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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Absent AF, screwed up ovulation, luteal phase defects? Sign in for the all new ttc while breastfeeding thread! BFPs guaranteed!

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MrsHuxtable · 20/02/2013 23:28

As if ttc wasn't nerve wrecking enough, we like the extra challenge of getting that BFP while still breastfeeding a baby or toddler. While this isn't an easy endouvour, it certainly isn't impossible as many graduates on the previous threads prove.

I'm posting a link here for any newcomers about fertility while breastfeeding.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

Am also wonderig if you'd like to have some sort of stats for the tread members. I'll just start myself.

MrsHuxtable, 29, ttc#2 from April, on pp cycle 4, luteal phase defect

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LithaR · 20/07/2013 23:36

I'm doing ok, foolishly tried an internet cheapy tonight but all I got was an evap line. Will teach me to not be impatient!

Still having symptoms so remaining hopeful. Good luck with the wait Wild! Hoping we all get some BFP's soon!

EastBeast · 21/07/2013 08:52

Hi ladies, can I join? Sounds like you've had some happy grads from this thread & I fancy some baby dust!

I'm bfing DD who is 10m & have been TTC since my periods returned 5m ago. Keen to have a short gap! I didn't really expect anything straight away but have crazy irregular cycles & feeling a bit disheartened. DD was conceived very quickly so had hoped #2 would be too.

I'm charting like mad & my cycles have been from 20-31 days long. LP has been v short, like 5 days, so started taking vit B6 & the next month was the monster 31 day cycle so hopefully that's worked. But this month I had AF for 11 days plus 7 days of spotting so far - honestly! I'm also using OPKs & they seem to totally disagree with my body signs, I've had positive test sticks for the last 4 days but only creamy CM. Very confused! Worst of all DH has started to feel the pressure so hard to get the BD done anyway... On the positive side my DD has just started to sleep through from her dream feed until 5.30am so hopefully that helps with the hormones. Fingers crossed for all of us! Would love any thoughts from others, even a cheery hello!

Wildwaterfalls · 21/07/2013 09:46

Welcome EastBeast! Our DDs are about the same age, and I would also like a short gap! Lucky you with the sleeping through - I'm sure that will really help. Perhaps that and the B6 combined will help with the cycle irregularity.

Litha sorry about the BFN. It's soo tempting to test early isn't it. Hopefully next one will be a BFP Grin.

Anyone else stressing about their LOs kicking / standing on their stomachs during 2ww? I'm sure I'm being paranoid as usual as I guess I'm not the first person in the world to (hopefully) combine a pregnancy and a toddler!!

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CakesAreNotTheAnswer · 21/07/2013 13:49

see my poor dh was hoping for lots and lots of ttc sex last time but only got a month. This time he's just pathetically grateful for any sex whatsoever I think!

eggsnbeans · 22/07/2013 04:51

Hi and welcome to the newbies! Smile It's always good to have more BFPs to cheer on for! My DD is a similar age to yours East! Are your cycles still irregular? Mine are still pretty crazy!

Hmm at 7 patches of EWCM since May Gerkins! Hopefully this will be 'the one' as you've spaced out feeding so much more now! So frustrating though just waiting when your body is giving you plenty of signs! And spotty is promising too! I got that just before AF came back, 1st spots I'd had since pre-preg!

How many dpo are you Wild? I don't worry too much about DD kicking my tummy yet as everything's nicely hidden in the pelvis for 8w or so, but I would after that!

BF is still a bit difficult for us, thankfully DD has stopped the crazy nipple thing, but still really struggling to get her to feed. She has a real strong preference for my left side (better boob, better flow) and when I offer the right side just pulls off and sucks her thumb. Hmm I've started doing the bedtime feed straight after dinner, in case she's too tired then (she totally goes into shut down mode when we put her jamies on Smile ) and that did help yesterday. I'm seeing my HV tomorrow, so will ask her too. I'm hoping it's just hormonal Confused

Well I seem to be gearing up to ov even earlier this month Grin so maybe it's down to the B6? Have EWCM and cramping today so FX will ov soon. Poor DH has been working really long hours last week and would otherwise collapse in bed, but we managed to DTD yesterday, and hopefully tomorrow too. Blush Have been eating grapefruits too to increase EWCM as I had hardly any last month. Seems to be helping!

ByHecuba · 22/07/2013 13:50

Hello everyone, I'm new to the thread but I've been lurking for a while. Mind if I join you?
Have a 14mo DD who still feeds a few times a day and a couple of times at night. Had three cycles since AF came back but last one was 38 days and I'm only half sure now that I Ov-ed.
Am hoping to regulate my cycles enough through generally trying to be as healthy as possible and hopefully have a BFP by the end of the year.
Blue, your description of your son's bedtime meanderings could have been written by me!
ThanksSmile

mamapants · 24/07/2013 19:54

Hi everyone. Can I join you? Or rejoin you. I joined a while ago then me and DP got cold feet and decided to wait a bit
longer before ttc no.2. In the meantime I think its all new faces. Fx for you all.
We have one DS who is now 1 year old. AF returned when he was 5mths old and I seem to have a massive 39 day cycle.
We haven't been using contraception for last 5 or so months -but not having that much action either- and nothing so far.
DS was conceived first month of trying so think we need to be a bit more organised this time. So am armed with some cheapie OPK and am testing but not expecting a positive anytime soon at cd.16. Getting impatient though.
Think I've got the hang of the abbreviations as have been reading the 15pages on the thread over the last couple of days. Am trying to remember you all but seems there are a lot of us!

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junebaby2011 · 24/07/2013 20:37

Think AF may have returned just now after 25 months and 15 days.. Some blood tinged mucas..Even though DD has been feeding more than ever, including hourly overnight.. Am still in shock!!

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junebaby2011 · 24/07/2013 20:59

Got BFP for DD in September 2010- so nearly three years since AF!!

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mamapants · 24/07/2013 21:15

Thanks for the welcome. Gherkin
Wow 3 years without AF, crazy.
I feel a bit hard done by I only got 5months post birth although I guess that's better than waiting for it to turn up if it means delays conceiving.
Hopefully having taken longer to come back everything will be in full working order and you will get a BFP right away june

Wildwaterfalls · 24/07/2013 21:21

Welcome Hecuba and mama, nice to have you on the thread!

So sorry re your DS and hearing loss Gherkins. Poor little thing. I understand that night weaning is not ideal right now, sounds like he will really benefit from the comfort. Hope you are getting enough sleep though.

Still planning to test tomorrow although somehow don't think it has happened. But the longer AF stays away the better for my LP I guess. It is a bit annoying to have long cycles though.

eggsnbeans · 25/07/2013 05:15

Welcome Hecuba and welcome back mamapants. Smile Great news on AF (potentially) starting June!

I think yesterday was ov day Smile so am now expecting AF next Thursdayish (based on previous LPs anyway). Any later than that is a bonus!

Did you test today Wild? how many dpo are you? All my FX for you! Is DD sleeping again? I think 10-12m is so full of developmental leaps it's not surprising they can't sleep Hmm

So sorry to hear about your son Gherkins. Is his hearing loss due to the fluid build up or something more than that? How long till he has the grommett surgery? A friend's daughter had it done about a year ago and has made a huge difference so hope it's the same for your DS.

HV had nothing useful to say about bf Sad Gherkins, she thought it could be because she is a bit ill? She has had a bit of a cough for a couple of days but nothing more. So yesterday she didn't feed after 10.30am Shock had a tiny bit (about 5 sucks) mid afternoon then gave up so I offered some bm I (expressed the night before to relieve my sore boobs) in a bottle and she drank that. She has always flatly refused bottles so must've been hungry! Then bed time was back to not feeding again. So I'm really hoping it's hormonal and will come right soon. I had been wondering if she's self weaning, but would be a bit early I think. Has made me realise I really don't want to stop bf yet anyway Smile .

Wildwaterfalls · 25/07/2013 08:31

Ooh eggs ov day yesterday - hope you managed lots of SWI in the lead-up!

Well, bfn here this morning which I had kind of prepared myself for. The strange thing is, over the last day or so I've had no symptoms whatsoever, not of pg but also not of AF coming. Very odd. It's making me (silly) hope that maybe it was too early to test due to my short LP. Anyone know if you can get a negative result 10dpo and still be pg? Clutching at straws I know...Hmm

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Wildwaterfalls · 25/07/2013 13:03

Thanks Gherkins that's an interesting link. I can't quite bring myself to give up hope yet. Will test tmw and Saturday but then we're off on holiday so will try to relax about the whole thing...

skylark101 · 25/07/2013 19:35

Hi there, I posted a month or so ago as i was over the moon to finally get a BFP while BF-ing my 23 month old. Just found out today (10.5 weeks) that I probably had a MMC a few weeks ago. I have to go back in a week for a scan to check but today no heartbeat and much smaller than shd be right for my dates. Trying to stay positive but inevitably I'm v sad. Im pretty sure that it would be nothing to do with BF-ing. But thought people on this thread might know more about that angle. My DD has been feeding a lot in recent weeks. I so wanted a little brother or sister for my DD when she is two or so and was longing for this baby. Even if i conceive again quickly (and Im 40) the gap will be longer. Help me stay positive! And sending everyone BFP vibes.

musicalmrs · 25/07/2013 21:04

Hi! I'd like to tentatively join you, if that's ok? I'm currently BF-ing my 14 month old, and would like to start TTCing in the next couple of months. No signs of AF yet, and I had a BFN a few weeks ago (didn't think I was pregnant but was mentalling over symptoms!), so need to kick my body into gear..

So sorry to hear about your MMC skylark. I hope you have lots of support and are feeling as well as you can.

Wildwaterfalls · 25/07/2013 22:22

Oh skylark I am so sorry. That is incredibly tough. Sending you hugs. Whatever you do please do not blame anything you did, including bf. I did quite a bit of reading on this a while ago and it seems there really is no link at all between bf and mc. Thinking of you and please stay on the thread if you feel up to it.

Welcome musical - and good luck!

eggsnbeans · 25/07/2013 22:46

So sorry to hear that skylark. Sad MC is so devastating, but was nothing to do with the BF (I did heaps of reading too!)

Sorry about BFN Wild. There's def a big chance of false negs before 14dpo, There's some statistics floating around MN somewhere but something like 30% don't get a bfp at 10dpo, and 10% don't get a bfp at 14dpo. So it's never over until AF arrives Smile

Wildwaterfalls · 26/07/2013 08:56

Well, AF arrived this morning so that's it for this month. Sad of course but taking comfort from the fact that my LP is now at least 11 days. And we are going on holiday tomorrow so at least can relax about eating / drinking / exercising.

Skylark how are you feeling today?

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