October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

under just looking out for the masses! Haha, it was meant to be for dp who suggested I treat myself to a costa latte when I said I was too tired lazy to muster the energy to get out and walk the dog. Not sure he believes this is actually happening (fx) either. He is being very cautious about everything (doesn't want to tell anyone until the first scan) which is very pragmatic but sort of adding to my feelings that we won't make it that far...

moomin isn't Coke Zero caffeine free? Don't quote me on it, and it tastes weird anyway! Glowing I am not, alas. I look really washed out, still bloated and spots have made an appearance as others have mentioned. Lucky dp is away this week eh.

bumble congrats and snap! That is supposedly my due date too, and also my first. Scary but exciting times.

Welcome and congratulations new comers!!! It is such a lovely place to come and share anxieties and get lots
Of reassurance! I have developed an obsession with Fanta and ribena as my drinks of choice for this pregnancy! Does the caffeine free coke taste similar to normal coke as I am really missing Diet Coke especially when going out !

Ps @supersmith I have a bad cold too! And a cough that hurts a lot !

Looked at the coke website and Diet Coke is the worst offender for caffeine,having about double what coke life has. The only one that is de—caf is 'Diet coke caffeine free.'
Made me feel better than a can of classic coke is less caffeine than a cup of tea.

Sorry will stop going on about Coke now!

Welcome supersmith I also have low appetite. On the rare times I want to sit down and eat an actual meal I take a bite and it tastes like soap. Fml

Thanks for all the welcomes ladies, I'm feeling better already! Good to know I'm not the only one with lots of anxiety, hopefully I can get in under control and start to feel excited again instead. I too am a coke zero addict, I have cut right down and switched (most of) my coffees to decaffs - will try out the caffeine free diet coke this week I think!

Hi, I'm a bit of a latecomer too. Due 29th Oct, but will probably have an elcs a week earlier. I've already got one DD aged 2.

I had my second mmc and surgical management the week before Christmas, and can't believe I conceived again so quickly. Terrified it will happen again (I'm almost 43), so will be getting an early scan at the EPU at 7 weeks (which coincides with my birthday, so really hoping for better news this time). Have only told dp and my mum so far and hope to keep it this way until we've had a Harmony test.

Sympathy to those of you currently in limbo, it's incredibly difficult. My last pregnancy was measuring two weeks behind with a slow hb but the whole process dragged out over 2 weeks. Still feels a bit raw.

Toast and marmite is the only thing I can stomach at the minute too.

We haven't told anyone yet and starting to feel more sick so I don't know how I'm going to hide it for much longer. I want to book an early scan at 8 week and then if all ok I'll tell my parents and sister.

Hope everyone starts to feel better soon!

Hi all, welcome newbies

Quick re-cap from me... 8 weeks today ish and booked a private early scan for today no reason other than piece of mind (1St pregnancy).

Yesterday, I had a little very pale red spotting, followed by a clot. No pain, not much blood- just the clot and only when wiping (sorry!!)
So today's scan suddenly got more serious! The sonographer found identical twins, each measuring 8 weeks, but neither had a heartbeat.
She's referred me to the hospital for Monday morning for an internal. Absolutely gutted, but keeping hopeful for a miracle!! Thinking of the others in limbo, now I really understand it!

Oh bubbles. I'm so sorry you are also in limbo! Praying for two healthy heartbeats on Monday!

Oh bubbles praying all is well for you

Oh no bubbles I'm so sorry! Also praying for little heartbeats with your internal - they're always more accurate at this early stage so fingers crossed that will get you the results you need. Best of luck

Bubble so sorry to hear you're going through such uncertainty too... However, without meaning to give you false hope, it does sound positive that both embryos are measuring correctly for your dates. I have everything crossed that the dildocam picks up heartbeats for you on Monday.

Thanks for all your support after our scan on Friday, it really does help. Thanks especially to Loopy for being so honest about the fetal heart rate. I have spent hours googling, and have managed to find very few positive stories similar to mine, but they are there. I am feeling a little bit more sick now too, so have to take that as a positive thing!
Weirdly, we too conceived twins this time. The empty sac the measured in the first scan has now shrunk, and the embryo is in a second sac that they didn't look at the first time! I remember wondering if it was a sac but the sonographer didn't go near it so I presumed it wasn't. I feel a little cross now, as if she'd looked at it then we would have more of an idea as to whether it was progressing now or not 😖

Hope all those suffering from sickness are managing to cope...

Oh Bubbles, sorry to hear your news. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.🤞

bubble I'm so sorry, I only got heartbeat on "dildocam" at 6 weeks, although she had tried external scan first and couldn't get any details. (but in spirit of openness I did get hb at 7+5 via normal external ultrasound.) But individual embryos and our own bodies vary so much. Neither want to give you false hope or dash your hopes, no continued bleeding and no strong pains is a good sign surely. Fingers and toes crossed!

I've come back from my early scan and all is well. The bub measured a day bigger than my dates and 4 days bigger than the midwifes so I'm 8 weeks today by the scan and due on 7th October. I'll wait til the 12 week scan to decide what date I'm going with in my head!

I've developed a nasty pain in my lower back/hip/bum that's made me develop a penguin waddle when I walk. I can't get comfy sitting or laying down. But at the moment, I'm on cloud 9 so not focusing on that.

I hope everyone else is well.

Bubbles, I'm sending positive vibes. I hope all is well.

Oh and the clinic told me that they would do an internal scan as it would be clearer so I didn't drink any water and wee'd as soon as I got there but the sonographer said she'd try an abdominal one first and it was as clear as day! No need for the internal!

Hi bubbles, was this scan at a private clinic? I'm surprised they took your money and provided an abdominal scan at only 8 weeks An internal scan is the way to go so early on in your pregnancy. Abdominal scans are recommended from 11/12weeks +

I know it's your first so try not to freak out but you will see much more detail with internal exam and hopefully see the heartbeats :)

If any of the newcomers want to join the Facebook group please pm me. I find the mumsnet threads difficult to keep up with so welcome to the newbies and congratulations!

Hear hear Tiny very bad practice to offer "reassurance" early scans which are not internal! Would more often than not have to opposite of reassuring effect!!
(In my case my local GP scans and she has all the equipment for both.)

I'd rather not. However if everyone is going over to Facebook I'll find another forum to join rather than talk to myself!

MrsCharleD. How do we PM you on here? Would love to join Facebook group as also find it hard keeping up on here!

Hey lovelies, got my bfp with dc2 on Wed, over the moon as struggled ttc with ds as I have severe pcos so looks like pregnancy has sorted me out my cycles are totally up the spout so guessing dates from dtd's I think I am only 2-3 weeks due 28th Oct-ish. however I have been super ill, V/D, shivery, high temp for the past 18 hours can't keep anything down and now tummy cramping, nothing come away but I'm fearing the worst could a tummy bug be the end? Sorry for the downer I'm trying to stay positive until I see some actual evidence of loss but with it being so early would it be all that obvious? Tia you guys always been here when I need you x

I Pmd last week but not had anything on Facebook yet?

soapycomb hi and congratulations on your BFP! In in all honesty I don't know whether your symptoms are anything to be concerned about. Hopefully someone can shed some light on it! I hope it's just a bug you've picked up though and you start to feel better soon!

"MrscharlieD" can you add me please? I don't know how to PM :)
I'm not leaving here though