graduates of the wine-and-shagging-after-mc thread come hither!

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Seeing as practically all of us have now got pg, here is a new home for all of us to come to carry on chatting after getting the BFP after our mcs. Today we are pregnant! :)

Massive good luck for tomorrow one :)

Lots of luck for today one! Will post properly later.

good luck today one!

Good luck today one! Let us know how you are later? Will be here with and

Hey guys, thanks for all the well wishes and biscuits and tea, will scoff them while I lick my wounds, dust myself off and get ready for the next bit of this mmc to take place. Pease don't let my news bring you down off your clouds at all. You have all been lovely, brave people I've been lucky to have for this time and I will undoubtedly lurk from time to time to see how all you are getting on!

Oh one I am so so sorry :( There is nothing I can say at all I know but if we can be here for you at all we will.

one you are kidding. Am so sorry, I can't tell you how angry and upset I am for you :(

sending you the biggest hugs and I can't imagine you will want to post here really but if you could let us know how you are we would love that. Will you be ok? Do you have lots of support and can take time off work?

gutted for you lovely :( :(

Oh one.

So so sorry. Truly devastated for you.

As the others have said, please let us know how you are? So sorry.

one am truly gutted for you. Life is so unfair, I really thought this was your time. I'll be thinking about you & mentally sending you courage to deal with this. You've been so strong before, I'm sure you can get through this, but I really wish you didn't have to. Hope your lovely DP is ok too & you can support each other. Please do post if you want to but dont if you dont. Lots of love xxx

Thanks, I do feel like I'll be ok. It's not the shock/suprise/horror of last time and I feel stronger having been through it before. I've prepared for this, have planned for it over the last couple of weeks (which includes a diet!) and am not without my sense of humour... I said to my lovely OH yesterday "I won in one way, that awful mw did not take my blood!" and I have taken at least the next 2 days off to work out what/when. Take very good care of yourselves.

Love,

One

oh one

I admire your strength and attitude. Do remember though that if you feel down and shitty and angry you can go with those feelings too, they are just as healthy and necessary. Thinking of you x

I'm gutted for you one . I'm glad to hear you are sounding strong though but do take as much time out of work as you need. I wish you all the best for the coming days and hope you have as smooth a time of it as possible x
Thanking of you.

one you are being so brave and sensible about this. I am full of admiration. I hope the next few days are ok, and go as well as they possibly can. I am glad you are keeping your sense of humour - you'll know how to deal with the midwives next time! I sincerely hope there will be a next time, and soon. You'll be a great mum. Have , and .

thinking of you today one x

How is everyone doing? What a terrible blow for one, I just didn't expect that. I keep having dreams about it.
I was convinced I wouldn't hear a heartbeat when the midwife came over yesterday, but all seemed well. I am now booked for home birth & have a stamp in my notes to say so!
Not much else to say - been thinking a lot about one and how she must be feeling. Hope everyone is well & bumps are good.

hey boo. I just feel so down for one, I realy can't believe it and will miss her loads, she is so kind. I just hope she is ok.

Was it your 16 wk appt? Am glad it went well for you, congrats :) Am so glad to have a HB buddy! Am under consultant-led care atm but am confident I will be discharged when 30 something weeks and have my homebirth (oh - presuming this placenta shifts or I'll be having a CS! the opposite experience!)

all is otherwise ok here tho am getting into a wee tizz about the fact I can't feel any movement yet really. So many second timers on the May AN board are having flutters now! Oh! hang on - I just had an odd teeny nudge! oh hurray for that and what a weird coincidence. I hope it was bubs!

finished my PhD thesis the other day so have been trying to relax :) Not that good at it - I feel terrible often, like I am skiving! Will have it back with suggestions for improvement on friday and then into the final month of editing - then am off for EVER. weird!

epic post!

ice I hope you are ok? have you had some down time yet?

I really want to go skiing!

Hi all. I've been thinking about one lots too. She has been such a great friend to us all and I hope she is due some better news in the coming year.

How would you feel about having a CS wilde? I've been thinking about it a bit just in case. Still hoping for that calm water birth though. I'm sure the kicks will pick up soon. I'm 25 weeks today and they are so powerful now, I think she's trying to kick a hole in me :) excellent that you have finished writing your thesis. Celebration this weekend?

boo glad all is well with you and you heard the heartbeat again. Not long until your next scan. Will you be finding out the sex? How about you wilde?

I have a sudden craving for very healthy food so am going to find a why to get lots of spinach into everything this weekend :) lots to do again though unfortunately but at least I slept until 9 today. A record!

ice how are you getting on?

oh i can't wait to hear good news from one. And my other friends who mc'ed.

yoyo sheldon. hmmmmmm having a CS would be WIERD as I am really, really into natural birth - HB obvs as with DS, wouldn't let anyone induce me if it came to that; love Ina May and am really fightened of hospitals and medicalised birth! BUT what has to be has to be and tbh with all the mc's etc I am a bit different now... I just crave a healthy baby, however it comes. Would be sad to have a scar tho as my tummy is my best bit in normal life (is that super duper vain?!!!) I dn't know anything about CS but will start reading up after 20 week scan if placenta not shifted and try and make it positive :) any experiences anyone???

yay for craving healthy stuff! i slept until 9 too and we have to be out of the door for an NCT meet up (all our babies are turning 3 now!) er, NOW. feel a million times better for sleeping tho. and have a cute bump today.

thanks for the congrats :) am not celebrating as such but if i wasn't pg I would be very, very drunk! we had a nice takeaway and am just trying to relax - is strangely difficult having felt worried for so many years. and am worried about how awful it is but hey, I wrote it and even if I was incapable of writing another thing between now and NYE I have something to hand in!

the friends who sprung their baby announcement on us all on a projector screen at their wedding a week after I Mc'ed just had their baby. I hate them a little bit! this is awful isn't it. even tho my EDD came and went last tues and I was ok! them having theirs has pissed me off and made me sad. And wildly grateful for my bump. I hope I get some weird wriggles again today to reassure me, had a few yesterday and last night :) am a cow aren't I.

hope the weather isn't freaking you out too much

Hello!

I read the messages yesterday but didn't have time to post. Yes it was my 16 week appt, wild. I haven't been having much (if any) movement, so I really wouldn't worry. When the midwife listened in she said 'oh it's moving around a lot' and showed me what it sounded like. She said I probably just didn't feel it as I was pretty busy (I had DD2 with me and she was illustrating as much). Anyway, I am kind of sceptical about movements as I often think it's just something stomach related or wind, or shifting innards (!) It's not really until you get proper kicks that it's particularly satisfying, I reckon. The midwife said feeling movement around 20 weeks was pretty normal, so don't let it worry you.

Well done for finishing phd!! Excellent work! I hope you are basking in post work glow... or something!

Re CS - I know what you mean, wild - I was pretty gutted last time at one point when they falsely said she was breach and it might have to be CS. But this time I just want a healthy baby. I think any scarring is very low down, so you should be ok in a bikini!

sheldon glad you are having healthy cravings - I need those to start! I will find out the sex - am too nosy not to! Will be good to have a serious think about names too. Next scan is 27 Dec.

Anyway, better go - I have a tetchy DH wanting to catch up on The Killing from last night while DD2 sleeps. Yes am really hoping that one gets a successful pregnancy soon. I hope she knows she can post on here if she wants to. It made me slightly regret moving the thread from the conception section, though I'm not sure of the etiquette on that.

ok then boo! I won't worry :) Sometimes I get weird feelings and then nothing for days. my 16 week appt is on tues eek.

I haven't finished the PhD yet, just written it and sent to to Supervisor to check for glaring errors/omissions. will still need to edit but is ok. am doing xmas/DS b'day plans this week while off. lovely.

I will find out the sex too! i wish I knew when the scan was, will be 20 weeks on xmas day so would really like to know when the appt is so can make plans as that, obviously, comes first but would like to start house hunting in cornwall late dec/early jan too :)

Hmmm... am glad we moved the thread from conception; i felt I couldn't talk about the nice bits of being pg/worries/moans about sickness etc in a ttc-after-mc thread, felt waaaaaay too smug . one would so much be super welcome to chat about ttc here tho, of course!!!!

went to my NCT meet and was so weird them all knowing and congratulating me on being pg. as i am away from friends and family all congrats and discussions have been on email/text so was weird to talk about it face to face, and have the menfolk congratulating DH. I was really shy about it all!

I feel shy about it too wild, always have. It's slightly like saying 'I had sex!' I know it's not really but I can't seem to forget that part!

Anyway, sorry I got wrong end of stick re phd - at least you are on home straight. When is your deadline?

Yes I am sure you are right about moving thread.

Morning everyone. Wow, I don't feel like I will ever sleep a whole night again. Every night I wake up with something hurting :-( It was quite nice while I was trying to sleep yesterday though, I had my hand on my belly and I think I felt a knee or elbow or something as it stuck out for a few seconds :)
Hope your appointment is lovely today wilde and you get to hear the heartbeat. I have heard DD 3 times now and it is amazing every time. I have my 25 week appointment on Thursday, don't know what this one involved but I really want to listen again.
boo How lovely to have a post xmas scan. Lovely time to find out what you are having. I think we have decided on a name now although people keep telling me that we might change our minds when we see her. I hope not as I really love the name.
I can't believe it is nearly December now, the months really are flying by. I think after xmas I'm going to be hit by the reality of actually giving birth in the not too distant future. The thought of a section is pretty scary but I'm telling myself there is no point in worrying too much as I won't have that much control in that situation. I've had major surgery before and would like to avoid having it again :)

boo yes I understand about the sex thing, I feel like that when I have to tell work, it's hideous.

I told my supervisor that I am pg on an email but he has completely ignored it. so either he hates me being pg and won't even mention it or he didn't read the email! 'eck. am not mentioning it again!

sheldon am sorry you are so uncomfortable at the mo. can you get any decent painkillers to help? How exciting and lovely that you have chosen a name Can't wait to find out! We know our girl's name too, but don't have any at all for boys tho I hunt around :) so it will surely be a boy! the girl's name is really flexible, for any kind of personality, very rare and actually unisex so think whatever this munchkin looks like (if it is a girl) it will fit. Anyway, it is yopur baby and you have a feeling for things so whose business is it to say whether it will or won't work?!!

sheldon are you going to have a section?! remind me, am thick atm. and of your EDD?!

hope you are ok ice?

I never did hear from chuckle :(

waves to one

AFM i had my 16 week appt which was gorgeous. Heard the HB which was strong and perfect. so happy, happy. DH recorded it too! That will be my version of whale music when am stressed . She also booked me in for a 24 week appt even tho as a second time mum I normally wouldn't be seen until 28 weeks, so I can't get too anxious which is so lovely. Even tho I was saying I'll be ok once I get kicks just because I had expressed a slight worry she booked me in :). And I got a homebirth pack and will get some info on workshops and meet other homebirth mumz which will be nice.

Am crying at the drop of a hat today! Oh crikey, hormone alert.

was a day out on my reckoning of how pg I am, am 5+6 today, not 16 weeks as I thought. How on earth I did that I don't know. feel absurdly miffed at being put back a day

take care my lovelies

wilde No not planning on a section but just scaring myself with all the possible outcomes! Bad habit of mine :) I would ideally like a nice natural water birth but I guess I should keep an open mind. There is a lovely new birthing centre at my local hospital with a pool in every room so that would be my preferred choice. EDD is 9th March.
Yay for the heartbeat! Lovely idea to record it. DH tried to video our 20 week scan but he got told off. Sounds like you have a nice midwife there.
Yeah, on names we have been using her name so much that I can't imagine her to be called anything else. I think the only way we would change is if she turned out to be a boy.
ice How are you getting on?

sheldon stop frightening yourself :) am glad you aren't having to have one - I didn't think you were but am easily confused today. How were your previous labours?

your birthing centre sounds fab - a pool in every room?! woot!

I have eaten four packets of french fries today. (the crisps, not maccy dees or owt!). I weighed myself this morning and bizarrely still haven't put any weight on so it seems I am now actively addressing this anomaly

yeah, the MWs here are lovely and were with DS too. I wonder about how we will move once DS is settled into his fab nursery and I am happily esconced with my MWs, homebirthing set and loving being a SAHM (crocheting all day while DS is at nursery). We are being sucked in!