October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

I've been lurking for a bit and feel like it's probably time to join! Firstly, bubbles I'm really so sorry that you're going through such an uncertain time, and I am hoping and keeping everything crossed for you that you get postive news on Monday. Please keep us updated

My EDD is 5th October I had some bleeding with clots at 6 weeks which was absolutely terrifying, particularly because we had an early miscarriage last October so it felt like it was happening again. Thankfully, we had a scan (internal), and to our absolute relief we saw that everything was fine and could see the heartbeat flickering away! I had a tiny tiny amount of spotting a week later but my midwife wasn't concerned.

My 12 week (which is actually 13 weeks for me!) is the 30th March, which seems FOREVER away to me. So, I have booked a reassurance scan for a week on Tuesday when I will be around 10 weeks and I can't wait. I am a very anxious person, but I'm feeling really positive about it. Booking a reassurance scan has made me feel like I have a little bit more control over it all, which is nice.

My only symptoms at the moment are incredibly sore boobs (if I hadn't have had a scan I would swear I was growing a baby in my boobs, they're that sore ) . I've also been a bit more tired than usual and very very hungry!!

Wishing everyone happy and uneventful pregnancies

Hi bumblingbee! Good to hear everything was fine after a worrying time at 6 weeks and best of luck at your 10 week scan. Certainly feeling the lack of control over everything tough going - being a control freak does not pair well with pregnancy, ha!

emvy is so hard isn't it? I like having control over things and making things happen if I want them to happen so leaving things to mother nature is not my style

So incredibly hard! I always live under the mantra that if I want something, I'll work as hard as I can to get it but as this is just a 'what will be, will be' situation I'm finding it hard to, like you say, allow Mother Nature to take its course! I hope it's kind to us! bumblingbee

Thanks for the support & reassuring words, it means a lot
Great news power!
Glad to hear things are turning positive for you too bumbling
Here's to relaxing & reassuring times ahead!

Oh my gosh emvy I think you might be me 😂 that is my mantra too! Someone actually said 'remember, what will be will be' to me when I was having the bleeding, and it's a good thing I'm a nice person because my instinct when they said it wasn't very nice at all 😂

Paha! I've had practically the same advice! My mum said to me when I had a bleed as well, 'remember, you can't be in control of everything. There are some things you can't know the answer to straight away and some things you just can't control'. Right, thanks then mother. It's horrific isn't it bumblingbee! Actually good to know I'm not the only one

But you can't control it though it really is one of the things in life you just have to let happen to you. Even paying for extra scans etc it won't change any outcomes. I know it's empty advice when you can't help but worry... I had HG last pregnancy and if anyone so much as mentions a ginger biscuit as a "helpful suggestion to ease nausea" I will punch them in the face 😂

I know moomin , you are right. It's silly really. I think we're so used to having control over most aspects of our lives, that when we don't we don't quite know what to do about it 😂

Yeah we know it really moomin it's just hearing it reminds you of the distinct lack of control that we find difficult to deal with I think ! It's a massive learning curve and I feel like I'm getting stronger each day, I definitely needed this kind of challenge and I was completely unprepared for it - I thought I'd love every moment of pregnancy because I've wanted it for so long and was completely thrown at the feelings of panic I've felt! Incredible journey and I'm only coming up to week 7!! (Please ignore distinct lack of accurate present and past tense grammar. Tired.)

Welcome to the latest newbies!

Bubbles, I'm sorry you're joining us in limbo, hopefully you get two healthy strong heartbeats on your next scan. I can't believe they didn't do the internal scan right away!

Im due on the 13th oct midwife next week swollen boobs n headaches r my only symptom so far just anxious as had mmc in aug n wnt this little bean to be ok xxx

soapycomb I had a stomach bug at about 5 weeks, was ill for 3 days and barely ate. I haven't had any scans yet but it doesn't seem to have done any harm, I felt better for about a day then morning sickness kicked in and symptoms have continued much like my previous pregnancies. My sis had 2 stomach bugs during her second pregnancy but her dd was perfectly fine. It does depend what's causing your sickness I suppose, there are a couple of food poisoning type bugs that can effect the foetus but a standard stomach bug shouldn't do any harm.

Hi all, just checking in, wow these threads move on fast! Had my booking in appointment this week and midwife was lovely which was reassuring. Waiting now for an early scan date and consultant as classed as high risk. Knew I would be so am actually relieved they will scan early rather than wait until 12 weeks. Will maybe start believing this is real when I get to see it for myself! I keep having really vivid dreams though about twins/triplets....really hoping that's just my imagination and not some weird psychic thing! Not sure how on earth I'll be with one baby let alone multiple!!!

Glad to see I've lots of company for a 9th Oct due date :)

Can anyone give any advice shed any light! I'm 4+5 and my back is starting to really ache and now my hips have joined the party! I know that relaxin can do this but I didn't think it'd happen so early!

I have no idea I'm afraid tigger but I usually just have a nice hot bath to sort out out?!

Sorry to hear so many of you are going through tough times- I feel bad moaning about how spotty and constipated I am when I know I should count myself lucky that I only feel horrendously sick for an hour or two a day!! 6+2 here and just waiting for my midwife appointment on 16th. Did anyone take their DH? Mine is desperate to come but not sure it's the done thing?!

tigger yes think it's the relaxin, you have to be careful with sports as easy to injure yourself, my (pre-existing) knee injury is worse at the moment. Spd can start really early in some people, hope mine doesn't come back yet!

My nausea has started now, although still manageable. I'm happy about it atm as it means I'm feeling a bit more pregnant, but I'm sure I'll be moaning about it within days.

6 weeks today and I've already told my parents and loads of my friends 🙈 I'm so bad at keeping secrets!

Rachieg88 I plan to take my DP, I got the impression from the GP, that they'll want his family history too (in case there's any genetic conditions run in his family).

Rachie I asked this question over on the pregnancy boards a while back and the general response was that they don't need to go unless there's some medical issue that needs to be discussed. However, lots of people said they did take their OHs with their first pregnancies, they just realised it wasn't really necessary after, so I guess it's upto you.

I did take my OH with me to mine but that was because we'd had an emergency scan that morning and he therefore had already been given the day off. Otherwise, we decided we were going to wait to save taking time off for (hopefully!) future appointments.

I didn't bother taking dp, it's a pretty long dull appointment, lots of questions and form filling. I just asked him whether there was anything that should be flagged up i.e. a history of heart disease/diabetes/anything else in his family.

He came to the main scans, although not all the later growth ones I had, and to the appt where my c-section date was agreed.

Yay, corrinax another due date buddy for the 13th!

I had another bleed yesterday (7+0) which really upset me, it was heavier then before and there was red blood too
I phoned the maternity ward (epu closed at weekend and I've already been seen there so was told to if anything happens) and the midwife could tell I was upset so talked to me for a while. She said I was welcome to go up to the ward and be IP any time but because the epu was closed I probably wouldn't get scanned til Monday. Because I'm not having cramps or any pain it could be nothing so it's not enough to call the consultant. She was very reassuring. I'm meant to be scanned on Tuesday anyway but she pulled it forward to Monday for me. I really don't have a good feeling about it though. I cried for about 5 hours yesterday, I got myself in such a state. I just want tomorrow to come.

Wow I've been away and it all over so quick! I've got about 5 pages to catch up on!

Thinking of you BabyCarmen that sounds so scary, I hope today goes quick and you get answers soon.

Oh babycarmen what a scary time, I'm so sorry. If it makes it any better (which it probably won't but worth a try), I felt very hopeless after my scan on Thursday and was certain my symptoms were disappearing and my baby had definitely stopped growing. However, just a couple of days later and after reading lots of stories with good outcomes I'm feeling more positive. My point is, give it time and hopefully you'll be able to grab a hold of that little bit of hope and it will grow and you will begin to feel that all is not lost. Take it easy today but watch a film you love or your favourite boxset to keep your mind off it as much as possible. I wish you the absolute best of luck for tomorrow and will say little prayer for you