October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

My skin is hideous, massive jawline zits. All I want to eat is toast and marmite!

Thanks everyone, I know I just have to wait and see really...if I'm not feeling better by 12 weeks I will definitely get some medication to help cos I can't face this all the way through. My mum was very sick with her first all the way through but my sisters were fine with all of theirs so I might just be the unlucky sibling. Good luck to anyone with appointments or worrying symptoms

Glad I'm not alon LondonLoves and I loooove marmite but it gives me heartburn I may have to purchase some vegemite as I think that didn't have the same effect, though not as nice!

Gimbleinthewabe my skin has been awful, really dry, flakey and spotty. Not really a good look! I'm also going off meat but mainly processed or red meat. I had to leave the room when DH had pepperoni pizza this week as I thought I was going to be sick. Then same last night when he cooked sausages. I'm pretty much living off crackers, toast and apples! Worst of it is I've also gone off cakes and chocolates-really hoping that doesn't last long!

shellbell I've not been able to eat chocolate throughout all of my pregnancies, can't drink tea or coffee either. Depressing to think I have another 7 months to go without chocolate but I can gorge myself the day after the birth as it disappears immediately!

Hi everyone hope you all have some lovely weekend plans. I was supposed to be doing a long walk today but I've felt so exhausted this week I've opted out. I'm also so bloody emotional. Can I ask who have you told about your pregnancy and when did you tell them?

Potatoes I really hope this isn't a whole pregnancy thing, I too have gone off coffee and tea so cake and chocolate were the only things that I had left to get me through!

Tigger- as we went through IVF we have told those who knew about the treatment -parents, best friends, my head teacher at work and my sister in law. We told them once we had the positive bloods from the hospital. Not planning on telling others until 12 week scan.

Tigger, I have told my mum, dad and sister, the in-laws, my best friend, one other close friend and x2 ladies from work that I am friendly with (one of them is also pregnant) so it's like our secret club.

Will go public after the first scan.

Fingers crossed for Thursday otter16 I'm exactly same gestation as you and also have a scan on Thursday so fingers crossed it will be a good news day.

Re whoever it was that is being really sick, if you have HG then you could have it until the end. There is a support group on Facebook called HG warriors which you might want to look at, a friend set it up, she had horrific sickness in both her pregnancies and was hospitalised many times and her second ended up being delivered about 5 weeks early because of it. Hope yours isn't as bad.

chintara sorry the scan wasn't as reassuring as hoped. It's good there is a heartbeat but I think because it's only 80 that's why the consultant is being negative, I think they are meant to be nearer to 100 in the early stages and then increases to anything up to around 150. A low heartbeat can mean something isn't right and it's only a matter of time before it stops beating. But having been ttc number 3 and mc for so long, I've seen many miracles along the way with others where scans didn't look as they should and then turned out ok in the end so will pray you become one of those stories!

5+6 today and just can't shake a feeling of dread that this can't possibly work out ok. Maybe if the scan is ok on thurs then my mindset might change, but after so long I just feel like why should this be any different, even though the other part of my brain is saying that it is different, as I'm on pred. Driving myself mad!

Tigger we have told my parents, the in laws and bosses at work. We actually hadn't told anyone until I had the symptoms that made us go for the early scan but since being told it might not progress we felt that parents might like to have known and supported us and bosses needed to know for time off. I'm dying to tell my closest friends but my OH doesn't want me to so I'm very torn!

I'm sorry you're having a difficult day Loopyaboutmy2boys! it seems that we go around in circles with up and down days. My only advice would be to do something you enjoy to cheer yourself up and hope you feel better tomorrow!

I dreamt we had actually had the baby last night (weirdest feeling as I have no children) and all was fine. We were on a day trip somewhere and I was breastfeeding it?! Most bizarre feeling as obviously never breastfed in my life! Hoping it's a good sign but more likely down to my state of mind and highly emotional brain!

Tigger we haven't told anyone yet! It's so weird... kind of nice it being our little secret, but also hate lying. But, it's getting hard to hide it at work now, as I feel rough for so much of the day. Planning on telling ohs parents next weekend when we see them and will ring mine so they know at the same time. Will probably tell a few close friends after that!

tigger I'm 8+2 and since the BFP we've told both sets of parents, my brother and SIL and a couple of my close friends. Told my parents straight away because I wanted my mum to know (she's been waiting a while for grandchildren!) DP's parents came up to visit a couple of weeks ago, so we told them then. And my brother and friends I've told so that there's support if anything does go wrong. I thought a lot about it and although I'm a bit worried about telling anyone before 12 weeks, I also couldn't cope with the thought of having to explain that I was pregnant and then wasn't if anything happened.

But, we haven't told any of DP's siblings, and I've been making rubbish excuses to loads of my friends about why I'm not drinking and am so tired. I wouldn't be surprised if someone's guessed.

I'm shattered this morning even though I slept for about 9 hours. I also think my dreams are getting more vivid. Maybe that's what's so exhausting! Hope everyone's doing ok today.

tigger we have told parents (mine and PIL) my best friend, (all far away) and 3xmummy friends I became very close to from antenatal class last time, they are my only local support network so I will need their support if things don't work out.
Wishing we hadn't told PILs because their response was so meh. Can't wait to tell our siblings but going to wait til 12w scan... 3 weeks and 4 days to go!

Few other randoms I've had to tell, playgroup leader due to lifting and "work" - (I'm a freelance photographer.) The list adds up of those you have to tell!

With ds1 I had a series of dreams that I gave birth but he wasn't a human baby (ranged from being a puppy to a stick insect ). I think I couldn't imagine actually having a baby so my dreaming mind came up with loads of strange substitutes!

Morning everyone! 7 weeks today and the nausea has kicked in. Currently at the hairdressers and feeling yuck!

Tigger I told my boss shortly after I found out only because he'd just offered me a new temporary role and it was relevant to whether I could accept it. I told mil last week as we were staying with her and I couldn't hide it, ds1 too because he wanted to know why I keep being sick and the childminder in case he talks about it with her. No one else, I prefer to wait until 12 weeks, but I should really tell my mum or she'll be offended! I'm about 8+3 now.

Sorry ember another one here who threw up until I gave birth. I gave birth at 27+2 last time and I remember feeling so guilty that as well as the fear for my ds coming so early, I felt relief that I wasn't pregnant anymore. I felt human again as soon as I gave birth.

Last time we didn't tell anyone until 12 week scan. This time we've told both sides of family, work and quite a few close friends. I've been feeling so rough I can't socialise and sick of making excuses, and they would all be there for me if something went wrong.

Also we've told both sets of parents, my brother and sil, our closest friends and my grandma.

We haven't told anyone yet. I'm torn between waiting until we know what's happening or telling close family and friends now for support. Last time we didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks but I'd prefer to tell them earlier this time.

Oh wow potatoes, those are some very bizarre dreams! I can't imagine giving birth to a stick insect!

Happy to hear I'm not the only spotty faced, picky eater! Put a bit of make up on today so I feel a brand better about it!

We've not told anybody yet, we're going to wait until the 12 week scan so I have a little while to wait and fingers crossed everything goes okay. We have an idea to write a Mother's Day card and inside write 'grand' above the 'happy mothers day' but as I'll be the first to make my mum a granny (and I'm the youngest!) and give it to her on Mother's Day but she's a bit unpredictable with her reactions so not sure it's a good idea!

Feelin so sick this morning I have got so much to do but can't make it off the sofa. Kitchen is making me gag. Can't stomach anything and scared to brush my teeth. Sympathising so much with those in the same/worse positions. Not sure how I'm going to get through a weekend of supposed socialising without telling my friends. Have only told my parents, PIL sister and my best friend so far.

I feel less sick this morning, so now obviously panicking! :s

Feeling much better today... Thanks for the words of encouragement! Also got this today which I never got to with my miscarriage :)

Thanks again ladies!

Have a good weekend everyone and hope any nasty symptoms give you a break