured beyond repair so had to have my right tube removed along with the 'baby'.

I am beyond heartbroken but also so grateful that it wasn't worse, my hcg levels were over 31000 and only a matter of time before my tube ruptured completely.

I am off work for 3 weeks, currently in bed resting and feeling sorry for myself.

I am now convinced that my 6 week mc was also an ectopic in my right tube, as again nothing showed up 'in uterine' on the scan and ectopic was never confirmed or dismissed as I mc naturally. So I must have had a bad tube, if so then I am glad in a way that it has gone - just hope my left one is in good working order.

Sorry for putting a downer on poas-Friday but wanted to share my experience. Should have pushed for an early scan sooner. Always follow your instincts though, mine have been right through out.

Do any of you ladies have any ectopic experiences?

Sorry for essay. Hope everyone is doing okay.

x

Thundercatsarego · 21/06/2013 12:28

Oh no over you poor poor thing. What an awful shitty ordeal. I'm not surprised you're feeling a bit delicate. I hope you're having lots of rest and making yourself as comfortable. Big Thanks for you.

fedup it doesn't really reassure me unfortunately as my hypothyroidism was probably triggered by the pg (I didn't have it before) and probably caused the mmc. Therefore I am in a worse position than when we started to ttc over a year ago. Having said that hypothyroidism should be no reason to prevent it happening in the future now it's managed, I've just lost a bit of hope if you know what I mean?

Come on sal! Do it!

fedupofrainydays · 21/06/2013 12:58

over that sounds horrific - I'm so sorry to hear that. Big hugs for you and glad you are some how seeing the positive - I.e getting rid of the poss dodgy tube. I know someone that happened too - had one child, then a mc, then an ectopic and her bad tube removed, then another healthy pregnancy and a lovely little boy!

Sorry thunder I didn't know. But like you say, now it's managed it shouldn't prevent a future pregnancy. But totally understand the lack of hope. I struggle with it too.

I decided to dance to the radio at lunch time and looked like a right idiot but felt a lot better afterwards!! I was throwing some pretty half decent shapes around my kitchen. DC was staring at me open mouthed....

Sal1977 · 21/06/2013 13:01

That's shit over!! Take time to heal and make sure you're looked after!!

I will not POAS today you lot! DH says I should go old skool and wait til I've missed 3 AF......f*ck that. I'll wait a week.

Squigglypig · 21/06/2013 13:16

Oh over, that sounds terrible for you. But as you say, if it was a "bad tube" at least its gone now. You are so right about your instincts. With my first pregnancy I was really excited and got a strong feeling that it would be a little girl from the off, with my second pregnancy I never had that and so the mmc although it was awful and shocking, was also in a very very tiny way a relief as it never felt quite right or real to me.

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GuffSmuggler · 21/06/2013 13:56

I'm so so sorry over what a horrendous traumatic experience from you Sad

I remember your stupid crap Dr saying you didn't need an early scan, well I suggest you change Dr and tell THEM what you need next time. And there will be a next time, there is a reason God gaves us 2 of nearly everything, so that there's a spare if something goes wrong with one of them.

Sorry about finding the stick thunder (also amazed they don't fester and implode after a while..) Hope you have a nice weekend lined up to try and cheer you up. On the theme of 'finding things' I was cleaning out my handbag the other day and found my NHS maternity exemption card Sad It does suddenly knock you when something appears to remind you.

We really need some BFPs round here, there must be someone that can POAS!?

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GuffSmuggler · 21/06/2013 13:57

for you

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alyant79 · 21/06/2013 14:23

oh over how awful for you. I'm glad you're OK (although understandably devastated), but I'm glad that you can see a bit of a silver lining. Plenty of people have children with only one tube and I'm sure that will be you soon too.
I second guff's sentiments about your GP. Get a new one immediately. What a useless piece of shit.

fedup I'm loving the story of you dancing around the kitchen at lunch.

dildoos · 21/06/2013 14:35

Over - so sorry to hear your news, I hope you make a speedy recovery physically and mentally . I think you deserve lots of wine, chocolates and flowers!
Here's hoping for some positive news for all xxx

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Sundance2007 · 21/06/2013 15:45

Over - you poor thing, sounds utterly horrendous, I'm so sorry. Big hugs and sending lots of 'get well soon' vibes.

So, no takers on the POAS friday this week? Sal looks like you're in for a nerve wracking wait, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Though it's a little bit exciting too isn't it!

The 2 ww is already doing my head in and it's only been 3 days, I'm going to have to distract myself with something, though brie and gin does sound amazing.

Emki · 21/06/2013 15:54

over I was so shocked to read your post, I'm so sorry this has happened to you, and well done for being positive and here's to a speedy but gentle recovery. get yourself a box set / down the garden centre / baking.. what ever floats your boat and ensure you get lots of TLC lots of bunches of Flowers to you xxx

I am on 7DPO, keep symptom spotting - grrr!! now have a mild lower back ache I always have this from lifting 3 year old and standing all day but convinced this must mean this is my month!!!

Re - earlier thread about acupuncture - I'm also in London and I've been to a lady in Nottinghill, I hightly recommend her, she is pricey so I haven't been going, but will next month - If anyone wants her details let me know. I also went to her after the ERPC and she was great, settled my hormones and was just good to have some TLC really.

Can't believe there's no POASers today ... guff how you holding out?

Have a feeling there will be lots of us next Friday ....

Also if sal does get a BFP there will be a sudden demand for syringes on amazon!!!!

Anyone got anything nice planned for the weekend?

dildoos · 21/06/2013 16:42

I poas Hmm got a BFN! Due Sunday so 2 days early? I never know how to count the days before !
Really hoped that my symptoms may have been an indicator, a niggling period type dull ache for past fees days and tender breasts , however no 'twas my mind playing tricks!

happy Friday ladies I am going to enjoy mine Grin xxx

Sal1977 · 21/06/2013 16:46

Ha! If I get a BFP, not only will I be gobsmacked, but before I announce it, I'll be buying in a job lot of syringes to flog to you lovely lot!! Hehe

Also, I'll be offering free snogs to pass on the bug that I've had in case that helps lets face it we're all a bit up for trying anything!!

alyant79 · 21/06/2013 17:06

oh bugger dildoos

visiting a friend who i haven't seen for almost a year tomorrow, hooray! That's my nice thing for the week.

dildoos · 21/06/2013 17:11

Aly- they are the best types of weekend fun ! Enjoy x

Tomkat79 · 21/06/2013 17:37

Sending you lots of love over. I always tell people never trust the medics and this just confirms it! I work with loads of people who have UTI's and I've never come across any of them to have all those symptoms!

Lol sal can you imagine waiting for 3 missed periods! Torture.

CD 14 here, have been bonking like mad all week and guess same again tonight. Must find some energy to spice it up! Does leaving the light on count?! ;)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 21/06/2013 19:33

Over I'm so so sorry my lovely. I wish I could give you a real {{{hug}}}. Hopefully you will recover quickly physically.
My MC was ectopic on an ovary. Thankfully I had a lucky escape and MC, so kept my tube. In hindsight, the PG just didn't feel right from the start, I was incredibly stressed and worried from the beginning.

MrsExcited · 21/06/2013 19:52

Over that sounds really tough, sending lots of hugs.

I haven't been around much lately had started to lose posifrickintivity and gradually stopped reading.

I am tomorrow 13 weeks post ERPC and still have no sign of AF - Grrrr

We have bonked like mad, overdone it, bonked like mad again, had a bugger of a tooth infection and then bonked gently last week, at the same time as having a blood test where i was told that it was clear i was ovulating but she would refer me to gyne to see.

So that was last Thursday (13th) and for the last few days i am feeling something and my DH is believing it, been caught by 3 different people looking "pale" so hopefully POAS'd this morning for a BFN but something inside say don't give up hope but as AF hasn't arrived so far i have no idea when to test!

So Sal i shall join you in your wait, it would be ironic as we were only a few days apart at MC - Good luck

PS - Sal i hope your big day went off with fireworks!! sorry i wasn't around at the time!

OveranxiousUnderated · 21/06/2013 19:53

Thank you everybody for your kind words Thanks

I am currently demolishing a large bar of dairy milk. I feel 'okay' emotionally but waiting for the tears to kick in over the next few days.

All I want to do is try again and get pregnant. Wish I could fast forward a few weeks. But I know I need to rest and recover properly.
x

fedupofrainydays · 21/06/2013 20:42

I think you are pretty amazing over. Think i would be a big mess if that happened to me. You're very strong. Def indulge in that chocolate and whatever else you fancy.
It's Friday and I'm on the wine.

dildo (sorry that is your name now!) I am sorry about the bfn but yes it is two days early and it's not over til af arrives (and if you are me and unfortunately af does arrive, you may still POAS for a laugh after AF in case you were one of those in a million who have a period when preggers)

Hang in there mrs excited like you say, you have no idea when af is due. After my erpc I had no idea what was going on it was pretty horrid.

Sal you would be my heroine if you waited even til next Friday, never mind 3 months!!!!!!

Have a good weekend all - this is our one for DTD action. Stocking up on the preseed and the wine. Odd combo but feel I need it!!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 21/06/2013 21:04

dildo (sorry that is your name now!) I am sorry about the bfn but yes it is two days early and it's not over til af arrives (and if you are me and unfortunately af does arrive, you may still POAS for a laugh after AF in case you were one of those in a million who have a period when preggers)
Disgraceful! I wouldn't dream of doing anything like that! every month
Grin

Emki · 21/06/2013 21:21
Emki · 21/06/2013 21:39

Ditto I also think you over are amazingly strong - {{{hugs}}} and hope that diary milk is good xxx

dildo fingers crossed for you xx

I'm in the wine too - I've actually let all healthily eating go out the window this last few days ... However shall do exercise tomorrow and from now on!!! I will!! I find it hard when ttc to diet and fear it will effect the process ... However eating chocolate etc probably doesn't help either!!

excited I feel for you it took over 10 weeks for AF to arrive for me after erpc!! It was so frustrating! Xxx