ANY TEENAGE MUMS ON HERE or is it just me if so give me some advice plz

[BloomingBennett]

hi. just want some people to chat to bout stuff maybe like me if not then peoples experience in childbirth so every young mum knows what to expect

hiya, just wanted to send my support to you, i was 17 when i got pregnant and had my baby at 18. I'm now 20 (21 on thursday!). i know about the talking and staring, experienced it! people would stare on the bus! god knows why, you are experiencing the most natural thing in the world and people would think , what a slut for getting pregnant!???? Hold your head high at college and ignore the pettyness of others. I was scared of the labour and the pain! for some reason as i got closer to my due date i relaxed into it and let my body go with the flow of what is happening.
ironically enough most of my friends are having babys now and each one comes to me to ask advice and help, i am now trying for another baby with me fiance and this time i plan to enjoy it for what it is and have no worries about anyone else but myself.

Nappyaddict - I'd just gone into my 2nd year when I found out. I completed the year and even took my exams but I was a bit o/whelmed by the prospects of a resit in one subject plus some o/s coursework in another. If I'd managed to get them done by the end of the summer, it would have counted as my first sit as I was classed as an exentuating circs student due to being pg (I think this was very generous of the Boards to do this as it is really a self-inflicted condition!!). I even had the option of retaking my flunked subjects part-time during the forthcoming academic year but at the time I didn't fancy an 160-mile round trip twice a week to attend those classes .

Hi, first of all congratulations, and I hope you're feeling well. Had my baby at 17, single mum, and I found it very difficult, thankfully had a supportive mum, especially when I went back to work full time when baby 4 months old! I am so pleased to read all the supportive messages on MN - must say I had a fair bit of 'judgement' and gossip when I was PG - sometimes people's attitudes are a killer! But ignore all that nonsense. Only advice I will give is that babyhood disappears more quickly than you will ever imagine, so treasure the time you have with your baby (hope don't sound patronising). Ooh, and you don't need half the crap they advertise in the magazines (I believed all I read and spent a fortune on daft things like top-to-toe bowls and embroidered hooded towels!). One possible bonus in being a teenage mum is that being young and fit you might have a short labour (please don't be scared, it's not as bad as you might think, and it's right, you do forget!) Good luck with everything.

Kittylouise - you are so right about all the old toot we get talked into buying!! I only just threw out a powdered milk measuring jug that I never got around to using as I made up all my dd's bottles first thing or last thing at night. I don't know what possessed me to buy it.

The towelling nappies my Mum bought me were useful though - I used disposables so we kept the Terries for nursery clothes/draw sheets etc. Some of them are still going strong for cloths in the car

Hi bloomingbennett. I had my dd at 19. I fell pregnant a few months after leaving college and I love being a young mum!
I am currently 7wks preg with number 2. DD will be 3 when this one arrives so a nice gap. I wish you all the luck honey and just enjoy every second as its not one you will forget!

Too right, chocolattegirl, HUNDREDS spent on crap that would have been better spent on haircuts and new shoes after the birth. I remember wanting everything to be perfect and co-ordinated (probably thought that people would think I was less of a scumbag teenage mum if this were the case) and getting quite upset that the beatrix potter lampshade was out of stock at mothercare (and I NEEDED it to go with the blankets, sheets and towels I had already bought). Mad.

Hi, I fell pg at 16 and had DS aged 17 and it had a massive impact on my family (a whole other story!). I'm 30 now and have DS+DD and one on the way...

Anyway, I just wanted to add my support. I remember those times so well. I guess the best advice I can give is

Don't go all frumpy!!!!

For some reason, I was so determined not to appear as a 'typical teenage mum' (whatever that is!?) that I started dressing way beyond my years. When I look back at the photos of back then, I look about 40 years old! My DH (have remarried since then) has been trying to trend me up for years now and I think I've got the right balance lol!

I remember making a conscious decision that if I was going to be a mummy, I was going to be the best mummy that I could, no matter what my age was. I'm sure you'll be great and its already brilliant that you're on here amongst such lovely supportive ladies.

Oh, and just to give you some encouragement, I'm having a bit of a nightmare pg this time around and I'm convinced its because of my age - having DS and DD in my younger years was definitely much easier!

All the best to you...

PLP xoxoxoxo

hi blooming! just came across this thread and wanted to say congratulations and welcome to mn! Sounds like you are doing really well so far and you already know that you have loads of support here on mn whenever you need it!
good luck with the rest of your pregnancy - i'll look out for you and say hi if our paths cross!

i had my 1st at 18 2nd at 21 and now expecting my 3rd baby
im 23 now

Hi, Blooming, have just found this thread. I had DS at 18, he is now 9.5. I also have two DDs who are 6 and 5 and am 16 weeks pregnant again at the grand ole age of 28 I love having my kids young, and now the kids are all at school I have some of my life back (though that will all change once this little one comes along)
Good luck

just found this thread wanted to watch help im a teen mum online sumwhere! ill restart it!mmnot a teen mum (as commonly known) but i was 21/22 when i was preg! can i join in? lol

i had my son when i was 20. his dad was/ still is an arse hole wanted me to get an abortion. and so glad i chose not too. the good thing is when you have your mum and dad around you. i was so scared but they helped e loads and the baby was loved by everyone so much.my son is now 5. my mum held my hand in birth, she even cried when she saw his head appearing. she said she was so very proud of me wich was nice, although she was not saying that 9 months before ha.
i loved being a single mum, but just dont be shy to ask for help. and have epidural its good ha

I too was a 'teen mum' - DD1 was born 5 weeks before my 20th birthday and DD2 was born just before my 23 birthday. They are now 3 and 6 months.

Ignore the gossips! You will be fab! MN is a great place for advice and support. I only discovered it just before dd2 was born but I so wish I had found it with dd1.

You are lucky you have a good family support and the support of your boyfriend. I have been with my dp for 7 years now and he is great (most of the time) we also have fantastic support from my parents.

Hello Everyone,
Im Sitting Here & Its Like 8am On A Sunday .. I Cant Get Any Sleep! Ive Been With My Boyfriend For 11 Months .. Hes Lovely, He Cares For Me, He Loves Me, I Can Trust Him & All The Rest Of It. We Want To Be Together Forever & Now We Are Expecting A Baby. I Want This Baby Believe Me - I Dont Agree With Abortin & I Love Kids! But I Am Aware Of The Fact We Are So Young & The Age May Disgust People. However, We Both Come From Really Supportive Families .. We Wont Be Alone At All In This. We Can Claim Benefits, He Goes To Work & College, My Mum & His Mum Will Spoil The Baby Rotten & Help Out In Anyway Possible .. & I Have Older Brothers & Sisters For Support! Also, We Have Stuff Like Playstations & DVD Players We Can Sell For Money & Im Allowed To Keep My Television & Computer So We Wont Be Stuck In A Council Place With Nothing To Do! We Are Both Really Mature & Responsible .. I Will Guard This Baby More Than Anything. My Parents Might Even Let Me Stay At Home .. My Mum Always Said She Wouldnt Kick Me Out. They Dont Know Yet Though .. Does Anyone Have Any Advice Please? Love Katie! x

how old are you?

Hi Katie, it might hep if you started your own thread, just so you didn't get lost in this one, I went right to the beginning to read it all and was like 'WOAHHHHHHHHHH LONG THREAD'

JUST GO HERE and click where it says to start a new convoersation click here.

Just think you might get mroe replies if people see it's a new thread!

Welcome to mumsnet.

heya bb congrats on pregnancy.hope all goes well.im 19 and due to be indueced on tha 12th and carnt wait am abit scared of tha labour tho.lol. but bin told tha gas n air n pethadine is brill a will soon find out.lol. i still live wif my rents and glad as they are very surportive. hope all is well. will b appy to tell ya nefin bowt pregnancy ya wna know. xoxo

youngmumtobe, the thread is almost 2 years old, so i should think that blooming has had her baby by now ! good luck with your induction

make sure you stay mobile, upright and as active as possible to increase your chances of a straightforward birth

Hi Blooming, welcome to mumsnet,i was a teenmum at 17, and worried about everything, it all turned out fine and i enjoyed it all so much i went on to have 7 more!! (34 now)..it goes so fast!

All the aches and pains are completely normal and means everything is growing as it should be, none of the labour/needles were as painful as i had expected them to be and anyway once you have you baby in your arms you will know its all been worth it.

Good Luck

lulimama haha i didnt read tha dates on it tha will teach me.lol. tanx for advice will defo do it. xoxo