2nd Nov is really soon Fox, mine isn't until the 15th. I wish it'd come around sooner. I could afford the private scan as it's only £75 but I'm just waiting for the normal one despite being super paranoid at the moment... I was really ill with a fever a couple of weeks ago and I'm worried this could've affected the fetal development. But DH pointed out that having a scan sooner isn't going to make any difference to the baby even if it would put my mind at rest.
I guess it depends how close you are with your family. If something went wrong at this stage would you want to tell them anyway? Or would you rather them not know? I have told my mum already as she'd be the first person I'd call if something bad happened. But I haven't told my dad (they're separated) or other family members as I didn't want too many people to know until I've had the first scan.
My in laws visited last weekend and they kind of guessed I think, as they asked why I couldn't eat a certain food, but we didn't actually confirm it, we sort of raised an eyebrow, made a crap excuse, blushed and changed the subject, they didn't mention anything else.