ANY TEENAGE MUMS ON HERE or is it just me if so give me some advice plz

[BloomingBennett]

hi. just want some people to chat to bout stuff maybe like me if not then peoples experience in childbirth so every young mum knows what to expect

sleep well x

Ooooo, littlelapin you must do that!

hello bloomong

i was 16 when pg with ds1,17 when i had him. i had ds2 at 19.

so fire away with anything you want to know!

Hoping you are ok

blooming, even!btw im 22 now

Hi BloomingBennett. About 8 years the wrong side of my teens myself but my mum got married v young and had me as a teen herself - and I loved it!!
I used to be really proud when she picked me up from primary school as she always looked so young and trendy compared to all the other mums. We've always been really close as a result. I respect her fully but she's also one of my best friends and I could tell her anything.
And don't worry about the others from 6th form. Just think in a couple of years time they'll be stuck in the house changing nappies and cleaning sick while you'll have already done the hard part and got a life!!
All the best x

hi bloomin i was pregnant at 15 with my 1st 16 wen i had josh whose now nearly 7 pregnat agen at 18 n 19 but unfort i miscarried both then at 21 i had paige whose now 21months n last yr i had sophie whose 7months now. i had epidurals on all 3 as after 2 days of labour on josh he got distressed n i had 2 have emerg c-section so needed an epidural on paige i got scared n opted for a c-sec as my 1st labour didnt go well n sophie was an emerg c-sec as she was born a month early due 2 pre-eclmpsia i kno how u feel bout people at school talkin bout u but u just have 2 hold ur head up n ignore um as long as u, ur boyf n ur family r happy who cares bout other people they aint important so dont give um another thought xxxx

Hiya
I am not a teen anymore (hit the grand old ago of 20!) but had DS at 19. I too was very scared of needles, and worried about the pain and epidurals, but it was fine. Don't feel you have to try and be braave, I opted for an epidural as soon as I knew I would have to stay on the bed full time (DS was in distress so had to be monitored full time). They were very quick and professional about it, making even me feel at ease! I had a TENS machine on until I had the epidural and wow, it was excellent. All mums feel pretty much the same, teenage or middle aged, any symptoms or aches and pains are what most mums get, don't feel just because you are younger you should be cut off somehow from "other" mums Mumsnet is a great place, I am sorry I didn't know about it sooner, but I have got such a load of great information from here - make sure you stick around and ask anything - people are always around to help x

hi blooming, i found out on my 18th birthday i was pg with dd(7) what fun that was! ;o

forgot to say, was on my own most of the time when i was in labour, and had my eyes closed throughout, was very scared!!

Not a teenage mum, but did have an epidural. Just wante dto say, you don't have to have an epidural you know. You can use what ever pain relief you need. You may do it without an epidural, many women do. If you get to a point where you can't tolerate the pain you are feeling, and you want an epidural, you will forget to be scared of the needle, because you will be focussing on the labour and the impending relief from pain!!
I had no side effects from my epidural.

hi blooming, i was 17 when i fell pg with dd (2) and got pg with ds at 19 (6 months) me and dh are now married (doh, i said dh so yeah...) and have our own flat but things are hard to begin with. Glad you've got support its the most important thing!

hi every one, im really sorry i havent been on in a while. ive been quite busy but im back hehe

dotty- im not talking to you know who hehe and i agree i prefer spike anyway lol. fun fun

scorpio-hi. that is my predicament too. can i ask how long your childbirth lasted ? if you dont mind.

beach bunni-wow that nearly just made me cry thankyou so much i was so worried about standing in the playground with the others all staring at me (PARANOID) but not so long as my baby thinks the same i can do it.thanks so much

welsh- thanks, the only thing is, im a really quiet girl who gets good marks, its not just the students but the teachers im worried about.

quoutie- my darling bf said he is going to buy me one of them tens machines, he knows i cant stand pain. ive got my blood tests next week on tuesday and im really scared because i cant stand needles or the sight of blood either! im in a good position arent i? lol

J20- im in the october group too we are due on the same day! i feel really lucky in this sense theres no way anyone will leave me alone now let alone during the pregnancy. im really sorry you had to do it alone though. i know i couldnt you are so brave.

tigana- thats great thanks i know i dont have to i have one i just wanted to know what it was like before and after for different people

pink candy-8 MONTHS!!!!! im doing mine at 6 months i read you are more intelligent during pregnancy though YES!!!

stacey- that my name too hehe. my bf wants us to get our own place but mums not ready to let go yet lol.i can understand why though. there would be 10 people living in the house :s. but he understands why i want to stay there for a while

you can hire a tens machine too, you know!

glad to see you back !

re the needles. just don;t look, and take nice ,slow deep breaths

oh i didnt know that great!

glad someone is on here to talk to how long was your first child labour if you dont mind me asking

well, i was induced at 39 weeks, due to bleeding...was not the best experience, ended up having my waters broken, given a drip to stimulate contractions, had diamoprhine, an epidural, and my labour did not progress...son born by c.section......

second one was much better ! did lots of reading and educated myself about getting a better birth, wanted to avoid all intervention, and ended up going into labour the day before her due date,and she was born 18 hours after my first contraction!

stayed at home until 3 minutes apart, had gas and air, stayed mobile as long as i could, and had a vaginal birth, intact perineum , no episiotomy or tearing!

BB - hello again. I had a very positive and relatively quick labour with my first (and only, so far) baby. Woke up at 1.50am with contractions. They were about 5 mins apart. Got in the bath (best thing ever). Got out of bath at about 3.30am when contractions about 3 mins apart. To hosp at 4am. Examined and 6 cms dilated! Great news. Carried on with gas and air. Had epidural at about 6.30am after having waters broken. Baby born at 11.32am after only 40 mins of pushing. Lovely.

When you go to have your blood taken, take someone with you if you can. They can talk to you and distract you. I have to have my blood taken every other month and it really isn't that painful. It must be horrible for you to be scared. But, its like everything in life, the thought and the anticipation is the worst thing.

lulu-the second one sounds lovely but the first one sounds really scary sorry it was so bad for you is it true its about an hour per centimeter min

bristols- thanks, definately planning on having a bath now hehe ha sany one ever had a water bath??? is it better does the water help what about afterwards??? my bf would never let me do the blood test alone he knows how bad i get he is takin the day off work what a darl lol!

1 cm per hour is expected, but first labour can be anything up to 24 hours or more , and that is ok

a normal labour can pause, and if you are tired, or feel scared, it can take longer

the best advice i could give, is to welcome the contractions, open yourself to them, and yes, they hurt , but they are pain with a purpose, and each one has a purpose !

water birth is a great pain relief,it relaxes you , cocoons you, and allows you to move freely in the water, and get relief from the pain, it also supports the perineum, which can make it less likely you will tear

you need to get to 10 cm dilated....so around 10 hours, plus however long it takes to push, but for every woman who takes 10 hours, some take 2 , some take 24, it is a general rule of thumb, but of course, there are lots of exceptions

i went from 3 - 10 cm in 2 1/4 hours in my second labour

i know that being active, staying at home as long as i could, no epidural, made a massive difference....

are you going to some antenatal classses?

cool i know i am going to need to stay at home for a while but im going to be really worried lol

im not going to them yet i am only 16 weeks though when are they meant to start????

The bath was excellent, so I imagine a water birth would be too. Will definitely stay in the bath longer next time and maybe go the whole hog and have a water birth. I found that having as much information as possible about labour and birth helped. I'm always happier if I have an idea about what's going to happen. As I said earlier, its fear of the unknown.

Antenatal classes are a good idea for you and your bf. It sounds like you've got a good one there

hehe i think so too but i think its too early yet and i totally agree with you on the knowing more hence MN lol but youve all been great

there's not too many teen mums on here. i am 18 and was the youngest up until a few months ago. i'll be happy to offer any advice and answer any questions you might have. when are you due?

i have msn too if you have it. [email protected]

There's a fair few weeks to go to get you feeling more at ease with the whole birth thing. Fear is an awful, awful emotion. Hopefully in time you'll feel less scared about it all. Anyway, off to bed now. As you've probably noticed, I'm not one for late nights! Probably see you sometime over the weekend. Do you have any plans? Nice weather, apparently...