Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 3)

[Bunnygirlie]

Hey ladies, we're over here!

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF coming around New Year!
Twinklestar 2, TTC1, cycle 16, BFP was due 19/12
BraveLilBear,TTC
Lolcbcb,TTC
Aquarius,TTC
Happylass 34 cycle 4 BFP due Jan 1st
Navis176, 35, TTC #1, cycle 3 (this time around), bfp due around 19 Jan (I think?)
Neshie, 31, TTC #1, on cycle 9, after stopping the pill 18 months ago (took 10 months for AF to return!) BPF due 12th January Fx
MotherOfCleo TTC#1, cycle 3, 5dpo, BFP due New Years Day.
Viviennewestwould, 41, childless hag, TTC one year (mmc in March), on Clomid, ovulating today!
Pipbin 37 cycle 16 BFP due 26/12

Zombies, 32, almost 3 wks pg (by my calculation)- per standard
measurement from LMP, 6 weeks pg, PCOS.
MeanMrsMustard 31, 5 weeks pregnant.
Quod,33, PG
Purplemonster, PG
Janey 38, 12 week scan on Christmas Eve
HazleNutt, due June 21st
Rach, 34, 13+4 pg, due 26th June

Apologies if I've missed you or got something wrong

Sorry to hear that mother but like you said there's still hope. I too am due AF on 1st Jan. Away in Edinburgh at the moment so decided am going to POAS tomorrow if she doesn't show before then. That way if its bad news at least I can leave it behind in 2012 and start the New Year afresh and also have a bloody good drink to drown my sorrows on NYE

Rach but all the shopping you can do! Tons of maternity shops there as well. And maternity fitness wear, [rant] the choice on this side of the pond is just ridiculous - even shops that advertise themselves as specialised in maternity sports wear have 2 tops and 1 pair of capris, all hideous and/or unwearable in real life.

As for travelling with kids - my niece has been all over the world from when she was 2 months and my sister has never stayed in any child-friendly resorts, not to mention Centre Parcs. It's doable.

Hazel I think one of the reasons I am so knackered is the shopping! DH didn't get me a Christmas present so I could get myself something from him while we're here . And yes they do have good maternity shops. I have bought 2 pairs of trousers which I unfortunately now need while I am here due to constipation.

As for the holidays, I am a bit if a holiday junkie myself so I can't see my desire to go to good places coming to an end after baby, but I suppose we will just see how it goes. I have to admit I was looking at families with pushchairs in Times Square yesterday, fighting through the crowds in the freezing cold and thinking they must be mad!

Hi Viv, thanks for the tip off about the clomid thread. I shall go and have a look. My husband did get his test results printed (I told him to make sure he got them...such a shame I forgot to follow my own advice...) and his motility was 25% progressive, 10% non-progressive and 65% immotile. Morphology was 3%. It would seem both are a little low according to the reference ranges accompanying his results, but have decided not to worry until he gets his second SA done.

I also know how you feel about the 2ww (or 1ww in my case) and no longer feeling hope. I just spend it watching out for the inevitable spotting that kicks in around day 7. The only "good" thing for me is that I'm yet to suffer the agony of a BFN - AF always beats me to it!

Boodle, if you google infertility or conceiving and TSH levels, you find many similar stories - some experts even want to get TSH under 1 for women trying to conceive.

I'm not sure what to do this month ladies.
I have my pre op consultation on the 8th which is cd 14 and then my op on cd24. My usual ov date is anywhere from cd13 to 20. Should I just DTD for fun or not at all? Should I carry on with my CBFM or will I get skewed stats from the op?

What is the op pip? Is it general anaesthetic? If so I think I would wait as I think it can harm the baby. It would be Sod's law you would not know about it. But that's only my non medically trained opinion!

Hey ladies, quick question. I have had my letter for a smear test and they recommend going in mid cycle, obviously mid cycle is TTC time so when should I try and book in?

Pip is the Op you're having related to TTC? My friend was booked in for some investigation work after TTC unsuccessfully for about 2 years. When she got to the hospital they scanned her during the pre op, told her she was already pregnant and sent her home! I think she was only about 5DPO so way too early to show up on a home test. So if you are having an Op to investigate why you haven't conceived yet it sounds like they rule out pregnancy before doing anything which could be harmful to an embryo so I personally would continue TTC as normal.

Bunny I would book in for just after your fertile window so you can avoid DTD and its unpleasant after effects for a day or so before flashing your bits at someone. That should still be classed as mid cycle.

It's a lap and dye so they will be poking about up my bits and bobs.
I think I'll carry on as usual unless advised otherwise. There is nothing in the paperwork I've got to say don't get updiffed.

I'm sure they will check before poking about up your bits and bobs And if you were to be upduffed already then what a way to find out!

Yeah I actually agree! Go for it girl

So AF turned up this morning. Right after I'd just POAS. Double kick in the teeth

New Year's resolution = get a BFP!!

Oh so sorry happy. At least you can send the old evil 2012 away in style, with loads of champagne!

Oh I'm sorry happy.

Happy, I'm sorry about AF. That's not uncommon in my house

(I meant AF arriving immediately after POAS).

Happy I've had that before. Really peed off I'd wasted a stick as well as AF turning up. Then that evening met with friends who announced they were preg! Punch in the tits!

Just been catching up on the thread.

In reference to the FB conversation, I will probably go public after 12 week scan. It's been quite hard not to post anything about having to stay sober. and I had to delete a congrats message on my wall from my cousin
I've been the one who's read other peoples new baby updates and felt really fucked off it wasn't me but I would never expect them to keep their news off FB so not to upset me. However, the mummy-bores and the 'Ive had a baby so I know absolutely everything now and I should write a book' types, get right on my tits!

Providing all goes well this time and I end up with a healthy baby, I really hope I don't loose all my sensitivity to how I felt ttc and the MCs.

I used to work with a lady who bored the shit out of me about her son. Seriously, every bloody detail of what he said and did. Even the contents of his nappies! This was before I was even trying.... Anyway, she told me once that she'd had him quite late and didn't think she could have kids so I guess that explained it a bit.
And then there was another colleague, who knowing about my MCs was still unable to speak to me for more than a few seconds without mentioning her pregnancy. My first day back after the first MC she came over to my desk to welcome me back with her massive pregnant belly in my face and moved straight onto the subject of her baby..... FFS! Not sure if she was being thick or a bitch.

Anyway, rant over.
Still worrying its all going to go wrong, but I guess I'll just have to get used to that feeling
Scan Friday. Eeeeeeek

Commiserations happy

Hope all goes well on Friday bottle

Have coped with two birth announcements and two pregnant bellies in my face this Xmas and don't feel too bad about it- think the wine / gin and cheese diet helped. Here's to 2013 bringing us good times and answering our bfp prayers.

Rant away bottle sometimes you just have to!

I'd like to rant about reading today about 21 year old who gave birth Xmas day without knowing she was PG! And Kanye and fecking Kim I'm famous for no reason being pg FFS!!!

Oops forgot

Oh and my friend who is due with her fourth had her scan today to find out the sex, so guess what we'll be talking about this new years eve

So not only do I have to worry about giving the kid the same name as the Royals, I also need to worry about the Kardashian. Can only hope she'll be a proper celebrity and name the kid something "original"..

Hazle I imagine the Royal name will be something historical. This child will be 3rd in line to the throne and need a Kingly or Queenly name. But Kardashian FFS, I wouldn't worry about them it'll be something dreadful.