Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies, Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December.
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

Zombie, it's partly DTD and partly just luck. Don't get down about it. That is some solid effort you have put in.

Rachel I had a laugh too about you blowing chunks - hope it wasn't a hot curry, that would be painful as well as disgusting. Brave I haven't chucked yet either - only occasional mild nausea. The poor people with proper MS are in a minority on this thread I think (I did read somewhere that the likelyhood of MS decreases with age, so maybe it's an Elderberry advantage.)

Zombies - all you can think us that you tried your best. I've had months when I've dtd loads and its not led to anything so I know it's depressing.

twinkle and zombies - I know exactly how you feel - you do everything 'right' and then....nothing But as you say best to try not to think about it too much - we've done everything possible...
zombies - I'm going to POAS on 20th too - have an appointment with my fetal-geneticist-person that morning - so would be nice to say 'don't worry about it just yet, lets see how this one goes'. twinkle - when're you due to POAS?

Booo I'm out this month come on 2013 and get us all some babbies please....

So sorry aquarius

Boo to the witch aquarius

Twinkle, navis and zombies your time will come soon. And I think everyone's missing the amazing positive of getting that much sex! I would love to get that much sex, well, normally anyway. So it's not all a waste of time, even though it can be really disheartening.

Rache you certainly do voming in style! First the puppy story, now nasal curry!

You might get away without gardening on Friday - just thought I'd mention it cos I would be mortified if I was blissfully unaware and ended up having to flash my bits off (tho friend did say they gave her a sheet that went to her ankles so nowt on show).

I was thinking I'd have to put some work in beforehand anyway, cos surely they'd need to look on the pubic mound and I can't imagine hairy/stubbly bits being conducive to ultrasound I am a terribly hairy kinda gal

The worries never ever stop!

Oh Quod forgot to say - that's really interesting about younger mums being more prone to sickness. Had a high risk conversation with my mum yesterday around the subject of the unmentionable baby mama and I asked her if she got sick with me and my sisters.

She said she was sick all through with me and next sis - when she was 23 and 25, and was sick with my other sis when she was 31 but that stopped at 3 months. Maybe there's truth in that theory?

I had the dildocam last week with a male sonographer. Was mortified! This week I had a bikini line and look quite tidy.
I miss sex as well. But have no energy for it. Yesterday it was a month since our last shag. Boo.
I've not actually been sick either. Just feel queasy when I'm hungry which is all the time!

I have a theory about the energy levels - I was quite tired for about a week in early pregnancy, just going home and going to bed. Then raised the dosage of my thyroxine and have since been absolutely fine, so seems like having thyroid problems can actually be good in pregnancy.

The need for thyroxine raises quite sharply in first trimester, unfortunately our thyroids are a bit sluggish catching up with the demand. And not enough hormone will have the exact effect, with or without pregnancy - no energy. (As I don't have a thyroid, it's very easy to adjust the replacement hormone dosage in my case). Good news is that around 12 weeks, baby starts making its own thyroxine, so if it really is the thyroid, you should feel less tired soon.

Oh actually my mum said the same about ms - she was horribly sick with me when she was 25, but no problems with my sister when she was 31.

Hey all from sunny chiang mai!

Aquarius - I'm sorry

Pregnant elderberries: I think I said a while ago that when I had my mmc at 12 weeks one of my consultants told me (whilst digging a massive blood clot out of my cervix - nice) that us elderberries are much less likely to get ms than our younger counterparts. And that yes, we are marginally more likely to have a mc, but the lack of ms and mc are not related. So basically, according to him, enjoy the lack of ms and try not to worry about it!

On phone so can't remember who it was, but rache if it was you, I'm genuinely sorry but I nearly choked on my orange juice reading you. Poor, poor you but it does sound quite funny (and painful!) to the rest of us...

By 'reading you' I mean reading about your curry nose vom...

Some v interesting facts and figures for those in the 2ww.

Oh great I need a new bra again. I was wondering why this male colleague kept hovering aroudn my desk and wanting to discuss the matters in more detail. Well, just looked down. The cleavage explains it.

Lol at male colleague boob detection Hazle I too am borderline new bras...

Got a pair of 30DDs following your wonderful advice just before 5 weeks. Two and a bit weeks on, and the cups are leaving marks on the top and I'm almost getting overspill! Eek! Measured last week and bust size has gone up by an inch already

Thanks for commiserations lovely ladies

Sorry Aquarius. AF really sucks . I'm only on cd6 so come join me in the quest for a New Year BFP (and at least we can have a festive drink or two - every cloud and all that!!)

Sorry to hear about AF Aquarius

I'm glad my nasal puke incident has caused amusement. It makes me chuckle now but not so much at the time!

I've not even gained a single cup size on the boobage front

Sorry to hear witch arrived aquarius

Quick question ladies, how did or do you get past your other half feeling pressure into DTD when needed? DH last month found the stress so bad he wasn't up for it which of course got me all upset :-(

Bunny I didn't talk to him about it at all so he wasn't really aware of any pressure. He also I assume thought that I was really relaxed about it even though I actually found it a bit stressful. He obviously knew we were TTC but as for fertile days and general chit chat about it I just avoided it with him altogether and just talked to you lovely ladies instead.

Time for another show of hands?

Zombies, ttc 3 cycles, PCOS. Next POAS not before 20 December, if I can hold out that long I hope I don't crack before then

Hey all
Just checking in. Feeling really rubbish - just saw yet another 12 week scan pic up on FB, this one from my 'real life' TTC buddy who had a lot of health issues stopping her from conceiving. Obviously, I am thrilled for her, but seeing that ultrasound just reduced me to terrible self-pitying tears.

I'm out this month as I can't TTC until Humperdinck has been removed, and anyway DH is away til the 18th. Although in a way it's a relief to have a month off worrying about it, it's also another sodding month going by and no nearer to BFPs.

Sorry for the self-indulgent whinge, just really sick of it all and want to be happy for my PG friends without all this jealousy and misery and crap.

FX for all of you waiting to POAS though! I will be really happy to hear about any more TTC successes! There is hope, right?

Zombies, status update continues below:

Zombies, ttc 3 cycles, PCOS. Next POAS not before 20 December, if I can hold out that long I hope I don't crack before then
Captain, 32, TTC 16/17 cycles, on pause until dermoid cyst is removed.

Joining the roll call:
Zombies, ttc 3 cycles, PCOS. Next POAS not before 20 December, if I can hold out that long I hope I don't crack before then
Captain, 32, TTC 16/17 cycles, on pause until dermoid cyst is removed.
Aquarius, 31, ttc a while (going to ignore how many months) next POAS early jan

Captain I know how you feel- i have opted for avoidance strategy- eg decided to ignore FB for the time being and - ashamed to say - missed an office Xmas do recently partly due to the number of pg colleagues who I knew would be there (they work in different offices so I don't have to see them normally). Also had a ton of work on (or at least that's what I told myself). So shameful.

Sorry that youre out Aquarius. :-c

Thanks for all the sympathy - I took today off work too and feeling better now. Looking forward to going back to work tomorrow and seeing my class. Apparently they were asking if I was dead . They are 3 and a bit obsessed with things meeting violent ends so were probably a bit disapointed that I hadn't been attacked by a baddie.

Bunny, I have that problem - I've been trying to keep DH out of the science bit - but its hard. I was desperate to dtd on my peak egg day, and the subtle approach didn't work so I got quite upset and am feeling low about our chances of conception this month. I'm not exactly sure what the answer is but I def dont want want to be piling on the pressure (Or getting upset!)

MeanMrsMustard 31 - ttc 2 cycles - AF due 18th/19th Dec
Zombies, ttc 3 cycles, PCOS. Next POAS not before 20 December, if I can hold out that long I hope I don't crack before then
Captain, 32, TTC 16/17 cycles, on pause until dermoid cyst is removed.
Aquarius, 31, ttc a while (going to ignore how many months) next POAS early jan