Help. DD16 NOT A CLUE!

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Just that really. She is a brilliant, no brands, no needy child. Never given a list ever. Never asks for anything. She has a phone, Chromebook, everything she needs for dance hobby, diffuser, beautiful bedroom. Her birthday was a few weeks ago and totally clueless I ended up taking her away in a hotel for a spa. She loved it but I feel another experience is missing the mark a bit. Much younger brother so tree will be piled up for him. Oh and she has an Oodie (last year's thread save!). Any inspiration out there?

Does she like to read? Would a kindle work?

Art supplies?
Amazon echo?
Books?
Personalised bracelet? (Etsy)
New trendy school bag?
Food treat hamper?

Personally I love experiences over things

Maybe a book a long weekend away next spring/summer and give her a voucher to "redeem" it?

Book subscription from Hatchards
Magazine subscription
Tickets to show featuring her dance genre (I know you said no more experiences but…)
Makeup set

My 15 year olds list this year is
AirPods
Converse
Shein voucher
Salt lamp
Phone power bank

I know she’s not into brands- but a nice leather handbag would be a good gift? Kate Spade have some nice crossbody bags that would be good for that age. If she’s 16 I’ll imagine she’ll start going out with friends more soon- so it would be nice to have a bag to keep phone, keys, etc.

This is in the sale- I like the print. Keeps it quite young?

www.katespade.co.uk/en-gb/handbags/spade-link-camera-bag/WKR00066.html

Mini fridge.
Driving experience.
Pony.

Trainers
Bracelet (Pandora)
Earrings
Handbag
Gym wear for on way to dance etc
Straighteners
Hair dryer
Make up if she wears it
Candle
Bath bombs

My DD 16 is getting the following - some things have been asked for, some I just think she will like:

Custom Converse
Tickets to Wicked
A kindle
An oversized scarf (Tartan Blanket Co)
Ancestry DNA kit
Her helix pierced
Subscription to New Scientist
Smores kit
UGG slippers

Has she given any hints as to what she wants? Have you asked her?

AConvivialHost

I think you must be rich, that seems like such a lot. I couldn't afford to buy a third of that.
These threads make me feel rubbish, I must say.

Magazine subscription
Jumper
Socks
Starbucks voucher
Theatre tickets/cinema voucher
Virtual gifts - Oxfam goat etc
Hotel Chocolat hot chocolate thingy - velvetiser?
LED lighting
Head torch
Heated blanket/throw

@StillIncredulous no reason to feel bad everyone's situation is different. I'm sure your dd will love the gifts you get her.

I have to work really hard on remembering that I believe and wish to bring my children up similarly, that the acquisition of "things" is not an aim, they can all be stripped away in an instant.
But I understand why parents feel under pressure to provide them, and children feel entitled to receive.
I wish society measured success more obviously in the internal things like contentment rather than external trainers & electricals.
Whilst I don't wish to be either parent in 'About A Boy' it's difficult to hold the line in the middle, isn't it?
Also, it's interesting watching so many parents treat their daughters especially as mini adults with the type of gifts they give.

Have you asked her?

I’ve got 2 teen DSDs and would never buy them anything of value without being sure that they’d like it.

Bamboo bed sheets? They are gorgeous and soft.
Beanbag (old school!)
Alexa or similar
Bubble tea making kit
Subscription box for essential oil blends
Mason Pearson hairbrush?

@StillIncredulous I like experiences and memories far more than actual stuff.

I often tend to buy my childrens presents along these lines too. Theatre or cinema tickets, high ropes courses, exhibitions, go karting sessions, escape rooms etc.

@user1466167893 AirPods? My dc live in them

@StillIncredulous

AConvivialHost

I think you must be rich, that seems like such a lot. I couldn't afford to buy a third of that.
These threads make me feel rubbish, I must say.

Why? As much as it might feel like it when you read all this nonsense, it's not about giving 'things'. If your daughter is loved she will grow up happier than if she just had lots of things.

Tickets to the ballet?

Boba tea making kit?

Dd is 17.

She likes Estee Lalonde jewellery from Daisy Jewellery and Orelia

Also on her wish list:

Sheet masks
Washable cleansing pads
Make up brushes
Chai tea
Salted caramel hot chocolate
Workout clothes
Nike Airmax
Converse
Powerbank
Mango and coconut smellies
Stationery
Books - both fiction and study related (feminist dystopia, law and philosophy )

On my list for her:

Black and white throw blanket
Air tag and keyring holder (to prevent me having to staple her keys to her bloody head!)

Wow she sounds fab!
Sounds like whatever you buy she will appreciate.

My 16 dd is getting-

Oodie sleep t-shirt as she adores her oodie and i think will love it.
Artisan Candle making kit
Mini books on plant keeping and another succulent
Mushroom growing kit
A couple of books
Bubble waffle making kit
Prada perfume

I forgot an extendable marshmallow toasting fork
A birthstone bracelet

Sunset lamp
Air pod pros
Trainers
Timothy Chalamet prayer candle from Ain't Saint
Lovely hardback Dune book